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MrKing -> RE: Oh so tired! (2/6/2004 10:12:08 AM)
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I was close friends with a successful prodomme for several years and I can't think of anyone I've known who worked harder.
One thing a Pro has to be is more flexible, more knowledgable, and more willing to accommodate the kinks of others that don't ring their own bells.
The other thing I noticed, and that she agreed with, as she used me as a wailing wall to vent about her day often enough, was that there was almost no overlap between the public scene and her clientele. Those who came to her, at least, were usually closeted, but more importantly, often had something they felt driven to be punished for. The other major sort was the powerhouse male on the edge of burnout. Give him a good spanking and put him in a diaper for an hour and he was good for another month in the boardroom.
Very practical, straightforward, non-sexual (for her, anyway) jackleg psychology.
But sometimes she screwed up. One client actually drove her past her own limits; demanding a degree of physical punishment for some un-named sins that left her a quivering wreck.
The other required trait is hellacious empathy, and when you have to empathise with truly sick souls, sometimes the slime sticks.
I was babysitting for her that day - I took one look at her, put a blanket around her, went to her stash and rolled a fatty out of pure BC bud. It's the only time I've ever prescribed pot, much less enough that I knew I was gonna get an unpleasant contact high. Then I handed her beers, sandwitches and listened to her for about four hours of straight freakout venting, took her to bed, undressed her, and spent an hour massaging her back and neck until she stopped twitching and fell asleep.
I think she fucking earned that two grand. Oh, she cut him off after that.
Another one, a few years before, turned out to be violent - his kink was struggling while being tied. Had to help with that one too, with extra hands and a well-placed knee.
Anyway, Dommes tend to be hardass about such people for a reason - and the reason is living thru scenes like that in real life and having to mop the excreta off the floor.
I respect Dommes but even were I able to pass for female (and some submales seem easily enough confused in that regard) I'd never, repeat, never ever put myself through that. There are easier ways to make a living....
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