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Shawn1066 -> Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 3:15:53 PM)
So, the lifestyle attracts a wide variety of people. I know in what I've seen of the lifestyle thus far, I've meet a lot of amazing people and, unfortunately, just as many people that made me sigh...a lot. Thankfully, my questionable experiences have been regulated to the internet...where this is a comfortable amount of distance. My real life experiences have been far better, taking a nice lady up on her offer to take pictures in the park being probably the best decision I've ever made and not to mention I had a great time at the one munch I've been too. Anywho, the question is now framed. What is your absolute worst experience in the lifestyle? Answers can, of course, range from comically terrible to seriously bad if you feel like sharing.

youngpupforBCms -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 3:20:25 PM)
Well Ive had very few experinces so far yet myself, but the worst experinces would be being played by the fakes and frauds, the realization that you've been pretty much just having your chain jerked for whatever reason, so someone else can find amusement in it, just flat sucks. But thats part of this game I guess lol but for me thats the only bad experince I've had so far, and hope to not have to many more of them lol.

sexyred1 -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 3:23:45 PM)
I would say the worst experiences are the ones where one encounters people who use BDSM to be abusive or to work out anger issues or those who assume incorrectly that those who are into this are less than worthy of respect.

PsyVamp -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 3:39:13 PM)
The worst experience was one that actually never happened. Someone was supposed to meet me at a club where my friends and I normally go. One of my friends organizes the get-togethers as she is central. The person that was going to meet me there informed my friend that he was going to meet me at my hotel prior to the club, without discussing it with me. I texted him that I would not be able to meet him earlier before finding out what he had said to my friend. As soon as I met the group and found out that he told her that he was going to meet me at my hotel to "get to know me better" I immediately texted him that I wasn't interested in meeting him ever. There were a lot of good experiences so its difficult to single out just one. LJ

thetammyjo -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 3:45:31 PM)
My worst experience was my family being attacked by members of the community for no valid reason and then few people standing up to us. We've gotten our justice as others outside our local community started ignoring the local and what remained fell into in fighting and pettiness. Yup, I've mentioned this before and it still pisses me off. Attack me all you like but the moment you attack my men (or family) that's when I get really pissed. I ended "friendships" with people whom while they did not attack us also didn't speak up because I consider that a betrayal and I take that very seriously. It has made me very cautious about attending any local event (wherever we may move) and I may never take on any leadership role again.

Saint -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 4:06:51 PM)
Lets see, my worst experience.. I had one lady come up to me at a bdsm club one night, introduce herself and we hit it off. We went and started talking about everything and just having a good time. Then out of the blue she stops, looks me straight in the eye and tells me that if I want to continue this conversation and be with a beautiful woman then it will be 50 dollars. Other than that, there was the lady who lied to me about her children. She had five of them and told me she only had one. Then after I learned this, she started saying when I was backing away that she was pregnant and that I was the father even though we always used protection. I finally had to threaten her with going to court for a paternity test for her to back off. It turned out that she had had a hysterectomy some years before so there was no chance of her being pregnant in the first place! Hmm, then there was the lady who had the emotional breakdown on me at her work because we didn't have chemistry and I didn't want to get into a relationship if there was no appeal. I did convince her to get some help and she did finally. We had played one time and that was all it took for me to suddenly become the love of her life and to go to the extreme she did. Oh yeah, there is the current stalker who found out that I was an employment specialist and so made it a point to tell me she was contacting all the employment agencies in the mid-michigan area to find me and ruin me. That was after one and only one date when she threatened to out me if I didn't help her pay her bills and I walked out on her at the restraunt. I still get the occasional email from her unfortunately. There are a few others but nothing as bad as those ones. If I had to narrow it down then I would say the one with the fake pregnancy scare was the worst one. I was an emotional wreck over that for a few months until a dear friend of mine (A wonderful Domme btw) came along and threatened to kick my ass if I didnt force the issue and end her BS.

