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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/8/2007 7:53:09 PM   
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Father Damian, why do you always post just what I was thinking? It is uncanny, I tell ya..I could not help but visualize Jason Miller (who was damn hot by the way) being so tortured in that movie saying that very same thing, but he is asking me and not that stupid demon.

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/8/2007 7:55:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		Because god is giving you a number and watching you closely............suck my cock and vomit......the power of christ compels you.

yeah, and lose the crucifix masturbation thing, it doesn't move me.

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/8/2007 8:01:01 PM   
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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/8/2007 8:08:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Longevityshaft

One of the question I would like to know is why do women or men feel the need to be submissive or a slave? Why or what compels you?


I have realized that I only feel submissive in relation to a specific partner. I do not have "submissive" longings or cravings... although I may have masochistic fantasies.

I discovered that it is the man that compels my submission because after my first D/s relationship ended I did not know if I would continue on this path. I then did not feel "submissive" until a few months later after much communication with my present Dom. We parted ways for a few months last summer, and again I did not feel submissive anymore... and considered just bottoming for sexual pleasure and having a vanilla relationship. It wasn't until I was alone with my Daddy that I realized how submissive I am... to him.


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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/8/2007 10:30:42 PM   
Tigrita


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Status: offline 		When I'm single, I don't feel submissive, or any desire to be submissive.  I approach pretty much all interactions with men (in a flirting/dating context) as if I have the upper hand.  When one proves me wrong, by being intellectually stimulating enough, as well as physically attractive enough, and gets me wrapped around his little finger, that is the one I want!  I don't want to be submissive, I want to be dominated.  Once I am, and I'm physically attracted, and have an emotional connection, I feel very submissive to them, because I respect their strength and power (as well as their good heart) and yield to it. 

So, the driving force is to feel someone much stronger and more 'on top of things' so to speak than I am, physically, and intellectually (and I set the bar pretty high in both respects).  It turns me on in a primal way, and I crave it like nobody's business. 

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/9/2007 12:54:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me it is so much a part of who I am. It is not so much about sex as about being able to let go and knowing that someone is there to catch me. I am learning that not every man I'm attracted to is enough to make me want to submit, and some men make me want to submit without trying or attraction. 

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/9/2007 6:16:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Longevityshaft

One of the question I would like to know is why do women or men feel the need to be submissive or a slave? Why or what compels you?


what compels me?   is a man with a dominant, authoritative nature.  It taps into something internal within me.
 
 

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/9/2007 6:43:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well here comes a cliché answer, but really it is simply because it allows me to be myself, and free within myself, to be a submissive/slave, to please and obey the One.
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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/9/2007 7:29:22 AM   
Gardenista


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Status: offline 		Oh, man... putting my own desires and motivations into something resembling a well-thought out reply is not one of my strengths, but I'll give it a shot. =)

Handing over authority to my husband gives me breathing space. It makes me feel good. I'm a very conciliatory people-pleaser by nature, so it's wonderful to have an outlet for all that without getting bitten in the ass. Which has happened in the past. Taking a leadership role in any endeavor is just not something I'd want to do. ( But will, if I had to, as I mentioned in another post, lol). It just feels more comfortable this way. =)

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/9/2007 9:22:33 AM   
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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/9/2007 9:33:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Longevityshaft

One of the question I would like to know is why do women or men feel the need to be submissive or a slave? Why or what compels you?


Why or what compels me to be feminine?  Being submissive is no different an attribute than being female to me.

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/9/2007 10:17:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Longevityshaft

One of the question I would like to know is why do women or men feel the need to be submissive or a slave? Why or what compels you?


I think it's just personal preference.  Submissive/Slave vs. Dominant/Master .... some like chocolate, but not white chocolate... I wonder what compels the urge for chocolate over white chocolate???  I guess whatever is more thrilling or makes you feel better.  Who knows why one thing makes you feel better than another.  Maybe its just the individual with their unique comibination of personality, upbringing, genes, personal history?  If you feel better having someone at your whim, then you're not submissive/slave.  If you love to give up control or more.. then you prefer being submissive/slave.

I think the preference between submissive and slave is a little more complicated.  If you like having your life run totally by a Dominant/Master and all your needs either be met or not depending on your Master's whims, then that's slave.  But if you don't want to give up your life's direction or not have your needs met, but still would like someone else in the director's chair be in control / take the lead  at certain times  like in bed or home alone together, that's being submissive. 

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/9/2007 1:35:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's part of my inner nature.

I'm very good at managing, manipulating and using power and energy, and globally the description of submissive switch would suit me much better. Control isn't static or fixed and I don't think it ever is between two people, irrespective of whatever role they play. I serve Dommes rather than Doms, and am pretty adept at handing control, authority and domination from women, I can be like a human shock absorber for a lot of the nastier more feminine emotions and expressions but in that I'm invariably attuned to emotional signals I can interact in a way which is fluid and where - starting from a default submissive position - I can also take the initiative and assume control where necessary.

My submission is the primary vehicle as a means of expression of my innermost and deepest feelings for someone, which is why when in a relationship with another female I feel more comfortable in that secondary, submissive role.

But this is just me and a part of my nature, which is rather deep and complex anyway.

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/9/2007 4:43:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		until recently i didnt even know what a submissive was, as for what makes me this way i dont think anythig makes me be submissive i just naturaly am one. ive always been helpfull and generous toward others but it wasnt untill i was introduced to bdsm that i found my niche in life. its not that i didnt like football as a kid or anything like that,  im just myself serving M'Lady even just sitting at her feet rubing them after a long day or warming them when there cold, its just who i am. im not saying im not masculine ive served the army for 19 years deployed to 3 conflicts. im never truly at peace within my self like i am when im serving M'Lady.
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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/10/2007 8:46:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		There are some M/F that exist that just can not help but to bring the submissive nature out while others do not.
Master is one of those that reaches into the very core and compels lei'ah to be.

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/10/2007 11:09:58 AM   
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simply put a slave is who and what i am



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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/10/2007 12:16:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		honestly, for me its an intense desire to... please. not just anyone tho. truely i derive a great amount of pleasure and satisfaction by, pleasing Her- makeing Her happy. or i would...
also, i want Her guidance. sheltered and protected by Her as i take care of Her wants & desires. im not good at taking care of myself, alone. im just not.

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/10/2007 5:51:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's who i am. its part of my make up. i didnt dicsover that i was a submissive until recently. and  i have been more at peace with myself as of late than i have been in years

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/10/2007 5:59:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Longevityshaft

One of the question I would like to know is why do women or men feel the need to be submissive or a slave? Why or what compels you?


The Power of DV compels me!

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RE: Why or what compels you to be a Submissive or Slave? - 12/10/2007 8:44:35 PM   
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