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Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:17:51 AM

Feminita

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I am beyond tired of subbies indicating they want to chat or meet then "disappear".

Is it the nature of subbies to withdrawl and wither? Is it more related to suburban or southern babes? Is it Georgia? Is it me?

What are your experiences?

I am only refereing to females, men are TOO willing to meet!

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:21:20 AM

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Perhaps you're speaking to the wrong submissives.

(does so hate to term subbie)

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:23:59 AM

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If you are expecting someone to commit after one chat, then your expectations are wildly inappropriate. And finding a compatible sub for a long term relationship is as difficult as finding a compatible person to marry. Or do you expect that if you went into any random bar and asked any random man to marry you, that his answer would automatically be yes?

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:26:16 AM

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Oh, are we talking after one chat? I was thinking more after a fairly long "get to know you" type thing, then flaking out when a meeting is planned.

God no, commitment after one chat would be crazy.

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:26:27 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Feminita

I am beyond tired of subbies indicating they want to chat or meet then "disappear".

Is it the nature of subbies to withdrawl and wither? Is it more related to suburban or southern babes? Is it Georgia? Is it me?

What are your experiences?

I am only refereing to females, men are TOO willing to meet!

Its in a "subbies" nature to be submissive...beyond that its VERY sujective. Yes there are people in general, "s" types AND "D" types that pull that crap... Its the way it is...The weeding out process is a bitch... but necessary. Best wishes to you.

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:29:08 AM

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If I say I will be somewhere, I am there
If I say I won't then I will not
This is to do with the type of person I am not the role I am in this lifestyle.
I could be sub/Domme/Kitchen sink... and it would not make me any more/less likely to show up or be somewhere.

I don't believe that orientation has anything to do with it, maybe you're looking at the wrong women

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:33:40 AM

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Maybe your only meeting tech fans...find an UGA fan....we're much more likely to keep our word....

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:36:16 AM

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To this girl - the answer is YES! Altho she started out as a submissive - this girl is now a committed slave.......kneels at the feet of Master Alan........where she has happily served for over a year and 1/2. Once a controlling, manipulative chick who only submitted in order to get what she needed. Now she is happy to be a committed slave to her Master!

Respectfully -
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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:42:50 AM

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are you implying that all submissives cannot commit? then you are sadly mistaken and wrong for grouping me with that crowd.

are you expecting us to submit and commit after one chat/email/etc? again, sadly one chat/email, a commitment does not make well for a lasting relationship.

then again the same questions could be asked of the dominant population alike - can dominants make a commiment? why does the burden of commitment solely rest on the submissives/slaves' shoulders. commitment takes both parties' efforts and time ...not just one person.

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:43:52 AM

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It's not the nature of submissives to disapear-it's the nature of the internet that means that -anyone- who has a modem can get online, so, the more people there are online, the more plonkers, time wasters, liers etc. there will be as well.

There are no end of sincere submissives and slaves about, just take your time and hang in there. I think that if you keep at it because you're sincere then it makes sense that others will do the same, so eventually you'll bump into each other.

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:44:59 AM

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Clearly, you're looking for a woman to 'play' with you and your husband.

The problem isn't you, exactly, but rather you're pursuing a unicorn (the single hot bisexual female.) For every one of these rare creatures, you've got nine other couples hounding them as well.

So, a quick look at your profile has lovely photos of you... but not the man you're going to expect her to be with?

The entire text of your profile reads 'sex ad.' It gives the bare bones "couple seeking hawt chick." It's filled with your venting against the world and sundry with lots of colorful words (literally in blue and magenta) and 'smilies' that swing hammers and flip the double bird. The profile's so angry and devoid of actual information on who you are, in fact, that my first thought is "This is probably a guy using his wife' photos, looking to hook up with chicks on the side." Usually, women's profiles are friendly and talk about who they are as people, what the like, what makes them happy. It also helps to clearly explain what, exactly, the type of relationship the female submissive might expect to engage in (i.e. for a one night stand, or an occasional play partner, or a live in full time slave.) It's usually men posing as women who say "I'm a hawt chick with great tits."

I can only assume that you're persona is exactly the same way in chat, as it is in your profile. Put yourself in the submissive's shoes; if some woman (or possibly a man posing as a woman) came on to you, the way you come on to these girls, why on earth would you be interested? Attractive women don't lack from any opportunities for sex, regardless of what the alt.com advertisements tell you.

Stephan

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:48:21 AM

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.....Speaking of which, I was on another BDSM communtity I belong to last night (wednesday) and got a message from someone living close who expected us to start playing -this- saturday night, I asked for limits etc but she didn't give any info about them.

After about 15 mins of trying to set up a scene for this weekend she got bored and vanished. lol Lucky escape on My part I think.

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:48:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Feminita

I am beyond tired of subbies indicating they want to chat or meet then "disappear".

Is it the nature of subbies to withdrawl and wither? Is it more related to suburban or southern babes? Is it Georgia? Is it me?

What are your experiences?

I am only refereing to females, men are TOO willing to meet!

There is a vast velleity amongst the women here and elsewhere, as social creatures they can envision and dream the romance and the ugly nasty snuffing pussy kinda stuff we call BDSM and slavery in their minds and have a great amount of their life spent there, without the actual doing.......

I blame it on the whoremoans.

Ron

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:49:40 AM

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There are [insert generic put down] in all roles and both genders and couples as well. You are just not special or your experience worse then anyone else on here. If that is what you are mainly getting or think you are getting, instead of lashing out try looking inward. What are you doing that causes only the [insert generic put down] to be in contact with you?

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 8:54:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: toservez

There are [insert generic put down] in all roles and both genders and couples as well. You are just not special or your experience worse then anyone else on here. If that is what you are mainly getting or think you are getting, instead of lashing out try looking inward. What are you doing that causes only the [insert generic put down] to be in contact with you?

lmao....i love that...thanks

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 9:02:19 AM

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That girl packages up wisdom and has a vast clarity in what she says, and says it so politely....I have only seen her cross once.......

gotta admire that girl, toservez

Ron

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 9:04:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Feminita

I am beyond tired of subbies indicating they want to chat or meet then "disappear".

Is it the nature of subbies to withdrawl and wither? Is it more related to suburban or southern babes? Is it Georgia? Is it me?

What are your experiences?

I am only refereing to females, men are TOO willing to meet!

Can't help you. I am not acquainted with any subbies.

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 9:06:16 AM

Feminita

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Nothing is implied after "one chat"...where does that stupidity come from? you've taken this inquiry way off track with your absurd jumping to erronous conclusions...what a dope!

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 9:09:50 AM

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And the true nature of the beast is reavealed....

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RE: Can subbies make a commitment? - 12/6/2007 9:09:52 AM

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'one chat' ?

lost me already..............

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