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interview questions - 12/11/2007 10:31:56 PM

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Greetings everyone. I am wondering if anyone has a possible list of "interview" questions, or questions that can be used to have a submissive open up about themselves..I am not talking about a check list but rather questions that would require a sentenced response.?? thanks in advance

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RE: interview questions - 12/11/2007 10:57:58 PM

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Someone asked in another forum (I think) about a similar subject. I posted my application/questionnaire over there. Here's the link.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1467731/mpage_1/key_questionnaire/tm.htm#1467872

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RE: interview questions - 12/12/2007 6:05:23 AM

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Before I even ask someone to fill out an application, I ask four questions that are a huge part of determining whether or not that's even a good use of time. I ask a lot of questions, I'm only mentioning these four because they are specific to differences in my household that are perhaps greater than normal and which relate to the fantasy versus reality problem I see.

What is a dominant?
What is a submissive?
What is an owner?
What is a slave?

If their answers do not very closely match with my own, there is no way they would fit in my household. There is only so much that training can realistically modify.

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RE: interview questions - 12/12/2007 8:29:28 AM

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In addition to the regular BDSM interests and other questions already listed in this thread I like to find out about the person a little bit. I use the questions from Marcel Proust. A similar format of these questions is used on Inside the Actor's Studio and are quite revealing. If given a one word answer you can then ask the person to explain further. Some questions are:

What is your favorite cuss word?
If you had another occupation what would it be?
Who is your hero/heroine?
What is your biggest pet peeve?

And so on. It is extremely important in my world for a submissive to be able to carry on a somewhat acceptable conversation. I find using this type of questioning really lets me see if they have imagination/creativity/personality. Using this format has also provided many ideas for scenes and sessions that might not be thought about by just asking the normal BDSM questions. At the first meet with the girl who is now mine, the answer to one of her questions is what created her scene name. I asked her favorite color which also happens to be the color of her eyes. she is now My girl blue.

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RE: interview questions - 12/12/2007 9:57:41 AM

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If people and dating could be reduced to a formula, I don't think it would be worth doing anymore.

Frustration, failure, and disappointment are popular, recurring topics here, but I think they can all be bypassed by simply enjoying the process of meeting other people and learning about yourself and them on the way.

I have found that I can build a rapport with many people, and that makes most of my interactions with others a win-win situation.

Also, some form is disappointment and frustration in endemic to all human relations, so I just see that as part of the landscape of putting myself out there.

Is sum, if you believe your actions will be rewarding (as opposed to disappointing) -- even if its just in little ways --- you'll be well positioned to grow, develop, and have fun while you search for someone right for you.

When you consider disappointment merely part of the human landscape, you won't get down too much or give up. You'll just know its the equivalent of a rainy day that will pass.

I think equating a method (the right interview questions) to success overlooks the soulfulness of human connections.

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RE: interview questions - 12/12/2007 12:31:16 PM

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Thank you for the responses...and thank you for the link to the other thread...I found the suggestions there very helpful. Its all about getting to know the person before you meet...see if there is any reason...just as I amopen to answering any questions he/she has of me....again thanks for the help to the ppl on this thread aswell as the others that posted on the other one.

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RE: interview questions - 12/12/2007 1:37:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Someone asked in another forum (I think) about a similar subject. I posted my application/questionnaire over there. Here's the link.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1467731/mpage_1/key_questionnaire/tm.htm#1467872

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The questions I found the most intriguing were:

K. What has been your greatest accomplishment and your greatest failure?
L. What have you learned from both?

I'm certain you must gain great insight with the answers to those questions!

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RE: interview questions - 12/12/2007 2:13:26 PM

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for me the usual are always limits, experiences, curiousities, hobby's in day to day life (you would be suprised how you can use them in bdsm) what attracted them to the lifestyle. all very very general but a good starting key

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RE: interview questions - 12/14/2007 3:45:08 AM

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What attracted you to bdsm....The answer I am looking for, "that it is your soul" The wording doesn't matter.

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