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mhawk -> how to answer Her (12/6/2007 9:22:07 AM)
i am not a Mistress,for those that have seen my posts i am an owned slave. my Mistress is fairly new to her role in this.we live in a Poly household.Her husband,my Lord works away from home and during the week She is my Dominate.She is enjoying fully being my Mistress. last night after another intense flogging session,i felt what i can best call the need to be taken further.to which She had no problem doing,i had thought when i mentioned it that we would wait until tonight but i was mistaken.but it's all good. what i am wondering is this.She has mainly been a switch.She as i said is still very new to being a Mistress and wwea re finding our way.She asked this morning how i was doing after last night and i told her.what it is is this,She asked just what it is that i "feel" deep down durning and after an intesnsive flogging,especially one that taeks me to another level.i tried to explain it a what some call subspave/slavespace but She could not grasp what i was reffering to. Do any of you have any suggestions of how i could describe this to Her without sounding funny about it?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: how to answer Her (12/6/2007 9:28:19 AM)
Subspace. I've seen it time and time again, and I guess I have to believe it exists, but I sure can't get there! I am just not an endorphin producer, so that whole floaty thing...not happening. As long as you are as concrete as possible about what happens, and don't get airy-fairy worshippy, I don't think you will come off as sounding funny. It is a very hard thing to understand for those of us who can't get there, and do not make the mistake of thinking that the slave mindset is what gets you there---being a submissive is no doubt enhancing your emotional state, but those brain chemicals will work for the most toppy person, IF they are going to kick in at all. Also, it's dominANT, a noun. Sorry, had to say that.

IamJustMe2C -> RE: how to answer Her (12/6/2007 9:43:07 AM)
I had a wonderfull slave that went to subspace quite often with me but according to her she only went there in the past by pain. I was here first Dom that brought here there by pleasure and the high was different as well as the low. Her exact words to me were " I saw ELVIS" was about all she could mutter when she was coming down. I asked here one night what she thought it was that made here go there so often. (not that I was complaining) She said it had to be the connection we shared and the trust as well as the pleasure she felt. All those things combined would send here off like a rocket. Subspace has always been facinating to me because it is one of those places that no one goes all the time and no one knows how to get back there every time. You can only go when it wants you there.

thetammyjo -> RE: how to answer Her (12/6/2007 10:13:56 AM)
There is an article by Chris M. entitled "Going Deep: Topspace, Bottomspace and Sado-Erotic Ecatasy" that describes that feeling of flying -- I personally strongly agree with him that the best word for this is bottomspace, not subspace, but that's me. I know that you can find the article in Sensuous Sadie's latest book "Spiritual Transformation through BDSM" but I suspect you could find it elsewhere.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: how to answer Her (12/6/2007 2:00:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mhawk ...She has mainly been a switch....i tried to explain it a what some call subspave/slavespace but She could not grasp what i was reffering to. I find this interesting. While it's not unheard of that a sub not ever reach sub-space, it's fairly rare from what I've seen. Get her to explain what SHE feels when she goes there...then see if any of it seems to match your experience. It'd be a start. Master Fire

mhawk -> RE: how to answer Her (12/6/2007 2:55:33 PM)
hmmmmm.........................hadn't thought about doing that,ya know i'll ask Mistress that tonight while we are fixing dinner when She gets in.

mhawk -> RE: how to answer Her (12/7/2007 5:31:04 AM)
my Mistress and i had an open conversation about this last night that went very well from both our standpoints. i plainly asked Her in comparison,what goes through Her when She is flogging me and knows what my reactions are. as She stated what it is for Her is a mediatative state. i know it's not much but makes a little more sense now.

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