What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive?

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temptedxdesires -> What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/3/2007 12:40:38 PM)
What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive?

stella41b -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/3/2007 12:42:43 PM)
It depends on the person. I look for a person, find out who they're looking for, and we take it from there.

toservez -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/3/2007 12:56:09 PM)
The same qualities I would look for in a regular person. Then throw in passionate about a power exchange relationship and shares similar desires and reasons for a particular type and way. A good healthy passionate enjoyment of kink, and add in some domineering personality. Mix it in all together and come up with my Master.

Dnomyar -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/4/2007 7:58:10 AM)
If she is naked and at my feet I take that as a good quality.

IrishMist -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/4/2007 8:02:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: temptedxdesires What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? The same qualities I would look for in any person; I don't have special qualities for those of a dominant personality.

AFlyInYourWeb -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/4/2007 8:18:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: temptedxdesires What qualities do you look for in a Dominant...? I look for Caring and Competence. If I am going to put decisions in Her hands, I want to know that She has made mostly good decisions in the past, and is likely to make mostly good decisions for us in the future. If She is a caring person in general, and cares about me in particular, I know I'll be as emotionally and physically "safe" as one can reasonably expect to be. Beyond that, it's a question of compatibility. Do we share multiple interests, within and outside of D/s? Does the conversation and communication flow freely? Are we both having fun knowing each other?

RumpusParable -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/4/2007 8:27:12 AM)
Oh, this varies hugely for me. It depends on what sort of sub I'm looking for or what type of play or how much time I have to devote or... In the most generic sense: Someone genuinely interested in serving Me. Someone that is not purposefully difficult and is generally compatible with the above issues. In the more specific ways? Too many to list, I'd only be able to answer for one type of sub in detail. What I desire in sub X is likely to be extremely different than what I desire in sub Y.

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/4/2007 8:39:19 AM)
Physical and Mental attraction! BDSM interests (is she a kinky bitch), and what the hell do we have in common. Sense of humor is a big plus. Also, if she has any of the qualities I don't want. Is her mindset somewhat healthy and realistic or is she just fucked up in the head. The whole package is what I'm interested in. If I'm not physically attracted to her, Sorry it's just not happening. I know this sounds shallow as hell, but it's truthful. If she has no sense of humor, then sorry it's just not happening. If she's a head case or dumb as a box of rocks, it's not happening either. I'm one shallow bastard with a long list of shit. Oh wait, I meant to say I'm just picky.

rubberpet -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/4/2007 1:15:36 PM)
Obviously, she needs to be dominant. She needs to be: ~ Honest and trustworthy ~ Caring ~ Nurturing ~ Open-minded ~ Loyal ~ Intelligent ~ A whole lot of fun ~ A little goofy ~ Patient ~ Definitely a rubber lover! LOL Check that out! I just described Mistress! How 'bout that? [:D]

breatheasone -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/4/2007 2:46:10 PM)
I personally would never look for a Dominant submissive......[;)]

MistressGayle -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/4/2007 2:50:35 PM)
lol good answer! [:)]

Kana -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/4/2007 2:58:16 PM)
32 year old Bisexual middle atlantic state girls work fine, why do you ask?

CelticPrince -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/5/2007 5:10:30 PM)
temptree, for the "D" it is the classic values of courtesy, candor, honesty, respect etc. I can normally determine in the first 10 minutes if there is a potential match for me. CP

Aslanemperor -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/7/2007 1:04:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: temptedxdesires What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? I am peculiar with the type of submissive I look for. I prefer a submissive who is willing to eventually give me complete control. I don't expect this right away as I believe that any good relationship is based on trust, and trust requires time and proof of the worthiness to recieve that trust. Once a submissive has come to live under my roof however, I expect that trust to have developed. In that situation, I expect my submissives to submit, even if at first it seems a little questionable. Mainly because the submissive should know me well enough by that point to know that I won't point them down a wrong path.

laurell3 -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/7/2007 11:04:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rubberpet Obviously, she needs to be dominant. She needs to be: ~ Honest and trustworthy ~ Caring ~ Nurturing ~ Open-minded ~ Loyal ~ Intelligent ~ A whole lot of fun ~ A little goofy ~ Patient What he said...except not a she and no rubber fetish, although I would put a great sense of humor up there near the top as well.

Sexynmentalinkc -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/7/2007 11:15:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: temptedxdesires What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? Intelligence, sense of humor, looks/attractiveness, like-minded kinks n' such, goofiness, caring....and so much more. None of those really exist in a vacuum though. The quality that rolls all this into one is... A singular ability to ignite my passions and capture my attention (as I would hopefully capture hers). tips his hat - Mr. S

MissAnthropic -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/7/2007 11:31:21 PM)
The most important quality in a Dom imho is honour. It seem's such a small thing but so incredibly rare to find in a human being. To find someone who gives thier word sparingly and cleaves to it with thier life. It goes without saying that this person is honest and reliable. You would always know where you stand. cheers jess

adoracat -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/8/2007 5:33:03 AM)
honor respect trustworthy silly sense of humor loving intelligent caring patient understanding that was in no particular order, and why, yes, i did describe Daddy. [:D] kitten, pleasantly sore

EmpassionedRogue -> RE: What qualities do you look for in a Dominant/submissive? (12/8/2007 10:41:34 AM)
honor, integrity, compassion, strength of character & personality i made poem of just this topic not long ago. one of my better ones i think. used to have it in profile

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