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takenbyjohnr07 -> what do You think (12/10/2007 5:12:28 PM)
about a sub/slave who acts bratty on purpose or who tries to get in trouble on purpose? Do You ever feel that they are in more control than You are when they do this?

chellekitty -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:16:46 PM)
if getting punished is what the sub or slave wants then the Dominant would be rewarding the sub/slave by punishing them....take a note from dog training and ignore the behavior you don't like...but because you are dealing with a human being, figure out why they are acting like that if you don't like the behavior...offer them an alternative...reward the behavior you do like....

Level -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:17:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 about a sub/slave who acts bratty on purpose or who tries to get in trouble on purpose? Do You ever feel that they are in more control than You are when they do this? I think that's the perfect time to throw them out the front door.

tricia -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:20:35 PM)
Level, You are too funny and I couldn't agree more.

MystressDream -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:20:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 about a sub/slave who acts bratty on purpose or who tries to get in trouble on purpose? Do You ever feel that they are in more control than You are when they do this? I think that's the perfect time to throw them out the front door. *I tend to agree with this post. I don't tolerate brats. IMO, they are manipulating and annoying.*

Level -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:21:45 PM)
Hey there tricia [;)] I was being serious! [:D]

MissMagnolia -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:23:51 PM)
Topping from the bottom = BAD BAD BAD

tricia -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:24:41 PM)
Oh, i know. It's your bluntness I find charming. And kinda funny.

chellekitty -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:25:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MystressDream quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 about a sub/slave who acts bratty on purpose or who tries to get in trouble on purpose? Do You ever feel that they are in more control than You are when they do this? I think that's the perfect time to throw them out the front door. *I tend to agree with this post. I don't tolerate brats. IMO, they are manipulating and annoying.* and if the behavior was something new in a 5 year relationship? i don't throw away people...sometimes the behaivor is indicative of something deeper going on...and i agree, the behavior is not acceptable...but a single act or a single series of acts is not all there is to a person....

chiaThePet -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:26:25 PM)
Some of us aren't bratty, we're playful, and we're not looking to cause trouble, we just like to keep things interesting. We also know when to cut the shit and assume the position. chia* (the pet)

IrishMist -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:27:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 about a sub/slave who acts bratty on purpose or who tries to get in trouble on purpose? Do You ever feel that they are in more control than You are when they do this? Depends on what kind of reaction they get by being bratty on purpose.

Level -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:37:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tricia Oh, i know. It's your bluntness I find charming. And kinda funny. *Charming and* funny? Lovely lady, you made me smile. Thank you.**

Level -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:39:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chellekitty quote: ORIGINAL: MystressDream quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 about a sub/slave who acts bratty on purpose or who tries to get in trouble on purpose? Do You ever feel that they are in more control than You are when they do this? I think that's the perfect time to throw them out the front door. *I tend to agree with this post. I don't tolerate brats. IMO, they are manipulating and annoying.* and if the behavior was something new in a 5 year relationship? i don't throw away people...sometimes the behaivor is indicative of something deeper going on...and i agree, the behavior is not acceptable...but a single act or a single series of acts is not all there is to a person.... Good points, chelle. But I'd still likely throw them out the door. Not permantly, however, at least not until it looked like things would not be resolved.

chellekitty -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:43:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level Good points, chelle. But I'd still likely throw them out the door. Not permantly, however, at least not until it looked like things would not be resolved. fair enough...personally, i would not want to be with someone who could not support me through my trouble times as well as the easy ones...

Level -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:47:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chellekitty quote: ORIGINAL: Level Good points, chelle. But I'd still likely throw them out the door. Not permantly, however, at least not until it looked like things would not be resolved. fair enough...personally, i would not want to be with someone who could not support me through my trouble times as well as the easy ones... Understandable. But I'm not sure I would want to be with someone that dealt with her troubled times in a bratty manner. We all act wrongly, at one time or another, and make mistakes, and say shitty things. I'm just not necessarily seeing that in the same category as "bratty", although it could be.

laurell3 -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 5:49:26 PM)
I guess that's the question...what is "bratty". I've seen people on this site that are D types say they like bratty. I've always thought the word implied negative behavior to get attention. It always seemed contrary (to me) to submission personally. (shrug)

Level -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 6:00:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 I guess that's the question...what is "bratty". I've seen people on this site that are D types say they like bratty. I've always thought the word implied negative behavior to get attention. It always seemed contrary (to me) to submission personally. (shrug) Yes, laurell, and "bratty" is different, for different folks. Personally, what I find bratty isn't something I am tolerant of. Well said.

DesFIP -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 6:02:22 PM)
Why do you care what works for other subs? If they like this, and their partner likes this, then who are you to say they are more trouble than they're worth? If the sub in question is a new one added to your relationship and she's very different from you, then that's what he wants in her, but not in you. Accept it or not. If it's just someone you know who is different than you, then again I ask why you care so much about other people's relationships. A lot of people do enjoy that "you've been a naughty girl and need to be punished". They have every right to enjoy what they enjoy.

RumpusParable -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 6:03:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 about a sub/slave who acts bratty on purpose or who tries to get in trouble on purpose? Do You ever feel that they are in more control than You are when they do this? Yes, or at least attempting to be. -And that's why I don't put up with it in my relationships. As I've said many times: playfulness I very much enjoy, but brattiness I do not waste time with.

szobras -> RE: what do You think (12/10/2007 6:05:37 PM)
If I am choosing give what they desire through acts of negative attention, than I would say that I am giving them control at the time. If it is new behavior, certainly something needs to be addressed on a deeper level. If it is not, then we have never reached a point of a relationship. I do not do negative attention.

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