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playfulotter -> am i wrong or not? (12/7/2007 5:38:58 PM)
I am not into couples but had a couple contact me recently..it never was past the initial state but when i said swinging and swapping turned me off they turned on me...i never said more...just that it wasn't my thing or my Master's....What is Your opinion on these emails a bunch of us recieve? thanks! rhonda[&:]

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: am i wrong or not? (12/7/2007 5:44:01 PM)
Well I for one never let things bother me like that. If they can not respect me. I just smile and say have a nice day. Life is to short to worry about what someone thinks. Only thing that s hould matter is the person your with.

juliaoceania -> RE: am i wrong or not? (12/7/2007 5:48:38 PM)
Perhaps they felt judged by you, some people are very sensitive about their kinks. I do not know how you related your opinion to them, but perhaps you stated it in such a way that struck them as being a tad judgmental? I know that people often write about what squicks them in ways that makes it sound as though the people who do the things that squick them are somehow "gross" or wrong.. I take the emails I get here with a grain of salt, although I am glad I get less than more to be honest...

AnimusRex -> RE: am i wrong or not? (12/7/2007 6:56:36 PM)
People do get touchy about perceptions that they are being judged- or it could be they wanted to play with you, and didn't take rejection well. In any case, your kinks are your kinks, and not for others to pressure us otherwise. Shake them off, and enjoy your life.

breatheasone -> RE: am i wrong or not? (12/7/2007 7:04:30 PM)
Yeah...they probably felt judged....and lashed out at you. Its ok just.dust yourself off, and be a little more tactful next time. You'll be alright.[;)]

crouchingtigress -> RE: am i wrong or not? (12/7/2007 7:12:45 PM)
a little yeah.

laurell3 -> RE: am i wrong or not? (12/7/2007 7:18:56 PM)
yeah maybe...but....it's not a good fit anyway as that's important to them and not at all appealing to you.

Focus50 -> RE: am i wrong or not? (12/8/2007 2:07:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: breatheasone Yeah...they probably felt judged....and lashed out at you. Its ok just.dust yourself off, and be a little more tactful next time. You'll be alright.[;)] Hafta vote 'Nay' - if strangers approached me and my being open and honest about my personal choices makes them feel judged, I don't see why it's me who deserves a reprimand.... Focus.

eyesopened -> RE: am i wrong or not? (12/8/2007 5:23:44 AM)
It's not very polite to make judgements on other people's lifestyle. When i get emails from couples (finding a third or more can be very difficult so i understand when i might get contacted by a couple) i simply state that i am not suited for poly relationships. That way i am honest without being judgemental. Actually i dont think swinging or swapping is wrong as long as everyone is upfront and honest with each other, it's just not something i engage in.

velvetears -> RE: am i wrong or not? (12/8/2007 5:28:23 AM)
You could have said it didn't turn you on instead of it turned you off - i think by saying what they did turned you off, they interpreted it as you trying to insult them or telling them that what they were doing was wrong.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: am i wrong or not? (12/8/2007 5:38:19 AM)
people should respect what you tell them. you may not respect or even care for what others do but they should respect the fact if you do not want something There are some agressive people in this world th inking a no means keep trying till you get what you want like a challnge or something

chellekitty -> RE: am i wrong or not? (12/8/2007 6:01:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: playfulotter I am not into couples but had a couple contact me recently..it never was past the initial state but when i said swinging and swapping turned me off they turned on me...i never said more...just that it wasn't my thing or my Master's....What is Your opinion on these emails a bunch of us recieve? thanks! rhonda[&:] they contacted you for what purposes? what was their stated intentions in their email(s) to you? you don't have to answer me, just answer to yourself, then read the following paragraph... because your profile clearly states you're not looking for anyone...so it wouldn't matter if they were a couple or a male dominant or a female switch or a male submissive or a purple headed giraffe...what does who they are and what they are looking for have to do with anything? if anyone contacted you with the intention of thinking you were going to be interested in them...then here is your - you were right...if you happen to think that two direspectful remaks make a right... but if you just off the cuff said that swinging and swapping turned you off, because thats what they do - you were wrong, you judged them based on what they do rather then then who they are...

Kana -> RE: am i wrong or not? (12/8/2007 6:18:35 AM)
Fuck them, move on to the mails that count only. There is to little time in life to waste energy and emotions dealing with all the riff raff So my thing isn't their thing, shrugs, no biggee, just don't give me any shit about it

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