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TreasureKY -> RE: References -Good Idea or Bad? (12/2/2007 8:31:25 PM)
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I suppose if you have references that you can offer, that is fine, but I personally don't have much use for them. I've done enough reference checking on prospective employees to know just how worthless they can be. Not saying they always are, but can be.
Reposted from a prior thread:
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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY
... I've always wondered just how those telephone conversations would go if I called a prospective partner's references...
*telephone rings*
Reference: "Hello?"
Me: *clears throat* "Ummm... yes... My name is losttreasure and I'm currently considering being with Joe in a relationship that will involve sex. I understand that you and he were once together?"
Reference: "Uhhh... yeah."
Me: "Good. Well, he has given me your name and information so that I could contact you. I'd like to ask you a few questions about your impressions of Joe, if you have a minute?"
Reference: "What kind of questions?"
Me: "Well... I'm trying to gauge if he's really capable of doing what he says he can do, or if he's just bragging. You know how men can be." *implied wink by tone of voice*
Reference: *hesitation* "What he can do? Such as?"
Me: *clears throat again* "Hmmm... let me see... he says that he can have me panting with lust, drooling from both ends, and promising ANYTHING to get off... that he will spend hours playing with me, building that lust, and have me reduced to a spasming cunt. Does that sound about right in your experience?"
Reference: *peal of laughter followed by coughing fit* "He said all that, did he? Hmmm... Look, Joe's a great guy... don't get me wrong. He is very capable in...er... that area; I don't have any complaints. But, well... you know about men and their egos, don't you? It's kinda like that cock size thing... thinking if they dazzle us enough we'll believe that five inches is really nine."
Me: *snorts with laughter* "Yeah... personally I've never had the heart to call any of them on it."
Reference: "I know what you mean. Well, like I said, Joe is a great guy. We just didn't have enough in common to keep things going on the outside. Perhaps you'll have better luck there."
Me: "Perhaps. Thanks for your time, though. Bye."
Okay, that was just done in fun, but my point was to illustrate how absurd I think it is to approach a relationship like a job. It might be an entirely different story if you are simply checking out a play partner and their reference was advised that you will call. Then again, I would also firmly believe that the reference I was contacting was carefully culled and selected for the purpose of giving only a good reference... and left wondering about the possible bad references that were passed over. I mean, why else give a reference?
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