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simplewhispers -> Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 2:48:05 PM)
if you allow someone to fuck your ass? Does it make him less manly? Just curious.

sissyworm -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 2:49:11 PM)
i certainly would think it makes You less of a man. I know it makes me feel that way to have something in my ass!

jeff44311 -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 2:51:41 PM)
No, it does not make you less manly. But, some people will think so. And, most people do care what others think. Whether it makes you feel less manly is up to you.

juliaoceania -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 2:52:02 PM)
I am unsure of what you are asking... Are you asking if it makes my Daddy less of a man because I let him ravage me anally? Or are you asking if a man allows someone to have anal sex with him, if that makes him less of a man? I will tell you what makes a man a man... having an X and a Y chromosome

simplewhispers -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 2:54:13 PM)
clarification. Male Dom being ass fucked by another male or female. Does that make him less manly to you ?

kyraofMists -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 2:57:11 PM)
Which question are you wanting answered? Does it make them less manly or less dominant? Dominance doesn't have much to do with gender. I don't think engaging in anal sex makes a man less manly. I don't think engaging in anal sex makes a dominant less 'domly'. I wouldn't enjoy being in a relationship with a dominant that did things because I allowed it. That gives me the authority and it is not the type of relationship I was seeking. Knight's Kyra

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 2:57:45 PM)
I don't find gay men to be less manly. Don't find straight men who take it up the ass to be less manly. Don't find penetration has anything to do with masculinity for me. And your title uses the word "domly" while the so talks about "manly". They are not synonymous in my book.

simplewhispers -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 3:02:29 PM)
because I am seeking men only my question was based on male Doms. Dom = Manly to me.

juliaoceania -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 3:05:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: simplewhispers clarification. Male Dom being ass fucked by another male or female. Does that make him less manly to you ? It would be ignorant to have such ideas in my opinion. Anal sex is enjoyable because the anal cavatity is filled with nerve endings in both sexes. In men the prostate gland is stimulated and this can make anal sex even more enjoyable for men then for women. Enjoying anal sex has nothing to do with being gay, btw, it has to do with the way human anatomy works... And being gay does not mean one is less of whatever gender they belong to... it does not make women less womanly to be lesbian, and it does not make men less manly to be gay. If my Daddy ever requested this stimulation from me I would not feel him less dominant for it, it would just mean that was what he wanted from me....he has never requested it, but if he did I would not freak out about it because I am educated about human sexuality....

simplewhispers -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 3:07:32 PM)
opinion appreciated.

simplewhispers -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 3:09:51 PM)
perhaps its only vanilla men that I have heard say "nothing goes up my ass" not from hurtful attempts but because its not the norm. More accepted in the lifestyle?

PhoenixRed -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 3:13:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: simplewhispers clarification. Male Dom being ass fucked by another male or female. Does that make him less manly to you ? Nope, not less manly at all. It is just one of a varied plethera of sexual acts that anyone (male or female) may enjoy. If it feels good to him, as it does for many men, being fucked in that way is his perogative. It doesn't matter if it is something he requires his submissive to do, or that he does with another sexual partner. Doesn't matter if it's in the context of his D/s relationship or in the context of a "vanilla" encounter. If it's something he desires, then I say go for it. I love fucking my male submissives with my strap-on. They are all masculine, manly males, before and after I fuck them. My view of their masculinity never changes with regard to anything that we do.

SirJohnMandevill -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 3:38:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: simplewhispers perhaps its only vanilla men that I have heard say "nothing goes up my ass" not from hurtful attempts but because its not the norm. More accepted in the lifestyle? I'm certainly not vanilla, and I don't play that way. But to answer your OP, it's your perception that counts. Less of a "man" in fact? No, of course not. If you think that way, though, you need to discuss it with Him. Les (Illegitimate son of Penn & Teller)

AFlyInYourWeb -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 4:00:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: simplewhispers perhaps its only vanilla men that I have heard say "nothing goes up my ass" not from hurtful attempts but because its not the norm. More accepted in the lifestyle? What is the "norm" in the general population is not necessarily the norm in WIITWD, and that disparity extends to far more than just what goes up whose ass. What is more usually the "norm" in a D/s relationship is embodied in your tag-line: "Thy will be done ............." If any act pleases the Dominant partner, it is "dominant behavior" when they get whatever it is that pleases them. As for the "manly" aspect of it, try to remember that Alexander the Great was among the important historical figures who enjoyed anal play.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 4:02:38 PM)
If you like anal stimulation, then that is something you like. Why would a guy be less manly because he liked a little prostate massage?

windchymes -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 6:01:41 PM)
A guy who starts whining about "nothing goes back there, it's an exit only!) doesn't seem any more or less dominant, but he does seem really wussy to me. It turns me on to know that a guy enjoys the inner stimulation and craves it on occasion.

Lumus -> RE: Less of a DOM? (12/1/2007 10:32:12 PM)
Side-comment: I'm not interested in having anyone touch my butt at all, and it's likely because I was raped at a young age. I'm over that now, but I'm still not comfortable with anything near my ass. This doesn't define my manliness, ability to perform as a Dominant, or make me a wuss. Nor does it make me homophobic. It just means I have a preference which makes sense to me and with which I'm comfortable. Exit only for me, and that's just another label - and labels inherently have no power, although they can be given power depending on how they are used, n'est pas?

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