stella41b
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Very honourable for someooe to stick up for her, but isn't it also a bit childish to be playing games of 'I'm real and nobody else is as real as me or my friends'? Yes, I admit I have done the same, but it was a long time ago and I was six years old. I'd like to think I've grown up a bit.
Omega said in the OP: "I look around and I dont see any familiar faces...wow...kinda scary..."
She didn't say "No one is as real as me and my friends."
I know she used the word 'real' and that pissed some people off. She's not a personal friend by the way. I just stood up for a well-known domme who hasn't posted hardly at all on cm but is well known in the community.
I wouldn't mention the fact if it wasn't to illustrate that there's always someone greater and better than you. Ah but you see YesMistressIrish what your friend and that other JessykaPowers fails to realise is, that if they have to go round promoting themselves and saying how great they are then they can't be all that great, can they?
Well, yes they can be great. Just because they have a lot of promotion doesn't mean they are not great. I don't see that as a black or white issue, rather as a gray area, see what I mean?
I don't come here to promote myself.. here on these boards i'm just 'stella', nobody and nothing more, because for one, I don't need to promote myself, and for two, I want people here to get to know the real me, not my image or 'persona'. I don't need a persona, I'm quite interesting in my own right.
I agree with you, and you don't need to promote yourself, and others promote themselves because it brings in the business; nothing wrong with that.
I have no wish to belittle you or your friend .
But surely someone so long in the community should be aware that nobody is any better than the next and that we are all individual and oh so very different from each other and anyway what does it matter? I'm posting here not to belittle or ridicule others or to start conflicts but to help, inform and teach and hopefully try and resolve conflicts.
I am doing the same thing.
This is one of those threads which should never have been started on these boards, but we see it time after time after time - 'I'm real, everyone else is fake, everyone else is a wannabe...nobody is as good as me..'
She didn't say she was better than everyone else! Did I miss somethng she said? lol.
No need to tell anyone how good you are.. as it invariably shows. But if you wish to play the fool and force people to accept you for who you're not, then I'm sorry, you deserve everything you get in return.
Stella,
That was a beautiful post! Thanks!
I deleted some of what you wrote so I didn't keep dragging in so much text.
I agree with much of what you said and also want to comment on a couple of things. Just because someone has a lot on line, google, etc does not make them any less real, dynamic, etc. And, yes, many who are contributing to the world do not have it posted anywhere on the web. I am one of those people and do not toot my own horn about it online. I also want people to know me for who I am as a genuine person first.
Will you please explain what you meant where I highlighted in red above? Is Omega promoting something she is not? Inquiring minds want to know...
This has turned into a fun thread..lol...
Irish
Hello YesMistressIrish and others
Firstly I apologize to LadyHugs - who to me is a shining light on these boards - for stealing her format and way of responding here but justify my decision by my view that a Domme, just like any other person, often serves as an example to be followed.
You know I've also had the intensive training in the BDSM community. I served for 5 years under a Warsaw Pro-Domme called Lady Kali. She only works with submissives in the upper echelons of society, and here I mean the elite. I was her personal submissive maid and slave. Lady Kali isn't even 5ft tall, she's a shirt plump lesbian Mistress who's a very vicious sadist but one with a heart bigger than you'll find anywhere else. When she swung a riding crop it felt like being whacked by a cane by any other Mistress. Not many people can 'raise' a weal with a riding crop, but Lady Kali can. I know. I've felt that experience many times. I even have photos to show that experience.
If you ever get the chance to see Roman Polanski's film 'The Pianist' please do so. It's a film about the life of Wladyslaw Szpilman the Jewish pianist in the Warsaw ghetto during the Second World War and how he got through. In the film you will see a whip wielded by a Nazi officer. That whip now lies in Lady Kali's home, and I have a photo of me holding that very same whip on my knees. I cannot and will not reveal names here, but I along with Lady Kali shared some very intense scenes with some very well known and important people - politicians, actors, editors, businessmen, and not only from Poland.
Now Mistress Irish you ask me if Mistress Omega is promoting herself to be someone she's not, and I come back and say yes she is.
This time next week I'm going to be in the States with my SO and Domme. I will have come off a plane which after crossing the Atlantic will land at an airport in Georgia, walk through the border into the States and experience America for the very first time. Another one hour flight and I'm going to be where I want to be.
I have my own reputation, and it's not just my Domme and family waiting for me, there's others. People who have worked years in American theater. I have my own achievements, and can even reveal that I turned down an offer to go work in Hollywood way back in the 1990's but said that I would come to America in my own time. That time is now.
You ask me Mistress Irish if Mistress Omega is promoting herself and claiming to be someone she's not. I don't know Mistress Omega personally, all what she claims is probably true. I have no wish or reason to doubt her word.
The problem is, the way I see it, is that she's claiming to be such a great person when in reality she isn't. This is why people here are responding in the way they are responding. She was the one who chose to place herself above them, and to regard herself as someone far more important than they are. This is why I wrote what I did. She's no better nor any different than anyone else here.
