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Muttling -> Disciplinary Advice and Thoughts Requested (12/1/2007 10:37:06 PM)
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Greetings all and thanks to those who read this post (I appreciate your consideration even if you don't respond)........
I am a submissive leaning switch and I have a dear friend who lives about 4 hours drive from me. We met through a kink web site and share many interests, but never pursued it because of the distance. As of yesterday, we decided that we would give things an opportunity and see where they lead us. I'm excited about this, but also a bit nervous.......
Enough background, here's the gravy......
She wants a partner who will give here vanilla love and compassion (no problem, I can do that with ease) but also be a bit of a disciplinarian for her. (ummm....Not my expertise but I'm certainly interested in doing it and I want to do it right.)
I greatly welcome this opportunity and want her to serves the same role in my life. She has expressed a similar willingness.
My question is one for the experienced domme's among us. What tips and suggestions do you have for two submissives who want to play disciplinarian to one another?
My initial reaction to her was that we first and foremost must establish a trusting relationship then let the kink aspects grow. My second reaction was that the we both need to establish goals for ourselves, methods for measuring our goals, and appropriate punishment/reward for performance. The other would be more of an implementor of the things we set out for ourselves.....HOWEVER....
I want the implementor to be able to say what is and is not reasonable. I want the implementor to have final say in what is too light and what is too heavy.
I think we have a great concept going, but I have no idea as to how to make it work. Any thoughts, experiences, ideas, or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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