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Vendaval -> Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/2/2007 4:33:22 PM)
Greetings A/all and a question for the other Dominants, Do you find yourself evaluating the service staff in stores and restaurants as potential submissives? I notice their attitude, eye contact, posture and efficiency, along with the spankability of their ass cheeks. (And no, not just at stripper's bars and Hooters!) Then I imagine them naked or in short slave tunics with collars around their necks, kneeling in bondage.... Bottoms up, Vendaval

topcat -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/2/2007 5:13:46 PM)
M. Vendaval, I assume everyone I encounter is a submissive. It's a safe bet, but I am often disappointed. Stay warm, Lawrence

Elorin -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/2/2007 5:21:53 PM)
Oddly enough, I don't, but I had a fun experience with someone else who does. He recognized a girl as very submissive, and chastized her for something she did. She apologized, and he told her to go stand in a corner. And...to my utter delight and shock? She did. ~E

MasterKalif -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/2/2007 5:25:03 PM)
That is interesting Elorin, where did this happen? At a restaurant? public place, private quarters? Just curious.

MasterKalif -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/2/2007 5:26:13 PM)
Sometimes when I walk to work in Manhattan, I look into other peoples eyes and there are a few women who look at me and then quickly look down, but in the brisk pace of life I wonder if they are submissive in nature or if its my mind playing tricks on me....

chiaThePet -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/2/2007 5:31:14 PM)
Now just imagine they catch you checking out their ass cheeks and do things to your food in the kitchen that you could never dream of. Submissively speaking of course. chia* (the pet)

Elorin -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/2/2007 5:32:27 PM)
Kalif This was a waitress at a restaurant.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/2/2007 6:44:44 PM)
It's fun as a fantasy, but would be rude to try and take those ideas and push them into reality IMO.

Kumasan2 -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/2/2007 9:15:55 PM)
During my time working at a large medical school with a VERY large teaching hospital attached to it, I noticed that many of the nurses seemed to be submissive. At least they were submissive to those who weren't in their care. Those people got the best treatment but it was decidedly from a Domme's point of view. When you're just sitting around and talking to them though, they go out of their way to serve and help. Always gratifying. It helps, too, that I 've known more than a few nurses who were lifestyle subs as well.

HalloweenWhite -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/3/2007 5:14:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Vendaval Greetings A/all and a question for the other Dominants, Do you find yourself evaluating the service staff in stores and restaurants as potential submissives? I notice their attitude, eye contact, posture and efficiency, along with the spankability of their ass cheeks. (And no, not just at stripper's bars and Hooters!) Then I imagine them naked or in short slave tunics with collars around their necks, kneeling in bondage.... Bottoms up, Vendaval Thats how I spend My saturday mornings at the local shopping centre lol. Probably why, come sunday or monday, I think to Myself "I must do a proper shop", I spend waaaay too much time day dreaming!. lol.

RumpusParable -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/3/2007 7:58:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Vendaval Greetings A/all and a question for the other Dominants, Do you find yourself evaluating the service staff in stores and restaurants as potential submissives? I notice their attitude, eye contact, posture and efficiency, along with the spankability of their ass cheeks. (And no, not just at stripper's bars and Hooters!) Then I imagine them naked or in short slave tunics with collars around their necks, kneeling in bondage.... Bottoms up, Vendaval No, because I've no idea their orientation and am always very uncomfortable with wait-staff, in general. I don't do well with people (other than my spouse) that are not submissive to me serving me (and am still learning to go with the flow, even after all these years, when someone else's submissive does something for me in that mode but that's still better than someone not in the mode). So, as much as I like being waited on in restaurants and spas and such, them being automatic "equals" I am uneasy with the situation and having those sorts of thoughts doesn't normally apply.