I'm no different from anyone else here either. I'm not coming to the States to make lots of money, or even to be famous or well known. Yes, I do have my achievements, and they stand and yes, I do have my place in the history of modern theatre, but this isn't important to me. This all happened a couple of years ago.
But you know there's still a lot of people out there in the United States, in places in Louisiana and Mississippi, and they've still got nothing and I mean nothing - no home, no money, some are probably ill, lost their families, many of their friends, and they probably don't have too many possessions because it was all washed away in Hurricane Katrina two years ago.
Some no doubt know what the BDSM community is, some no doubt might have even heard about Collarme, but they don't come on here and post.. because they can't. Talking about a fetish fashion show to them would be the same as talking about setting up a kibbutz on the surface of the planet Mars - pure science fiction.
I'm talking here about people with very real, basic, and simple dreams and hopes. People who dream about having a job, about having decent clothes to wear, about having the money to pay for the meds that they need but they're trying to live without.. I'm talking also about people who drink cheap alcohol day in and day out because being drunk is the only way they can face up to the reality of their lives..
People who aren't going to have the sort of Christmas that many of us here are looking forward to, they don't have the 'lifestyle' that we know about.. their reality and lifestyle is something we know about but is one we wish to avoid at all costs.
These are the people I'm coming to work with and help. I don't need to tell them who I am.. and it isn't that important to me how they perceive me, it's far more important to me who they are, and what they've been through, and what they have to do just to get through the day. They come to me because they want changes in their lives, they want a better life just like everybody else, and some would like to maybe get away from the reality of a life or existence that they've been forced to accept and face up to every day since Katrina came and washed their former lives away.
These are the people I'm coming to America for too - I want to share my talents and abilities in theatre, including the talent I have for taking anyone you can think of and training them in a matter of weeks to be an actor and putting them on stage in front of an audience, and to share my experiences with their experiences in life, and just 'do theatre' with them. Hardly any of them actually want to be actors but you know, we all need to be appreciated and acknowledged for who we really are, and if I can give these people the chance to show others just how great they are to the people in their community just to change their lives and make them better then this is what I want to do.
What am I going to get out of it? At this moment in time I don't know and being honest I don't really care. All I know is this is what I've been doing in my life right through my time in Poland, it was taken away from me when I chose to reveal who I really am as a person and I just need to have this sort of lifestyle back. I get a real buzz out of making other people happy, out of making people laugh and showing them that they're really important, which I guess makes me no different from many people here on these boards.
This is just a means for me to be with my SO/Domme and her family, nothing more, and this is how I want my life to be, and this is what I want to do every day of my life from now until the moment I die. I already know that I can do this, that I can write a play, take people off the streets and teach them how to act and have a good time whilst acting on stage, turn it into a really good stage performance and get those bums on seats, and I don't need the help of Hollywood or anyone else for that matter to be able to do this. It doesn't matter to me whether the audience is made up of 50 people or 5.000, all that matters is that my actors have a good time and the audience enjoy what they come and see. This gets me the things I need in life and I get to do what I really enjoy doing in life. I don't even have to think about it. It just happens. It's really that simple to me.
But I don't see how that makes me any different from anyone else here on these boards, it certainly doesn't make me any better or more 'real', does it now? I mean me here revealing who I am and what I do doesn't really make any difference to you or anyone else here, or does it? It shouldn't. At least not from my perspective.
I stand by what I say.. if all you can think about is how great you are as a person then you're probably not and you're probably not living the life you claim to be living.
I don't even want to think about what I achieved in my life, and don't even have time to think about it. My other half is working flat out to get her home ready for Christmas, I'm doing lots of little things to prepare for my trip making sure everything's ready for when i leave. I actually feel nervous and somewhat awed.. I mean, this is the South in the United States... I know I got a small town community waiting for my arrival, it actually scares me a little, I know of all the people who grew up and who were raised in the South and what they went on to achieve in life, people like Elvis Presley, Louis 'Satchmo' Armstrong, Oprah Winfrey, people I couldn't possibly even hope to be compared with.. so I find it easier just not to think about the effects of what I'm doing at all. It's not important, and it just leads to something which many people call 'delusions of grandeur'.
Trust me, I'm not doing any of this to be great, but purely out of the satisfaction and deep emotional fulfillment it gives me. Maybe when I'm dead and buried people might say how great I was, then again they might not, I mean, who cares? I don't. All that matters to me is what matters to everyone else, that I leave behind some happy memories for those who were close to me as a person.
Therefore I just want to come to the States, get to know my SO/Domme and family, meet people and take it from there. It's really that simple to me.
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I'm sorry if I misunderstood the weal twue comment. I guess the lil dancing dude should have given it away, I tend to miss tonality though in posts at times. I guess I took it wrong, therefore colored my other comments. 
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