ShaktiSama -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 4:11:46 PM)
I was "mildly" stalked for a year and a half by one of my first models, who turned out to be a violently delusional paranoid schizophrenic. Don't know if that counts as a "lifestyle" experience, except that erotic photography is part of my lifestyle. There was also the fun deal where some of my local family members condemned me as a Devil worshipper and a pornographer, but that experience had a humorous side. [:)]

MystressDream -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 4:12:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Saint Lets see, my worst experience.. I had one lady come up to me at a bdsm club one night, introduce herself and we hit it off. We went and started talking about everything and just having a good time. Then out of the blue she stops, looks me straight in the eye and tells me that if I want to continue this conversation and be with a beautiful woman then it will be 50 dollars. Other than that, there was the lady who lied to me about her children. She had five of them and told me she only had one. Then after I learned this, she started saying when I was backing away that she was pregnant and that I was the father even though we always used protection. I finally had to threaten her with going to court for a paternity test for her to back off. It turned out that she had had a hysterectomy some years before so there was no chance of her being pregnant in the first place! Hmm, then there was the lady who had the emotional breakdown on me at her work because we didn't have chemistry and I didn't want to get into a relationship if there was no appeal. I did convince her to get some help and she did finally. We had played one time and that was all it took for me to suddenly become the love of her life and to go to the extreme she did. Oh yeah, there is the current stalker who found out that I was an employment specialist and so made it a point to tell me she was contacting all the employment agencies in the mid-michigan area to find me and ruin me. That was after one and only one date when she threatened to out me if I didn't help her pay her bills and I walked out on her at the restraunt. I still get the occasional email from her unfortunately. There are a few others but nothing as bad as those ones. If I had to narrow it down then I would say the one with the fake pregnancy scare was the worst one. I was an emotional wreck over that for a few months until a dear friend of mine (A wonderful Domme btw) came along and threatened to kick my ass if I didnt force the issue and end her BS. Good Lord.... you are only 29!! Sounds to me like you have a hell of a time choosing the women you wish to get involved with! Wow.... Either you are just so irresistable that women fall head over heels after one date, or you are gravitating to mentally unstable women. Might want to give that some thought.

Saint -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 4:18:44 PM)
I don't think that it is so much that I am irresistable enough that women fall head over heels with me (That would be a curse unto it's own I think) but that I unfortunately gravitate towards people with problems or people with problems gravitate towards me. Thankfully, I have learned from all of these experiences and from knowing some truly wonderful people in this lifestyle and am learning how to spot these things right away so as to avoid them in the future.

Gwynvyd -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 4:25:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Saint Lets see, my worst experience.. I had one lady come up to me at a bdsm club one night, introduce herself and we hit it off. We went and started talking about everything and just having a good time. Then out of the blue she stops, looks me straight in the eye and tells me that if I want to continue this conversation and be with a beautiful woman then it will be 50 dollars. Other than that, there was the lady who lied to me about her children. She had five of them and told me she only had one. Then after I learned this, she started saying when I was backing away that she was pregnant and that I was the father even though we always used protection. I finally had to threaten her with going to court for a paternity test for her to back off. It turned out that she had had a hysterectomy some years before so there was no chance of her being pregnant in the first place! Hmm, then there was the lady who had the emotional breakdown on me at her work because we didn't have chemistry and I didn't want to get into a relationship if there was no appeal. I did convince her to get some help and she did finally. We had played one time and that was all it took for me to suddenly become the love of her life and to go to the extreme she did. Oh yeah, there is the current stalker who found out that I was an employment specialist and so made it a point to tell me she was contacting all the employment agencies in the mid-michigan area to find me and ruin me. That was after one and only one date when she threatened to out me if I didn't help her pay her bills and I walked out on her at the restraunt. I still get the occasional email from her unfortunately. There are a few others but nothing as bad as those ones. If I had to narrow it down then I would say the one with the fake pregnancy scare was the worst one. I was an emotional wreck over that for a few months until a dear friend of mine (A wonderful Domme btw) came along and threatened to kick my ass if I didnt force the issue and end her BS. Good Gods man. And we women think we have the corner market on crazy shit happeneing to us. Yikes. Sorry about all of that. Honestly there are some decent ones out there.. just remove that " All Nuters follow me" neon sign you have over your head. Yikes. Gwyn Edited to add I looked at your profile.. no wonder all the nut cases flock to you.... you seem to be a caring and nice guy.... for some reason those are the type they prey on.. untill they no longer care, and are no longer nice. Good luck sweety. Too bad you arent in Florida.