MistressMelissa -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/3/2007 8:18:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Vendaval Greetings A/all and a question for the other Dominants, Do you find yourself evaluating the service staff in stores and restaurants as potential submissives? I notice their attitude, eye contact, posture and efficiency, along with the spankability of their ass cheeks. (And no, not just at stripper's bars and Hooters!) Then I imagine them naked or in short slave tunics with collars around their necks, kneeling in bondage.... Bottoms up, Vendaval Greetings, One night while I was on the road I pulled into a truck stop for some dinner. I was reading one of the Gor books while I enjoyed my meal. The waitress had forgotten my Parmesan cheese for my lasagna and when I reminder her of it, she apologized and ran off to get it. Out of the corner of my eye I caught her as she knelt by my table and "presented" me my cheese. I simply took it from her saying "thank you", she bowed her head in acknowledgment then hoped up to tend the rest of her tables. Since then, I came off the road and have not been back, but there is a truck stop in Kentucky with a very special waitress. I believe many with submissive personalities tend to gravitate toward jobs where they can be of service to others. I watch for it all the time. I also watch for the ones that quickly pick up on the dynamic between me and my house and rapidly focus their attention on me to answer all of their questions. They often receive a generous tip and I will ask for them when possible. But other than a tease or a bit of flirting, I do not feel it proper to assume anything beyond that.

DesFIP -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/3/2007 8:51:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterKalif Sometimes when I walk to work in Manhattan, I look into other peoples eyes and there are a few women who look at me and then quickly look down, but in the brisk pace of life I wonder if they are submissive in nature or if its my mind playing tricks on me.... I always think Manhattanites who deliberately invade other's personal space are muggers assessing victims or crazies. In a place with as little personal space as Manhattan, such an invasion is rude in the extreme.

scottjk -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/3/2007 12:11:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kumasan2 During my time working at a large medical school with a VERY large teaching hospital attached to it, I noticed that many of the nurses seemed to be submissive. At least they were submissive to those who weren't in their care. Those people got the best treatment but it was decidedly from a Domme's point of view. When you're just sitting around and talking to them though, they go out of their way to serve and help. Always gratifying. It helps, too, that I 've known more than a few nurses who were lifestyle subs as well. I've noticed the same thing, myself. At least in online chat and a few offline. (Had a short relationship with a nurse at one point. Long story. Utter nightmare. Don't ask.) Most often I discover that most subs choose a service role of some kind for a career, nursing being high on the list. While I'm certain that there are plenty of subs in executive positions, I get the feeling they're in the minority. As for evaluating service staff? All the time. Aside from visual aesthetics, I most often observe the neck, and how it might look with a locked collar on it. Some women have the most wonderful necks! :)

goodgirl08 -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/3/2007 2:16:07 PM)
Looking at service staff that way is slightly unsettling to me because wage slavery is not too sexy to me. Not that everyone in the service industry IS a wage slave, but there are plenty of people for whom there's no other choice. The underclass of our society truly are slaves in many senses and that's tragic. I would tend to expect those who choose service careers (helping others on a deeper level than bringing them a meal) to be more naturally submissive as opposed to submissive only when they're at work. Nurses, social workers, me...

KindLadyGrey -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/3/2007 2:52:31 PM)
I actually wish most of them were. Every time I get a pedicure I think "I would enjoy this so much more if I knew the person doing it was enjoying it too." Ditto with professional massages. Sometimes you get one of those waiters that really seems to enjoy serving. Maybe they are just very good actors, or maybe they really do enjoy serving. Either way, it always makes a dining experience more pleasant if it seems like the server is enjoying the act of service. I've had more than one cute waiter I wished I could bring home with me!

Knite64 -> RE: Evaluating service staff as potential submissives (12/3/2007 4:15:21 PM)
To shed some light on the subject of Restaurant service staff based on 25 years as a Chef and seeing these "submissive! waiters/waitresses" behind the scenes ,I can categorically state that there are very few submissives serving you your steak(hell Id be in My element if they were)These guys and girls are entrepenuers and there aim is to maximise there tips/gratuities and if you ve pissed one of them off you can bet your last dollar there in the Kitchen bitching to their Chef boyfriend/girlfriend about the asshole on table 5[:D]....off duty and partying there certainly not submissive either!. goodgirl makes a very valid point in mentioning wage slavery as some of these staff are on mnimium wages and frankly its not a submissive nature your seeing but a poor individual that works to pay the rent and really does nt want to be there in the first place. Hope I have nt burst anyones bubble but thats how it is.

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