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RE: 50/50? - 12/12/2007 2:58:09 PM

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We are a team. Together we have to put in 100%. Who does what is not even thought of.

For example, a dogsled team has a lead dog, but they all must pull together.

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RE: 50/50? - 12/12/2007 3:24:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: simplewhispers

What percentage would you say your role is in the Dom/sub relationship? Not just sexually, but in making household choices, responsiblities..... Just curious as to how the regular responsibilites are taken care of .

Thanks for reading.

Don't know that there is any percentage in place - He's Master, i'm slave - there are things i am 100% responsible for but they are still under His authority. There are other things He takes care of completely. Overall we discuss everything and my opinion is considered - considered, not necessarily acted on.

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RE: 50/50? - 12/12/2007 4:58:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Its 100/100 percent whether in reference to responsibility or in consideration of receiving and giving. Each of us is 100% responsible for our relationship and what occurs in it. Choices made consider what would best serve 'us' - not one of us.

We don't look at the fact that 100% of the money comes from one of us any more than we look at 100% of the laundry is done by one of us. We look at it as 100% of what has to be done is done usually by the person best suited, skilled, or best able to do so, but just as often as a team with a common goal. Decisions are based upon the same concept and having the same consideration to a common goal.

Our relationship is complementary not based upon one's needs and another's fulfillment of those needs. There isn't a situation where 100% of the ideas come from one side and 100% of the effort comes from the other. The situation is resolved with 100% effort from both, serving 100% of us.

*claps in appreciation* This has got to be the best answer I've heard and its something I've always said. Everybody is good at doing something and that's what the person should be doing in the house/relationship.

Thanks for the clarity

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RE: 50/50? - 12/12/2007 7:56:59 PM

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I gotta agree with Merc on this one. My partner does 90% of the driving, but I do 90% of the cooking. Together we make 100% of a fabulous relationship.

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RE: 50/50? - 12/12/2007 8:01:16 PM

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In my opinion based on my past live in relationships (not in one now) the equation is 100 percent. 50/50 can't apply becauase there are different things going on at different times. Or as I like to say 1+1=1

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RE: 50/50? - 12/13/2007 4:34:43 AM

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If your just asking about the household side and both people work then I agree it is 50/50 in a perfect wallgreen world. I would have to side with women doing more of the house work in that situation.

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RE: 50/50? - 12/13/2007 5:25:40 AM

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In our vanilla life it's 100/100. In our D/s life. Although he takes what i say into consideration. He is in charge 100 percent.

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