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Petition for a collar guidence - 12/13/2007 8:36:24 AM

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Hello to all, i guess i will start with a little background information. i started seeing a Domme a few months ago and things have progressed so far beyond what i ever expected. We just have a connection that i can’t explain. We have talked about Her collaring me and decided not to rush it as there is plenty of time and no need to move to fast. Last weekend before i left Her place to head home She gave me an assignment which i need some guidance with….She asked me to research petitioning for a collar and to take my time with it. As soon as I got home, i grabbed the two books i have to find they have nothing helpful in them on this topic. i got on the computer and much to my dismay i was only able to find a little bit of information. i have searched CM and found three threads which were helpful but i want to be sure i have covered all my bases. Point being i was wondering if anyone has any links they can point me to or would be willing to share what type of information you would or did put into a petition for a collar. i am not looking for things to say to Her that will all come from my heart. i just don’t want to miss any topics or areas or add to much information that will just overwhelm Her. Thank you all in advance for taking the time to read this and for your guidance.

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RE: Petition for a collar guidence - 12/13/2007 9:30:02 AM

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A link for you http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/slave_petition.html

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RE: Petition for a collar guidence - 12/13/2007 9:38:41 AM

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When I did my petition I had a HARD time searching for one. I eventually decided to follow my heart. From everything I found it was like a resume of what you could offer the Dominate. I also included what I needed out of the relationship. I included this because you don't get what you don't ask for. If you need play, include it, if you need cuddle time, include it. What I did was write a letter that said thank you for concidering me for this position in your household and then put together a list of what I could do for them and what it meant to me and then I wrote a special letter to the each seperatly and then the last thing I included was what I needed. It was funny but the thing that took me the longest was writing out what I needed. It was the thing that took the most effort. There is really not a lot out there about how it should be done. I think mainly it is because it is such a personal thing.

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RE: Petition for a collar guidence - 12/13/2007 10:22:43 AM

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look to the Castle Realm website archives under collaring and collaring ceremony

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RE: Petition for a collar guidence - 12/13/2007 10:37:13 AM

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i didnt petition for my collar. when Daddy and i were talking and deciding if we wished to be together, we discussed collaring, and i made my position (i liked the idea, as it gives me a solid sense of belonging to him) clear, and he made his clear (that yes, he does collar, and that in HIS time he would decide on it). we then left it.

we arent local to one another, although we do see each other as often as possible, and talk via computer nearly daily. i had a time where computer access wasnt possible, and he sent me a silver ID bracelet with his name for me engraved on it, so that i would know i was indeed, his, and called it a pre-collar.

in august he brought up, again, a collar, found one we both liked very much, and he bought it. i've been wearing it since.

i didnt beg it because he knew it was something i wanted. and he was ready to give it to me.

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RE: Petition for a collar guidence - 12/13/2007 10:42:41 AM

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lockmeupplease:
Although i had read the article that is a site i have never seen before and i can't wait to check it out more, thank you.

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When I did my petition I had a HARD time searching for one. I eventually decided to follow my heart. From everything I found it was like a resume of what you could offer the Dominate. I also included what I needed out of the relationship. I included this because you don't get what you don't ask for. If you need play, include it, if you need cuddle time, include it. What I did was write a letter that said thank you for concidering me for this position in your household and then put together a list of what I could do for them and what it meant to me and then I wrote a special letter to the each seperatly and then the last thing I included was what I needed. It was funny but the thing that took me the longest was writing out what I needed. It was the thing that took the most effort. There is really not a lot out there about how it should be done. I think mainly it is because it is such a personal thing.

Thank you for your response it was very reassuring that i am on the right path with the sort of outline i have made. i was concerned with stating too much of my needs as i don't want to sound like a needy/pushy all about me sub. But at the same time how is She supposed to know what i need if i don't tell Her. i have never been really good at expressing my emotion but since this has been on my mind my emotions have been pouring out of me unfortunately not always when i am around paper. i know nothing in this world can ever be perfect but i want so much for this to be as close to perfect as it can.

MasterSohun:
Castle Realm was the first place i went to find info on this but it has been down all week....grrrr.

i think really it all boils down to me just trusting my gut and laying it all out on the table.

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RE: Petition for a collar guidence - 12/13/2007 10:50:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Beans
Thank you for your response it was very reassuring that i am on the right path with the sort of outline i have made. i was concerned with stating too much of my needs as i don't want to sound like a needy/pushy all about me sub. But at the same time how is She supposed to know what i need if i don't tell Her. i have never been really good at expressing my emotion but since this has been on my mind my emotions have been pouring out of me unfortunately not always when i am around paper. i know nothing in this world can ever be perfect but i want so much for this to be as close to perfect as it can.

i think the part i bolded is your answer. in your petition to her, let her know your needs, your wishes for the future, what you have to offer her, how you feel about being collared to her and in her service, all the wonderful feelings that the idea of being bound to her starts in your heart and soul.

i'm 44, Daddy is 52. we've both been around the block a few times. in that, we both learned that communication is the key to a good foundation to any relationship. that doesnt mean we always know how to do it RIGHT, just that we keep trying till the other one understands where we're coming from.

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RE: Petition for a collar guidence - 12/13/2007 4:14:49 PM

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MasterSohun:
Castle Realm was the first place i went to find info on this but it has been down all week....grrrr.

Read early here the site has been shut down but someone posted about a site that keeps archived records of sites and here is the one for Castle Realm
http://web.archive.org/web/*/http://Castlerealm.com

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RE: Petition for a collar guidence - 12/13/2007 4:15:35 PM

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This topic has come up in my life a couple of times lately...so I've posted something in my LJ. It might be helpful to you.

http://masterfiremaam.livejournal.com/209018.html

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RE: Petition for a collar guidence - 12/13/2007 7:33:16 PM

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quote:

look to the Castle Realm website archives under collaring and collaring ceremony

Unfortunately Castle Realm is down. Hopefully this is not permanent.

Edited to add:
Through Maya's link i was able to access a part of Castle Realm, although not the entire site. I'd been trying to get to it through the home page and there is a problem with that home page. So....at least some of the articles there are still available for viewing.

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RE: Petition for a collar guidence - 12/14/2007 12:00:39 AM

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Thank you for your responce.. btw.. when I read my petition my Sir sat there with a HUGE HUGE smile and my Audrey cried.. and I cried and well.. I am collared.. remember.. no one will take care of you better then you.

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RE: Petition for a collar guidence - 12/14/2007 10:00:10 AM

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oh hell i didn't think about having to actually read it to Her....its one thing to get it on paper and give it to Her its another to have to read it out loud...i wonder if i will be able to read it with out crying like a little b*tch LOL.....Thank you all so much for taking the time to respond i feel much more confident in the outline i have....now its time to get writting.

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