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RE: taking pain - 12/5/2007 8:26:52 AM

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I never think of my preference, but of my will. My girl never thinks in terms of anything except that the pain she suffers is her gift to me. True, I love her cries, but equally I might order her not to cry out. Our journey together is to be one of mutual learning, mutual dependance, mutual exploration, mutual liberation. (I'll stop here before this gets too damn lofty and relegated to pseuds' corner!)

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RE: taking pain - 12/5/2007 8:41:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Hi MsBearlee and thank you for the reply.

Uh oh.... i didnt actually mean climax in that way, although i have heard its possible to do so while just being spanked. I was thinking more of a submissive wanting to carry on until reaching the point where You had had enough. Him trying to out do You or refusing to use a safe word to prove a point. Does this take away the enjoyment for You ? Do You see it as a challenge or misbehaviour ?

I see....and yes I thought you meant a sexual climax; many are able to manage that through the application of pain. (I am not). The thing is, I do not like, nor expect, a boy to safeword. I like to be the one who decides how he's doing and how much he can handle. (not something that happens on first meet!). Still, I like a responsive man but I don't just keep hitting him till he cries Red. Yanno? I check in a lot, I ramp things up, back off...ramp them up again. Generally speaking a guy is fairly dripping before I'm done. <smiles sweetly>

My scenes are 1-3 hours long...and include floggers, crops, different floggers, various paddles, soft things, scratchy things, my mouth, my hands more floggers, my quirt, canes... It might also include more; who knows... The thing is, I've never had anybody offer more than a lot of moans; which is just the way I like it. Crying is good, if they like that...but, I'd rather NOT hear a safeword.

But, that's just me.
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RE: taking pain - 12/5/2007 10:34:56 AM

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I just had to come back and say a bit more after reading some of the responses.

Isn't the taking of someone's scene "cherry" one of the most exhilerating things in the whole world? To Me, that is such an honor. Yes, it does mean toning down My playing a bit, but in those instances, I don't really mind. There's something to be said for having that place of being the 'first' in a person's life. Whenever I do it, I know My place is edged in their brain. The only comparrison is the first person you've ever had sex with. It's never forgotten.

In the past couple of years, I've come into My own in accepting the fact that I like to dispense pain. In a sense, I see it in two different ways. I play with those who have this common ground with Me. I want to give pain and they want to receive it. It's a dance, in ways. The melody and the harmony together. It's a beautiful song.

Then, there's the other type. The ones who take the pain as a form of submitting to Me. Doing it because it is what I want and the look in their eyes when they are giving their best on the receiving end for Me. That is completely delicious. It feeds a hunger that can not be described in other terms. It's one of those, "Give yourself to Me" things.

So, all in all, I'll go back to My previous comment. It really depends on the boy (or girl). Each is magnificant.

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RE: taking pain - 12/5/2007 7:55:57 PM

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It's possible he might have gone to these places, knows he can but wishes to give me the oportunity to go there. Just as it is possible for me to take the sub to new places of pain. And this may come across as being more 'stoic'. Hope that made some sense.
I find I have a rather creative mind and when it is sparked, the sky can be the limit... how much can he take... how far can I go... both wanting to satify the other and selves in the exploration.

This is so much me, the need to take the journey farther and farther, wider and wider. Too go as far as humanly possible with my domme.

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RE: taking pain - 12/6/2007 11:58:07 AM

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Good thread and its interesting reading the views of others,their preferences and why.

I take singletails in animated silence (throwing my head back and showing the pain in my face but remaining silent)
I'd like to say its the way I was trained to take them but it isn't even that. Maybe its the way I trained myself or simply a legacy from boarding school where you were expected to take punishment in silence. Either way my whip master seems impressed, though he does view it as a challenge to make me cry out.

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