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Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 3:34:07 AM

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If a woman is sub to her Man but domme to other women, is she then a switch?

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 3:42:33 AM

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That's a tricky one. I've often found myself in the same proverbial boat, and I usually only consider myself submissive. But this could be due to the fact that I'm in a monogamous relationship with a wonderful man, so my time is spent subbing. When I was single, I considered myself a switch. I suppose you have to ask yourself which of the two you spend more time doing. If it's fairly even, switch is probably your best bet. However, I wouldn't get too hung up on labels. You are what you are. Do what feels best, and don't worry about names.

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 6:40:13 AM

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well tecnicaly i would say yes, but there are borderlines there. For example, i am a sub, but i am also sadistic, am i a switch?

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 6:46:41 AM

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Now I’d like to make things complex here. I have Gorean home, which means that I am head of the house. My wife is also my Free Companion, which is Gor’s version of a marriage. This means that she is to some degree under my domination regarding many decisions and certainly the critical ones are left to me. Other than that, we share or divide duties. She is definitely Dominant with sub/slaves but will jump to get my coffee. How would you define her? A switch?

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 6:51:01 AM

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i guess i have to ask why does it really matter? Does classifying yourself make things easier in any way. It certainly doesn't make you any less submissive to the person you are submitting to, or any less Dominant to the person you are dominating. My philosophy is whatever works for you. I actually believe everyone has parts of both in them. Just some parts are stronger than others. Of course many Dominants will argue that with me. They of course would never want to admit there is a submissive bone in their body. And i have known a few submissives who have said to me you cannot be a "true" (whatever that means) submissive if you switch. To that i say hooey. I would say for myself i cannot switch with the same person. I can't play i will top you today but bottom to you tomorrow. For me there has to be definate lines drawn. So i can submit to one person and dominate another. It works well for me. So if you have both sides and enjoy both sides, embarce it and enjoy. And look at it this way, it increases your opportunity for play...

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 7:10:26 AM

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If you're happy with what you are doing, does it matter? Terms only matter when trying to describe what you do to others. Labels are just short hand for those descriptions. So if you aren't trying to be part of a group or public discussion, it probably doesn't matter what the label is. If you're trying to describe this for a profile or a discussion and you find the labels don't fit, just describe what you want or are doing and go with that.

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 7:25:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: MissTy

If a woman is sub to her Man but domme to other women, is she then a switch?

Yes your a switch. Thats all ill say on this topic and not flame this thread.

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 7:57:39 AM

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i would say a Dominant woman that is under the authority of the man in the house, might be a switch, if one want a label, if not i would say the closest thing is a female Dom in a oldfahiond marrige.

Strange how labels get compilcated.

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 8:08:19 AM

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On a lazy day, switch is a fine label.

Does it accurately convey you to everybody that reads it, I doubt it from your self description.

Use whatever label you like. If you are sub 99.999999% of your life with your man. say you are a sub, but in the lafger profile mention you have the occasional Dom/top interest in women.

Just find something comfy for you.

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 8:34:51 AM

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quote:

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If a woman is sub to her Man but domme to other women, is she then a switch?

If she identifies as one.

There might be some quirks going on, some specific twists that may or may not make her identify as an actual switch. On the surface the answer is yes that's a pretty good switch situation.

For example, I am "dominant" in a lot of my relationships, I top a lot, and I am an owned slave. However, I don't consider myself A dominant and therefore wouldn't say that I am a full switch, I don't have both orientations.

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 10:12:44 AM

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If a woman is sub to her Man but domme to other women, is she then a switch?

I guess it depend's on what she believes. People call me dominant all of the time. That is a compliment to me. My dom order's me to take control of situations so by people seeing me as dominant means I'm only pleasing him.

Mentally I can dominate most doms if I want to. However, when it comes to the physical aspects of the lifestyle I cannot hurt anyone. Unless I am angered. Then they should watch out. However, in my mind anger and BDSM have no place going together. So, I take myself away from those situations until I can calm down....then of course there goes the lack of being able to hit another again.

Does it make me a switch? If you think it does, sure. Does it make me a good sub to my dom, yes it does because he tells me it pleases him.

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 10:30:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissTy

If a woman is sub to her Man but domme to other women, is she then a switch?

If she identifies as one.

There might be some quirks going on, some specific twists that may or may not make her identify as an actual switch. On the surface the answer is yes that's a pretty good switch situation.

For example, I am "dominant" in a lot of my relationships, I top a lot, and I am an owned slave. However, I don't consider myself A dominant and therefore wouldn't say that I am a full switch, I don't have both orientations.

The words we use are a lot like newspaper photos. They give a certain amount of information, but if one puts a magnifying glass to them, one gets less, rather than more, information.

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 4:05:28 PM

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Don't worry about the label. Just do what you like and what you enjoy. When in doubt ask your Dom his opinion.

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/15/2005 5:57:24 PM

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I do consider myself a sub/switch..I prefer, in a realtionship being submissive but, as a woman and to sub males, I am more of a Top than Dominant. I only play with sub males. I have looked at all areas but I decided that my nature was submissive and I really did not want the responsibility for someone else as a Dominant..

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RE: Sub - switch? - 8/16/2005 3:20:10 AM

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The words we use are a lot like newspaper photos. They give a certain amount of information, but if one puts a magnifying glass to them, one gets less, rather than more, information.

I concur!

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