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just curious - 12/9/2007 1:34:09 AM   
CliarSiofra


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Now i've been using the interner since i was 14 ish.

Cyber as a term has many meanings to me. just depends on context. so i'm looking though my email and i see the words that just make me groan.

"do you want to cyber." mind you this is after reading an obnoxious email so i send a simple and to the point email back. "i don't cybersex, if you read my profile you would know this."

So he brings up the point that he didn't mean cyber sex i ment cyber BDSM to roleplay.

now being the cynic i am i had to take a moment to breath i naturally retorted well most people who role play cyber bdsm do it to get off. and futher point in my profile at the time stated no males.

anyway to get to my point

would you have had the same initial reaction as i would?

Because i understand there are those who scene online, i have to, but usually with those i have collared and understood its not for sexual. but i never heard of the term Cyber or cyber role play in the context BDSM in a non sexual gratifiaction menthod.
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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 3:05:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		To me, there's a huge difference between cybering and online BDSM. In fact, I've never heard someone say "cyber" and not mean "/licks nipples". 

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 3:09:14 AM   
CliarSiofra


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Status: offline 		I always thought so too.

maybe i should have say
/kiss my.....

Nah, i think he really would have ;)..

I did recall a feeling of. "Ok does he think i'm that gulible...or has he really convinced himself this is the total truth.

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 6:01:01 AM   
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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 6:07:06 AM   
fsub4use


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Status: offline 		yet another reason to not answer emails of people who have disrespected one by ignoring one's limits.  what nonsense!  i think your reaction was right on track.  he didn't read your profile and lied, did read your profile and decided that your limit didn't pertain to HIM, or he's just lying to himself, as he touches his swelling nether regions, desperate to feel the release of his.... you know.

/me giggles at my own cleverness

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 6:12:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		When I get emails like that I keep it very simple and reply "no thanks" rather than asking what they mean or indicating what I think they mean, because then I have drawn them  into a conversation  which expresses a possible interest depending on what they mean and it gives them the opportunity to try and convince me to participate. if they still try after saying no thanks then I use the block button

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 6:40:54 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CliarSiofra

So he brings up the point that he didn't mean cyber sex i ment cyber BDSM to roleplay.


i guess that's the new way of asking if you cam


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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 7:50:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		Years ago I would have done that.  Now I just click the x.  If I'm not going to take the time to try and reach out and discern whether he's really just being a wanker or really just doesn't know better and wants to learn more, then it's really not appropriate to lash out.

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 7:53:38 AM   
CliarSiofra


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Status: offline 		oh i did block him especially after he called me a fat cow... real mature huh?

it still amuses me.

i guess i do feel cheated i was half way expecting an A/S/L request.

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 9:20:17 AM   
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U hrt my widdle feewings if u dunt want my winky

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CliarSiofra
oh i did block him especially after he called me a fat cow... real mature huh?



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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 9:20:50 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CliarSiofra
usually with those i have collared and understood its not for sexual. but i never heard of the term Cyber or cyber role play in the context BDSM in a non sexual gratifiaction menthod.


The two have always been synonymous to me, so your reaction was right on.

My .02 zlotys: I've had no problem cyber-Dominating submissive women, but ONLY with subs I've already gotten to know as a person either by a great deal of online/phone conversation or meeting in person. And yes, it almost always was for both of us to "satisfy" ourselves.

Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 9:26:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		Possibly you could have said "Sure, now bend over and take your caning like a good little boy".

Basically men don't read profiles. I got one today that said "Greetings to the sub". That was it. Now does that mean I am the one twue sub and the rest of you need to follow in my footsteps? Does that mean I was collared by him without even knowing about him? In this case it meant that I wrote him back suggesting he tells his mother about his tendency to try to pick up obviously taken women and ask her to give him a refresher course in manners.

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 11:54:26 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Basically men don't read profiles. I got one today that said "Greetings to the sub". That was it. Now does that mean I am the one twue sub and the rest of you need to follow in my footsteps?


Ohh please miss One Twue Sub, enlighten me as to how I can emulate your One Twue Sub ways and perhaps be worthy of my very ownty downty email from the One Twue Dominate 

*grin*



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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 12:02:34 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP
Basically men don't read profiles.


