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Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/3/2007 8:04:41 AM

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What makes you want to turn a fantasy into a real life fetish?

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/3/2007 8:07:08 AM

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I fantised about clawing the skin off of my mans back all the time, but i know what would happen if i did it
so its not gonna happen... pull those nails back Pet!

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/3/2007 8:17:20 AM

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There are fantasies that I would never want to happen or wish on people I hate. Then there are fantasies that can be done in reality.

It has been my experience that some fantasies that come true are never as good then in my mind and some that exceed it. If I had not tried to make fantasies into realities I would have probably never bumped into this life which is a best fit for me or things that I enjoy on a regular basis because the fantasies urged me on.

I will always choose turning a realistic fantasy into real life because real life is far more enjoyable on a whole then day dreaming.

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/3/2007 8:41:07 AM

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I would say that 90% of my fantasies I don't want to come true...best they stay in my sick, twisted brain...in reality, emotionally I wouldn't be able to bear them...

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/3/2007 8:47:13 AM

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Most of them aren't meant to be reality. If I was going to pick one to do, it would have to be something not much farther than what we've already done. But doing it on a deserted Hawaiian beach would work!

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/3/2007 9:10:11 AM

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I've lived a lot of my fantasies, fortunately, and the reason was because they were unignorable desires (and there was no reason to not do them).

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/3/2007 10:15:26 AM

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What makes you want to turn a fantasy into a real life fetish?

Applying the standard TOS violating, law breaking, caveats...

It prevents me from telling the worst lies. The lies of self deceit and false belief.

For example, I once shot a 68 playing Pebble Beach golf course on a simulator hitting golf balls into a screen and having a computer calculate direction and distance. Between shots I relaxed, sat down and enjoyed food and beverages served by a cute waitress wearing a tiny cut off top and abbreviated hot pants. Although I had to hit every shot and putt every putt, the 'lie' was always perfect and the ground always level. The score represented PURE fantasy. The 108 I recorded playing the course in person on a breezy day represented reality. I enjoyed and talk about the reality. I laugh about the fantasy.

There are many who live with, accept and promote deceit within their life; I'd rather face reality. The 'fantasies' unfulfilled are few and only not experienced because they haven't presented an opportunty...yet.

You can't beat reality! The worst experience of fulfilling a fantasy is always preferred compared to the feeling of regret and longing which results after realizing the time and opportunity for the experience has passed. The resentment toward the person or persons who block the opportunity is measurable; as is the trust and good will felt toward the person or persons who help facilitate making fantasies - reality.

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 12:57:12 AM

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Another thought has occurred to me since writing the last question - doe slavery have to go with the fantasy?

If you are a slave, does this mean you basically no longer have your own life? If so are you then effectively dropping out of society?

Or do most people just keep their fetish and satisfy it within their existing life?

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 1:01:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: racer27

Another thought has occurred to me since writing the last question - doe slavery have to go with the fantasy?

glad it acurred to you because I totaly dont understand the question...

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If you are a slave, does this mean you basically no longer have your own life? If so are you then effectively dropping out of society?

slave does not mean the same as it did 200 years ago... it doesnt mean that you are locked away against your will and cannot leave the property

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Or do most people just keep their fetish and satisfy it within their existing life?

I try to work the fetishes that are possible into my life, there is nothing in one that would interfere with the other...

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 1:04:26 AM

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What makes you want to turn a fantasy into a real life fetish?

Hmmmm....I'm more than happy to experience a safe and sane fantasy..

On a secondary note.....What makes you so scared of your fantasies that you don't want to turn them into real life?

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 1:06:46 AM

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On a secondary note.....What makes you so scared of your fantasies that you don't want to turn them into real life?

I had been thinking that myself, but I just didnt ask...

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 1:21:07 AM

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There are plenty of fantasies that should never ever be acted upon. We have laws to protect the innocent that would be victims of such fantasies, and jails to put those that would act upon thoughts because they cannot distinguish fantasy from reality, or feel compelled to make their fantasy a reality.

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 1:29:52 AM

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There are plenty of fantasies that should never ever be acted upon. We have laws to protect the innocent that would be victims of such fantasies, and jails to put those that would act upon thoughts because they cannot distinguish fantasy from reality, or feel compelled to make their fantasy a reality.

And that is what seperates the safe, sane, and consensual from the i don't know whats.

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 1:31:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: Phin

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ORIGINAL: Muttling

On a secondary note.....What makes you so scared of your fantasies that you don't want to turn them into real life?

I had been thinking that myself, but I just didnt ask...

Didn't you say I was ugly on another thread??????

You love me and you know it. You're just scared to admit it......or you can't say it in a safe, sane, and consensual way.

EDIT: Mutt's in a funky mood tonight amd partaking of the Jack.

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 2:02:19 AM

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What makes you want to turn a fantasy into a real life fetish?

Once, many years ago, man had a fantasy that he could fly. Thanks to the Wright Brothers, that fantasy is a reality and we are better for it.

Many here have a fantasy that we can live in a world where we willingly give control to another. Those of us who've taken this step feel better for it.

I know I do.

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 2:13:47 AM

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To answer this I think you need to ask what makes a fantasy a fantasy in the first place. According to My Encatra dictionary a fantasy is " the creation of mental images in response to an ungratified need".

So....a fantasy is something W/we would like to do, have done to U/us but are unable to because it's either illegal, immoral, physically impossible, unsafe or in some other way, unrealistic.

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 2:58:57 AM

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I once had a discussion with somebody and they asked me a similar question, except it was "what is your greatest dream in life". We talked a little about it, about what the question meant, and he told me that his greatest dream was to be a millionaire. I said, that's not a dream, thats a goal. Dreams are things that cannot be fulfilled, things that we can't do an awful lot practically to manifest, otherwise they would be or should be goals... its kind of the same with fantasies.

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 3:43:59 AM

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I suppose I am currently keeping my fantasy at arms length because it is a fantasy about toilet slavery. I think I probably should not have it but it continually resurfaces no matter what.

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 5:29:26 AM

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Turning fantasy into reality is something humans do. It's part of what defines us as an intelligent, sensient species. Look around you: everything in the room you are in, the device you are reading these words on, ALL of it was imagined by someone and brought into reality to serve a need. This is no different, except that the need is far more personal, than social.

"When you reduce the universe to it's basic components, you won't find a single molecule of love, not an atom of justice. If we don't think these things up, believe in them, and apply them to the real world... how can they ever be?" -Terry Pratchett

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RE: Why make a fantasy real life? - 12/5/2007 5:32:30 AM

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Its just that in this case it is about afairly taboo subject.

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