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Punishments - 12/4/2007 4:15:01 PM

Grimester

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Hi i'm new here my mistress and i are both new to this and are trying to think of suitable punishments she can give me if i don't please her how she wants we haven't got much in the way of toys any ideas would appreciated thanks

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RE: Punishments - 12/4/2007 6:13:30 PM

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Well ... to Me punishment isn't play ... so punishment isn't a big part of My dynamic. I want My subs to please Me because they WANT to please Me ... so at the most I have to instruct them as to how and then correct them if they go wrong. I only punish willful disobedience, and then the punishment isn't ANYTHING they'll remotely like or enjoy. It may be extra tasks or chores if that's appropriate, or more likely, withdrawal of privileges. If a sub is very service-orientated, then it can be quite cruel for Me to do the job Myself with them watching and not being allowed to help.

Play, as in spanking, flogging, bondage, wax, sexual play ... that's all for fun and reward in My book. And while I can believe those who say a punishment spanking can be made to feel different from a play spanking, that's not something I want to do. I want to keep those strictly for enjoyment.

Perhaps you and She need to think more deeply about what kind of dynamic you want. The problem with punishment how you currently seem to see it, is that it sets up a cycle whereby the sub deliberately does things wrong just to get punished ... and that quickly becomes a chore for the Dominant. Why have someone in Your life if they make it harder not easier? If you want to use punishment as you suggest, then make it strictly "role play punishment" ie you get into a role whereby you pretend to do something wrong and She is in a role where She pretends to be offended and then metes out pretend punishment in that you both enjoy it! Naughty schoolboy and SchoolMistress, difficult patient and Nurse, prisoner and Warder ... there are any number of role play scenarios that can work for that.

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RE: Punishments - 12/4/2007 6:19:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: Grimester

Hi i'm new here my mistress and i are both new to this and are trying to think of suitable punishments she can give me if i don't please her how she wants we haven't got much in the way of toys any ideas would appreciated thanks

Grimester--believe it or not, the most effective punishment for me has nothing to do with toys--it is being denied toys, or any other contact for that matter. Attention from my Miss is my greatest privilege and not having it is what gets my attention. Not half as much fun as a good spanking, but that's the whole point!

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RE: Punishments - 12/4/2007 6:22:08 PM

youngpupforBCms

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I sense a troll.....starts a post and then deletes profile hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm