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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 9:14:31 PM

astarri

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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

First and foremost, have no shame in being a submissive male. Be proud of the fact you enjoy pleasing and serving a women. I don't fully understand your fears of Dommes, some of them are wonderful women and some of them are just bitches. Just like us Male Doms, some of us are wonderful people and some of us are just plain assholes. Try not to think to hard in terms of stereotypes.

Being an asshole or bitch, is an equal opportunity thing regardless of race, gender, age or social background.

Wise words to heed.

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 10:41:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: exoticmale

i am not sure how to express this in an appropriate manner, but every time i visit this message board or enter the chat rooms, i see so many Doms. Being a submissive male it makes me wonder why i am not on the other side of the fence. It seems soooo much easier for the Doms. Maybe it's because of my fear of Dommes, i don't know. i was wondering what happened to the chat rooms as they seem to have changed things. Sorry, but i just had to vent a little bit. Now to get permission to do something much more erotic.
subslut greg~

Being on the other side of the fence, I can assure you that if my mentality is "I'm irritated, I think I'll go find a slave to order to do something erotic with me" would probably end up with me in some chat room begging for cybersex, instead of actually being in a relationship.

Focus on women as women, as people, and not strictly sex objects (at least all the time) and you'll probably have a lot more luck finding someone who'll see you as more than her next car payment.

Stephan

I totally agree with this. The last place any sub male with any sense would go look for a Domme is a chatroom. Some Dommes do frequent chatrooms, true, a few will even meet up with a sub male from a chatroom, but you know there's a winner in every horse race but most are losers.

As for being a sub male, I don't see this as an issue. Having a stiff dick doesn't make you a man, but being true to yourself and sharing yourself with others, this is what makes you a man. This is what women look for, not the stiff dick.

I still moderate on a Transgendered chatroom in Poland.. I do two things I provide help, advice and support for TS's, TVs, CDs, sissies, panty wearers, partners and their families and such, and I home in on asap the HNG's and transphobes. I find myself repeating the same mantra over and over and over and over again 'look for the person, not the kink'. I get drawn into long tedious conversations with middle-aged guys who are trying to convince me that sucking a transvestite's dick doesn't change the fact that they're heterosexual, when quite frankly I'm just not that interested but feel I have to protect the interests of the TV/TS community in a country which is very hostile and intolerant towards them. I'm one of about 35 moderators who are mainly TS and the priority of the chatroom is to provide a safe haven for the TV/TS community to be able to have contact with each other and get through on mutual support and help. In a nutshell, if you're male and in a chatroom nobody gives a monkey's about your sexual or erotic needs unless you've got a bulging wallet.

Personally I'd recommend one of four activities - (1) domestic work, (2) gardening, (3) car maintenance and (4) IT or computer skills. Learn something from the quality male Doms, have something to offer.

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/5/2007 2:48:52 AM

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greetings

if you see someone who you see to speak to just ask and if they say no , then try another time i usually have them (slave ) write to me and come on the boards more it is nice and other will get to know you more . i hope it work out for you

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/6/2007 11:59:35 AM

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stella41b. Having a dick dosent make you a man if the dick is a strapon.

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/6/2007 12:41:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I think he wants to be a dom because then dommes would be less scary?

This is better than sudoku!

I disagree. Sudoku is better!

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/6/2007 1:19:08 PM

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Hello exoticmale,

It's not easier for Doms or Dominas, that's part one.

I understand the intimidation you feel when you enter a chatroom on this site. Remember Wwe're all people, and maybe you shouldn't go into the big rooms at once, start in a small one.

I opened a room of My own for that reason, so that I've a great bunch of people around Me, and I would like to invite you in there to have a good talk
Warm greetings

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/6/2007 1:38:55 PM

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Dear LadyPact, Ladies and Gentlemen;

In regard to JAVA, its been a new version that has been having problems keeping people on line as to join a chat room.

Now, to the Ladies and Gentlemen--no one particular individual;

In regard to some who come in chat rooms, guised in different nicks; some do come in and create havoc because they need to be attention vampires and have some chip on their shoulder about this or that. Its a shame male Dominants come in like submissives as to create the need to kick and or ban them because they are extremely insulting, rude and just terrible behavior. People are going to be who and what they are. I am sure women have done the same. I would say, that chat rooms are as good as those who stay in them and carry good exchanges of topics, experiences and questions and answers. Chat rooms are a 'tool' and not a 'life.' Just like forums are a 'tool.'

For those with a 'better than thou' attitude and or 'my way and a closed mind' as far as others go--nothing will please them and will be always negative and discourage others. Jumping in a chatroom and leave within a minute is really not a fair assessment of any situation, and it would equal to peeking in on a dungeon scene for a couple of minutes, make an opinion and then speak as an authority on the matter. To me that is 'drama' and playing games. Using aliases as to enter a chat room, as to harass and upset people, is a shame but, too often a fact and few admit doing such. I've seen one person use two computers and have their own 'fantasy kindergarden like scene.' Only doing a server check, does it manifest its one person creating a lot of nonsense. Its interesting that this seems to come from an area of San Fransisco, California but, its up to the IRCOps to deal with this individual and abuse of the chat room systems. As with anything--people need to make up their own minds based on their own experiences, rather on other's 'say so.' I encourage 'independent' knowledge, skills and or judgments. There will always be some people who like to ruin things for others but--that is life; here on the forums, on any chat room and or in any community situation.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/6/2007 1:52:25 PM

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Dear exoticmale, Ladies and Gentlemen;

If men could figure out women; there wouldn't be such a high volume of books on how to understand women. Nor would there be plenty of books for women who are trying to understand men.

Before being Dominants--women are women and men are men.

I cannot answer to all of the chat rooms however, the one I go to has a flow all its own. The temperment of the chat room is due to those involved inside that chat room at that moment. Like any constant round the clock room, people will come and go and people are all unique individuals.

What I do know from visiting chat rooms in the past on one of my sleepless nights; that nobody likes a person to come in and make a drama. Those who whine and complain every minute they type and have the need to be the focus all the time; will find themeselves on the outside or just put on ignored and whatever they type is invisible.

Treat a chat room like an open lobby to a hotel at a convention. Nobody will always talk of BDSM, people have other things to speak about.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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