youngsubgeoff -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 5:03:04 PM)
my worst experience, thankfully, falls under the comical. I was going to meet someone I met on another site, when I get there,I find out the person I was meeting... Was one of my high school teachers [:D]

Saint -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 5:04:17 PM)
Thank you, Gwynvyd. :) But there is no need to apologize for others poor behavior. I realize that there are some very wonderful people out there and I am very careful now in making sure that they are the ones I surround myself with. LOL I don't know if I am carrying a sign or not, it is just that I am very emotionally empathic. It is very hard for me to ignore someone hurting or in pain or just in need of talking. Because of that I think I tend to attract less than positive people. I just had to learn how to overcome that within myself and to not allow myself to get so involved anymore.

PsyVamp -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 5:55:21 PM)
Saint, you're always so wonderful in emails, no wonder they all get attached to you! I hope you have better luck though. Lady Jag (aka Psy)

MaamJay -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 5:57:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff my worst experience, thankfully, falls under the comical. I was going to meet someone I met on another site, when I get there,I find out the person I was meeting... Was one of my high school teachers [:D] Oh boy, as an ex high school teacher ... that had Me rolling on the floor laughing! Fortunately I mostly taught girls and I've now moved across country ... but I do think of all the cute boys I taught at University! Mind you, it's almost as bad when one of your ex-students becomes your new general practitioner (doctor/physician) ... for once the doctor (she) was more embarrassed than Me when it came to My "women's appointment" ... breast examination, internal exam, Pap smear etc LOL! Still, as I taught her Biology, it was clear I'd done a good job and sparked her interest! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

youngpupforBCms -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 6:11:24 PM)
=thinks back to his highschool teachers= thats one for me that wouldn't bother me, as I got to know all my female teachers and know them more along the lines as one might a coworker that is a friend, and they where all just great people in general. I must say one plus side of this, is when I read the experinces that people like Saint have had, its made me stop and think as a 20 year old and still somewhat new to the lifestyle, that you do gotta be careful for the crazies, as its not just women that attract the crazies, but us guys do to, though perhaps we dont always hear about it as much.

Tannie -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 6:17:19 PM)
I was contacted by my old drill sergeant when I opened my first account here. He didn't know who I was until I told him where I had last seen him. Now that I think about it, that situation was more amusing than horrible... I have had one truly horrible experience, though. I had to throw my first top off of me and muscle him out of my apartment when he decided it would be fun to try and strangle me. I ended up with some pretty bad throat damage and couldn't eat solid food for almost a week after that happened. It ended well, though. He left Houston a couple weeks later after my friends saw what had happened.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 6:29:12 PM)
One time I met this guy who was extreamly ridgid about not being interupted when he was speaking and me I can't help it I interupt sometimes w/ith out thinking so in like 5 minutes of getting to my househe got pissed and left cause I expressed an opinion that interupted his. Second one this guys cock and balls area always smelled like rotten fishy pussy even when he'd just washed so he always stank and I never wanted to put my face in his crotch region.

TNstepsout -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 6:51:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff my worst experience, thankfully, falls under the comical. I was going to meet someone I met on another site, when I get there,I find out the person I was meeting... Was one of my high school teachers [:D] Geoff! I have to compliment the new pic. Very nice! You look very handsome and your eyes are gorgeous.

youngsubgeoff -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 7:36:50 PM)
TN, thanks... now I really AM pink! Whats really Ironic is im not usually one for a suit and tie, Im more a jeans, tshirt, and leather jacket type. youngpup, bro, I get the strangest emails almost every day. There needs to be a WTF folder for the inbox on here...

youngpupforBCms -> RE: Worst Experience? (12/4/2007 7:58:38 PM)
LoL I'll second that, while I myself havent gotten any odd or strange ones myself yet, some of the friends I've made on here tell me about theirs, and they really get some bizzare ones that just make me go...."are you kidding me....who in the hell says something like that" but thats just par I suppose for any sort of personal's websites, your going to get the crazies and wierdos wherever you may be.

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