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Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/13/2007 7:32:42 AM   
girlygurl


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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/13/2007 8:12:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		Gifts should always be a surprise, no matter we talk about subs or not subs. Asking the sub what she/he wishes is merely to know what goes on in the mind of the sub. What kind of wishes... what dreams... what values... what will bring her/him warmth and happiness. Such a knowledge is worth a lot to the Dom/Master.

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/13/2007 10:11:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		Don't you think that us Doms/Masters should have enough awareness and insight that we know what would greatly please them? If not, ask.

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/13/2007 10:18:29 AM   
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him/her with a Christmas gift? 


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My owner finds it infinitely easier to ask me what I'd like for Christmas and get me that - in fact thats something that my family does in general.  I, however, tend to surprise him in terms of my gift to him.

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/13/2007 10:37:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		It is my general rule for gifts with anyone, that I get not always give what they say they might want but what I would like for them to have.  Is that too controlling? ah...dominant!

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/13/2007 2:11:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Scandic Master~ Thank you for your input.  I agree with you about the surprises  although I am a bit difficult to surprise.  Merry Christmas to you!

Old Bastard~ Well, as a matter of fact I do think Doms/Masters should have enough awareness and insight of what pleases their subs/slaves.

Wildfleurs~ My family does the same thing, we'll asked for some ideas but usually I've got a pretty good idea anyway.  I try and buy things that one wouldn't normally purchase for themselves.

CMRTyson~ Your post made me giggle, thank you.  I suppose as the dominant you can do whatever you want  and your sub/slave will be happy with whatever you to believe she wants. hee hee

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/13/2007 6:30:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		I always pay attention to what really catches my slave's eye when we are at the mall or any store.
A couple of years ago we were looking at jackets and she tried on a pink leather and fringe coat that she looked stunning in. She really liked it, but I told her it looked bad on her. She was shocked at my reaction, and we left the store. Two weeks later she opened my Christmas gift to her and there was the pink coat. And she still looks beautiful in it.

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/13/2007 7:02:33 PM   
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I always pay attention to what really catches my slave's eye when we are at the mall or any store.
A couple of years ago we were looking at jackets and she tried on a pink leather and fringe coat that she looked stunning in. She really liked it, but I told her it looked bad on her. She was shocked at my reaction, and we left the store. Two weeks later she opened my Christmas gift to her and there was the pink coat. And she still looks beautiful in it.


awwwwwwww Estring she is a lucky slave to have such a thoughtful Master.  I bet she was just beside herself when she saw that jacket

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/13/2007 7:06:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's funny, she would periodically bring up the fact that I didn't think the jacket looked good on her. She was very mystified. She was very happy to see the jacket on Christmas. It probably restored the order in her world as well. Lol.

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/13/2007 10:29:38 PM   
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when in a going relationship / of course.

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/14/2007 6:04:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Daddy does both however this year, it's going to be a surprise though i did suggest a gift for me.

SO has several surprises for me to open when he visits next month.


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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/14/2007 6:30:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		Normally, he surprises me and they are always such wonderful surprises.  Somehow he always seems to magically know my mind and what I am longing for.

This year however, it is not a surprise.  In fact I already have my gift and the other part I will get the first of Jan.  Even though it is not a surprise , it still amazes me how spot on he knows what I want...

... I think that's even better then the actual pressie, having a man who knows me so well is a gift in itself.


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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/14/2007 8:33:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm really hard to buy for (so says everyone who knows me), so we've always found it easier to go shopping together and have me point out things I'd like. However, this year he had a great idea that surprised me a little (though I still got to pick what I got), he sent me to a website that sells US foods and candy in the UK and let me order whatever I wanted. I'm getting peanut butter for Christmas (and a few other bits) and I couldn't be happier.

Also know I'm getting a butchers block, kitchen knives, and a book I was after.

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/14/2007 6:06:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		My ex's family all write lists of what they want & everyone buys what's on the lists.  I find that extremely boring & not very creative, so I generally buy what I see that makes me think of each person.  I do the same for my "s-types".  I like the surprise and delight when they open something unexpected.

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/14/2007 9:31:03 PM   
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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/14/2007 9:47:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		I tend to pay attention to things that make her sit up and take notice.  Or whatever is her passion other than me at the time (i.e. she's knitting this year).  I always try to surprise her.  The latest was the collar I designed and made for her just before our groups anniversary bash and play party.  It was our 10th year together and the groups 9th.

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/15/2007 12:49:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		Whenever my husband and former Master asks me what I want for birthday.(coming up in a couple days) or Christmas, I reply, "I want what you want me to have." I feel that way about all gifts actually no matter who they are coming from.

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/15/2007 4:05:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		I mix it up a little - I insist on knowing what she wants and then after I have that, then buy a few extra bits that I expect she'd like. After all I'm human, fallible and could make a daft choice :)


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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/15/2007 1:17:12 PM   
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My owner finds it infinitely easier to ask me what I'd like for Christmas and get me that - in fact thats something that my family does in general.  I, however, tend to surprise him in terms of my gift to him

Same here.  Master just doesn't want to play a guessing game.  He wishes to get me something(s) I'll really like and, frankly, it's just easier for Him to ask me what I'd like.  It is much easier for me to buy Him something He'll really enjoy without asking.  I have tons of books, DVD's, and CD's - my favorite things - and He just can't have any way of knowing what I have and don't have.  He doesn't want to give me cash or a gift card - too impersonal He thinks - so He and I go out shopping together and we pick out what we want.  I wrap them and then we "surprise" each other with them on Christmas Day. 

We don't believe in spending huge amounts of money for this.  Therefore, we usually just pick out several small things instead of extravagant gifts.  I love certain types of perfume and I never buy it for myself.  What I picked out last year at Christmas has lasted throughout the year so I've asked for more this Christmas.  Board games is another thing I love and we enjoy playing together.  Those are all I've specifically mentioned as wanting this year.  He wants a leather checkbook cover since He never carries a wallet.  We're going to get those things for each other and He already had me pick out a new purse and He got a cool jean jacket.  I doubt we'll spend $100 each but we'll be very happy to get what we want (and won't be in any debt when it's over)................luci

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RE: Do you ask your s type or surprise - 12/15/2007 2:03:06 PM   
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We do both- and we celebrate Hanukkah.


Happy Hanukkah to you and yours LA

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