Littlepita
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ORIGINAL: sistermidnight
Hello Littlepita, please let me know the title of the "dady/lg dynamic explanation" and where I could possibly find a copy. Thanks-
I've posted this before but can't find where. I also don't know who orginally wrote the piece but here it is for you. 
Daddy Doms
This is about the misconceptions surrounding this aspect of D/s. I realize most think that it involves a father/daughter relationship. That isn't quite true; daddy/little girl is a much different level. I do not know if I can explain what I mean so I will simply talk about what it means to me. First, I should say that I am not trying to be a real father or a replacement for someone’s father. I am however the daddy. Its not necessarily about age play specifically (beyond the occasional school girl fantasy *s*) and the relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children. My sub will always be a very independent woman. I do have the ability (and she the propensity) to make her feel like a little girl, however, a much cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that she revels in, it is the safest place she has ever been, and it allows her the freedom to be all that she is without fear of reprisals.
So, what makes a daddy Dom? First and foremost he loves his little girl. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the tenderest part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him. Seeing her hurt however is not something a daddy Dom wants. He sees it as his job to protect her, both from the outside world and herself. He may love to cause her great pain in a scene, but he hates to be the one to hurt her emotionally. It hurts him to have to punish her, but he knows it is sometimes necessary. This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms and it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.
A daddy Dom knows the value of discipline, though at times his soft heart gets the best of him. He knows that in order for his little girl to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. He knows this hurts her, and that tears at his heart, but he also knows it is for her own good. A daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive..acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn't matter. To him she is beautiful. Many of you may be asking what separates a daddy Dom from any other Dom. In many cases very little. Hopefully they all provide love, strength, protection, discipline, and acceptance. I have heard daddy Doms described as a kinder, gentler, Dom. I like that definition though I know it won't apply to all. I guess when it really comes down to it I can't explain it. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.
Daddy/little girl does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants. Nor does it imply closet desires. It refers to the environment that two people have created. A daddy Dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he provides. So, what are these qualities? What is a daddy Dom? A daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe. He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care. But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold you to the image he thinks you should become. He sees in you someone who, in his mind, can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created. How does he achieve his goals? Through love, respect, and discipline. His love for his little girl goes without saying. He accepts every part of her and works to emphasize the good while improving the bad. He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance. It is this love that allows him to train her. He could not invest so much of himself in someone he did not love completely.
This love would not be possible without respect. A daddy Dom needs to feel great pride in his possession. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it's value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him. He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the little girl to really trust she must know he means what he says. He must constantly deepen her respect for him. If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded.
He needs to empower her as much as he wants to possess her and it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect. The discipline is also important when it comes to her protection, both from those outside the relationship and those within. He is the one who makes the decisions about how she will relate to the world in general and his discipline ensures that she follows these rules. I think most Doms have a bit of the daddy in them, taking on the role of male authority figure in their submissives life and using their power to enrich that life. daddy/little girl verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it's participants crave.
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“I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” – Anais Nin
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Not knocking others who do so for that reason, it just doesn't do a thing for me. 
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