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Lkg4MstrSacramen -> What's the point ? (12/8/2007 9:35:44 PM)
If your master is already married, has a family or even has several other slaves, What's the point? It seems rather limiting emotionally.

batshalom -> RE: What's the point ? (12/8/2007 9:41:58 PM)
The scenario is far from being emotionally limiting - it sounds to me like a chance to have a whole house full of people from which to feed my emotional needs. The atmosphere is appealing. To me, having my emotional needs met by one person seems, by its nature, more solitary and limiting. It's more a case of the individual making choices than it is a black and white issue.

Sky42 -> RE: What's the point ? (12/8/2007 9:57:14 PM)
Not everyone is 'in it' for the same thing. Some just want a bit of grilled peppers with their meal, some people make the grilled peppers their entire meal.

decstorm37 -> RE: What's the point ? (12/8/2007 9:59:27 PM)
For my Master and i that would never work. We don't share at all. With that said what works for us will not work for others. While what works for others might not work for us. Some people enjoy that life and it's all good for them. :)

camille65 -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 12:09:11 AM)
The point is that I love him, I utterly love him and he loves me. He is good for me & not just to me. He fills what I consider to be gaps in my 'self' and makes me strive to be the best 'me' which I happily do because it gives him pride in me.[:)]

exogenous -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 12:29:17 AM)
In certain ways emotional needs are limited when met by only one person. Family and friends (which is obviously more than one person) meet our emotional needs and that is fulfilling. Yet, for me, in an intimate relationship with a Dom, I respond better and grow more when it's one-on-one. I am a team player in family, friend, or work relationships. But when it comes to matters of D/s, I prefer the focus and devotion of and from one person, which has not been limiting, in my past experiences.

hisannabelle -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 2:31:17 AM)
greetings lking4mstrsacramen, i think camille put it so, so well, as did batshalom. personally, i would not prefer that particular scenario, but poly works very well for us in general so i can definitely understand the desire for it. it sounds like fun to me :) having more people to relate to, to love and be loved by, to spend time with...i'm all for it. respectfully, annabelle.

sexyred1 -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 4:09:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lkg4MstrSacramen If your master is already married, has a family or even has several other slaves, What's the point? It seems rather limiting emotionally. I don't understand it either, but may people find it works for them. For me, I find it difficult to find even one great person to connect to emotionally, so I cannot imagine sharing such an intimate relationship with many. Different strokes.

Gardenista -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 6:03:35 AM)
Not a dominant, but a submissive with a ready made family, so I'm rather glad he didn't ask that question upon meeting me. =)

eyesopened -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 6:03:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: Lkg4MstrSacramen If your master is already married, has a family or even has several other slaves, What's the point? It seems rather limiting emotionally. I don't understand it either, but may people find it works for them. For me, I find it difficult to find even one great person to connect to emotionally, so I cannot imagine sharing such an intimate relationship with many. Different strokes. Not every bdsm dynamic includes emotional attachment much beyond friendship. i've had two wonderful Dominants in the past to whom i had no real emotional connection beyond simple fondness. The emotional connection was not important for me at that time with those people. shrug Poly relationships do not work for me but i can certainly understand that some folks thrive in having an entire extended family within their lifestyle and it works quite well and is very emotionally satisfying for them.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 6:09:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lkg4MstrSacramen If your master is already married, has a family or even has several other slaves, What's the point? It seems rather limiting emotionally. huh? did i miss something in your opening statement? perhaps you should direct this to the person you're referring to privately. i did the married dom scene before meeting Daddy and found it wasn't my cup of tea. although Daddy isn't married, we agreed on the type of relationship that's right for us and after a year, it's still going strong.

TysGalilah -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 6:13:41 AM)
There is life outside the box...and I am glad I can think that way.

daddysliloneds -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 6:31:40 AM)
the point, no matter how it's put to you, is that not everyone fits into what you might consider an ideal relationship, but it is ideal for them and that's all that matters.

ELUSIVE1 -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 6:45:40 AM)
the point? well some of the great Masters that have several slaves have them for a reason...because of the way they treat their slaves...and I have also noticed that the women/slaves that love these men aslo seem to love or at least respect eachother, because they share love for the same man...don't put it down if you have never experienced it...

DesFIP -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 10:32:00 AM)
You might as well ask what is the point for a happily married sub, to a man who doesn't like BDSM, to seek fulfillment in this one small area outside the marriage? Or why a person who likes animals but travels for work 70% of the time just volunteers occasionally at the shelter instead of adopting their own dog? Now this wouldn't work for me, but that doesn't mean it can't possibly work for anyone else.

IrishMist -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 11:17:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lkg4MstrSacramen If your master is already married, has a family or even has several other slaves, What's the point? It seems rather limiting emotionally. Emotions are not defined or limited by whether or not you live with a person; or by whether or not that person can spend every waking minute with you.

TethersEnd -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 11:32:48 AM)
Limiting Emotionally? ........ I find what your speaking of limiting!

porkchop -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 12:28:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TethersEnd Limiting Emotionally? ........ I find what your speaking of limiting! This topic and the quoted post reminded me of the words of an acquaintance: "Love MORE, not less. Why limit yourself?" Although I'm currently involved in a poly "family"-type relationship, I'd never considered it that way and find it a refreshing perspective.

Elorin -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 12:46:15 PM)
The point is that you can find emotional fulfillment without having to be the sole focus of someone else's attention. Which allows you to share your attention and love with more people than just him. It means you can love his family and wife, you can find out the meaning of compersion, you can perhaps love and care for children without carrying a child to term. You can do "family" things without having to deal with your perhaps dysfunctional family blood ties. The potential in a poly household is amazing, and the lack of limitations - like wanting one person to fill all of your needs - is extremely freeing. If it's not for you, great, but the point is the same as the point in any relationship - BDSM, romantic, or otherwise. To find happiness and fulfillment.

SirJohnMandevill -> RE: What's the point ? (12/9/2007 4:01:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lkg4MstrSacramen If your master is already married, has a family or even has several other slaves, What's the point? It seems rather limiting emotionally. Marital status can and does change, albeit it's never easy. If a Dom insists on having other subs, then you either have to accept that or move on. Again...never easy, I'm sure. Just my .02 zlotys. Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

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