Basically all women can't park cars as well right? 

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 12:27:05 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP
Basically men don't read profiles. I got one today that said "Greetings to the sub". That was it.


LOL. While it is not true of *every* man, there is a decided preponderance of men on this kind of site who do not read profiles. What is amusing is when I receive emails stating that they really liked my profile. I will reply by asking what it was about my profile that they liked so much. Since I have nothing on my profile anymore, it does tend to weed out the wankers who've learned to use "I like your profile" as a come-on.

Just my thoughts........

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 12:53:22 PM   
FullCircle


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Status: offline 		The reality of the situation is that men generally take it upon themselves to do all the pursuing traditionally and here also. Women also a lot of the time don’t write to people but they expect people to write to them first. If you had an equal amount of women making first contact as you do men, you may see idiots come in both sexes.
 
I’m not saying men always make the first move but they defiantly do so with confidence. I admire confidence it’s a good quality to have, even if the person is an idiot. I think it is also unfair to judge a whole group of people based on the stupidity of a few because there are plenty of genuine men out there looking. Also the gender ratio of sites like this is so heavily tipped towards male users, that you will get acts of desperation.
 
Many women use photo’s right? There is no reason to use the photo but you do it to attract people, you could call that desperate. Men try the same thing with their ego because society doesn’t place much sex appeal on their bodies. Maybe it is a curse that women are seen as sex objects by society but there are plenty of them using it to their advantage in a way that a man can never do.

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 12:53:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		Anyone who uses the phrase "Want to cyber?" is going to get the same response as "How R U?"
Deletion.
If they want to cyber role play or do online domination, they can use complete sentences to describe and/or ask for it. I'll possibly still delete them, but the likelihood that I will respond goes up by leaps and bounds for the complete sentences.

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 2:09:26 PM   
CliarSiofra


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sublizzie

LOL. While it is not true of *every* man, there is a decided preponderance of men on this kind of site who do not read profiles. What is amusing is when I receive emails stating that they really liked my profile. I will reply by asking what it was about my profile that they liked so much. Since I have nothing on my profile anymore, it does tend to weed out the wankers who've learned to use "I like your profile" as a come-on.

Just my thoughts........


I find that people who actually read the profile have more to say that a one liner. "I like your profile." I have commented on someone's picture but usually cause i really like the corset or BOOTs. i mean what girl should have a nice pair of... Boots :).


i still have to say my favorite ones are the cover letters some write.

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 2:43:28 PM   
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I always reply 'Yee-haa!!!!'

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RE: just curious - 12/9/2007 3:21:05 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sublizzie

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP
Basically men don't read profiles. I got one today that said "Greetings to the sub". That was it.


LOL. While it is not true of *every* man, there is a decided preponderance of men on this kind of site who do not read profiles. What is amusing is when I receive emails stating that they really liked my profile. I will reply by asking what it was about my profile that they liked so much. Since I have nothing on my profile anymore, it does tend to weed out the wankers who've learned to use "I like your profile" as a come-on.

Just my thoughts........


There are plenty of women who don't read profiles either. I have gotten my share of "I like your profile"s and responded to each and every one asking them what is it about my profile that they liked?. I have yet to get a reply...

Of course, while people gripe about others not reading profiles, there is also a preponderance of people that don't have anything on their profile to respond to.

Perhaps more people read your profile than you think. One of my favorite instances was the person who had this as her profile "This was written just for you, I bet you feel special" then later complained that she got ~4000 messages that were closely related to what she wrote, over the course of about six months. The problem is that profiles are a self-weeding situation. You will only get responses from those who have either;

A: Read your profile and liked it
B: Haven't read or don't care what the profile says

You have no idea how many are in category C: Read your profile and decided they weren't interested in messaging you. Of course every woman is so wondrous that no one could read her profile and decide they weren't interested

So the better your profile is at attracting who you think is a good match, the more (relatively) messages you will get from people who haven't read your profile, because the others did read, decided you weren't a match, and did not contact you. Of course this is just me being a wet blanket on a perfectly good rant

Honsoku

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