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Question for a Mistress, Madam, ::your name here:: - 8/14/2005 9:11:57 PM

richbtch24

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I am still new to this, so I am still unsure what to refer to you ladies as. Everyone likes something different. As I am a dominant male (wouldn't consider myself a Dom, still a lot to learn) I personally do not want to be referred to as "Sir." Anyway, I digress...

My question is, as a Dominant woman, do you prefer your men/women to be "feisty" or just completely submissive, or a little of both. I ask this of you because as a dominant male I prefer the submissive females I meet to have a bit of "spark"...of course I do not want the whole flame but I do enjoy the thought challenges. Do dominant females feel this same way?

I have discussed this in another forum and surprisingly not too many males like their women to have that extra ::can't think of the word I am looking for:: Anyway, that's my question, completely submissive and humble or more of a challenge. It seems from reading some profiles the latter is the choice, but I would just like to hear your opinion.

I guess this post is more for my amusement, but I like to know what feeds you (please don't say "my servant").

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RE: Question for a Mistress, Madam, ::your name here:: - 8/14/2005 11:04:03 PM

saret

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.grin.
You like bratty subs.

Or at least one you can take out to dinner and have a conversation with, as well as tie up in the bedroom.

There's nothing wrong with that. What a dominant wants from a sub depends entirely on the dominant.

I personally like the same, not necessarily "fiesty", but someone I respected on many levels: an equal partner who shares my love of BDSM. A completely subservient guy who only wanted to follow me around and grovel would bore me to tears - I'd wind up using him to put plants on.
But its different for every single person and every single relationship.

intellectually discriminant,
-S-

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RE: Question for a Mistress, Madam, ::your name here:: - 8/15/2005 1:07:34 AM

MsPurrmeow

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I like the following characteristics:
Assertive, Aggressive, Self-starting, Motivated, Self-aware, Self-controlled, Intuitive, Logical, Decisive, but willing to discuss.

I do not like:
Passive, Weak, Martyrs

I want the one that can have a lively debate with me and even if they disagree with my final decisions, they are strong enough to CHOOSE to follow my command.

As for titles, generally "Ladies" or "Dominas" are well accepted.

Purr

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RE: Question for a Mistress, Madam, ::your name here:: - 8/15/2005 6:05:26 AM

Oumae

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I like strong confident men who are comfortable in their submission, I like them to have opinions and to use initiative. Humour is good but overly bratty behaviour can become tiresome.

Oumae

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RE: Question for a Mistress, Madam, ::your name here:: - 8/15/2005 6:20:53 AM

MstrssPassion

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsPurrmeow

I like the following characteristics:
Assertive, Aggressive, Self-starting, Motivated, Self-aware, Self-controlled, Intuitive, Logical, Decisive, but willing to discuss.

I do not like:
Passive, Weak, Martyrs

This is also the type I prefer.

My relationship is along the lines of a power exchange. Having a partner that is assertive, confident & completely in charge of their own life, yet surrenders to me within our own personal interaction is far more powerful than having someone who passive both in personality & within their everyday walk of life.

MstrssPassion

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RE: Question for a Mistress, Madam, ::your name here:: - 8/15/2005 8:02:57 AM

lilyophelia

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i personally like very quiet and passive men...i don't like for them to have a very strong presence...they should hum in the background, i think...but you can often train a submissive/slave to be ideal for You.

-lily

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RE: Question for a Mistress, Madam, ::your name here:: - 8/15/2005 9:54:57 AM

perverseangelic

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On the address thing--
unless there is something else specified in the profile (huzzah for careful reading) It's generally wise to use the person's complete handle, and in the text of the msg add a question about wht they prefer to be called.

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RE: Question for a Mistress, Madam, ::your name here:: - 8/15/2005 10:00:36 PM

Sylph

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Personally I like a bit of impishness. I find alot of humor in WIIWD. I love to chase pple around and sword fight with fly swatters. Then again I like to see a bit of fear and be able to debate politics. Preferences are personal. We all have some.

Sylph

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