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BondageSlaveMN -> RE: BDSM, a step backwards? (12/14/2007 1:52:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: simplyserves

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ORIGINAL: BondageSlaveMN
Hmmmmm. Are you positing that no evolution has occurred between present day Homo sapiens and say Homo erectus?


No, my statement was meant toward homo sapiens, or "modern man".  However my point is not that evolution hasn't happened or continues to happen, it's that evolution is not on a linear path or can be described accurately as having a forward or backward.

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ORIGINAL: BondageSlaveMN
There definately is such thing as equality in terms of abstract social constructs. Ideally, we are all born with equal rights (the Bill of Rights says so in America). In practice, of course, no two persons have the same rights. One can say that we all have the same legal rights, but I could show in great detail that such a statement is false.


There is certainly the concept of equality and that it exists but there is no such thing in reality.  The bill of rights doesn't supersede nature.  Rights can be equal because they're conceptual, and we can attempt to apply them equally.  We may come so close to succeeding that it's splitting hairs to suggest we haven't.  That said the statement that "all men are created equal" while a powerful statement is also a simplification.  Regardless of that it's certainly false.  All men, or people, are not created equal.  People are born different and some differences are more advantageous then others at varying times.

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ORIGINAL: BondageSlaveMN
As such, we should strive for equality for all persons. This is the ideal for which we are reaching.


I disagree.  I think we should strive for tolerance toward all people and to create a system that isn't competitive, but cooperative.

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ORIGINAL: BondageSlaveMN
Also, the ideology of "tolerance" only furthers the discrimination that it so adamently claims to fight against. For example, a person who says they tolerate homosexuals is merely stating that they indeed see a difference in status between the two lifestyles. They are really saying that they are the better for rising above the prejudice. They are mascarading around as righteous when in fact they still have the bias.


Well, I guess that is one way to look at it.  It's a bit cynical though.

If a person doesn't like homosexuals but tolerates them then what's the problem?  It's gonna happen and that seems like a pretty fair response on their part.   Also, they are all the better for having risen above the prejudice, at least in my opinion.



Firstly, I reread my initial response and see that it may have come off as a little confrontational and a bit half cocked. You have my sincere apologies, I just get very excited over academic debates and sometimes forget my manners at the door.
I agree, in the broad sense, that evolution cannot be described as having a backwards and a forwards. From a purely academic approach of the study of evolution, there is certainly a backwards, it's called gene regression and happens when a gene reverts back to a previous state. There is then deleterious and maladaptive mutations and lastly and most uncommonly adaptive mutation. This is, of course, splitting hairs and not really relevant to the argument at hand. So, to reiterate, I agree that there is no sense in analyzing the question: is BDSM an evolutionary backstep?

From a biological perspective, it could be argued either way that BDSM is maladaptive. I could argue that for some it is an efficient coping mechanism that ultimately leads to less harm to the subject. Then again, I could argue just as easily that BDSM is a waste of energy to the organism and as such is maladaptive. Again, I would like to focus on the broader concepts that relate to BDSM than the specifics of whether it is biologically advantageous or not.

Equality is indeed an abstraction. So are numbers and words. If you don't believe me, try to show me the number three. You will find it an impossible thing to do as the number three is an abstract thought to describe tangible things. I prefer to think that “all men are made equal” is a true statement insofar as social implications are concerned. Of course one man is born smarter than another and vice versa. In this sense, no man is equal to another, but I like to think – and I believe this was the intention of the founding forefathers – that what is meant is that no person is superior to another in a social setting. As I hinted at in my post, this model is not the one that is in practice today. In fact, this thought has spurred me to write a separate post about class versus caste and it's consequences for BDSM and vice versa.

In an ideal world, competition would not exist, I agree. I know I am probably going to get flamed for this next comment, but I'll take my chances. Either that or the feds are going to show up at my house and drag me to gitmo. Communism is the ideal government. I am not talking about pseudo-communism seen in the world today, but the communism describe by Marx. In this model, competition does not exist because society works together as a single, continuous unit. The reason communism doesn't work in reality is because the constituents of its society cannot put their own personal desires aside and serve the greater cause. I am not condoning communism, I am simply making a point using it as an example. So as we can see, cooperation is probably not going to work when human nature is taken into consideration. Competition is the next best thing because it spurs the people to advance by appealing to their greed and selfishness.

I personally don't have any issue with the idea of tolerance. I merely tolerate most of the people I meet for one reason or another. I would like to claim I have no prejudices but that would be an obvious lie. Anyone who claims to have no prejudice automatically gets written off as ignorant in my book. You are absolutely correct that my ideology regarding tolerance is cynical and depressing. Unfortunately this is the way I have thought my entire life and at this juncture I don't see the need to change it. I would probably be a happier person if I did though.




OrrisKitten -> RE: BDSM, a step backwards? (12/14/2007 2:30:25 PM)

Sorry if it came out unclear... I was just writing from my memory and my memory is not always the greatest. Here is the quote I used from the article that explains it slightly better than I can. I just want to say that although they use S/M as their reference point, in defining it, it was closer to BDSM in general than just S/M relationships. In academia, it seems in general, there is very little distinction between BDSM, Sadomasochism and the other little intircices that anyone who practices would be able to talk to you about. I have a huge gripe with this, although I appreciate the effort of some people to do research, I just find a lot of it is inadequate and too limited in many ways. The umbrella terms that they use seem to also inclue fetish (or don't make a difference between BDSM and a fetish and I've had the experience of them be identified as the same things) But anyway, the quote is from an article called "Sadomasochism in the United States: A Review of Recent Sociological Literature" that was published in the Journal of Sex Research in 1987 by Thomas S. Weinburg:

"It might be hypothesized, then... that individual sadomasochistic interests become institutionalized into an S&M subculture in societies that fill the following criteria: (a) dominance-submission relationships are embedded in the culture, and aggression is socially valued...; (b) there is a well developed and unequal distribution of power between social categories (e.g., the sexes, social classes, etc.), which may make the temporary illusion of its reversal erotically stimulating...; (c) there is sufficient affluence enjoyed by at least some segments of the population to enable them to experience leisure-time activities...; (d) imagination and creativity are encouraged and valued assets"



I bunched parts a and b as one since they seem to speak to the same issue, and c and d as one because they also refer to the same kind of idea, although I guess that is just a point of view I take and my own interpretation.




Rover -> RE: BDSM, a step backwards? (12/14/2007 3:00:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BondageSlaveMN

In an ideal world, competition would not exist, I agree. I know I am probably going to get flamed for this next comment, but I'll take my chances. Either that or the feds are going to show up at my house and drag me to gitmo. Communism is the ideal government. I am not talking about pseudo-communism seen in the world today, but the communism describe by Marx. In this model, competition does not exist because society works together as a single, continuous unit. The reason communism doesn't work in reality is because the constituents of its society cannot put their own personal desires aside and serve the greater cause. I am not condoning communism, I am simply making a point using it as an example. So as we can see, cooperation is probably not going to work when human nature is taken into consideration. Competition is the next best thing because it spurs the people to advance by appealing to their greed and selfishness.


Several comments:

1.  You're presuming that your "ideal world" is everyone's ideal world, and/or *the* ideal world.  You're certainly incorrect in the first instance, and likely incorrect in the second as well.
 
2.  You're elevating theory to a level that surpasses reality.  That's why people become so enamored with online... everything and anything is possible in the world of theory/fantasy/online... and reality cannot compete with it.  But reality isn't fantasy, and it isn't perfect. 
 
3.  So long as we're talking about fantasy/theory, I can imagine many other *more* ideal worlds (most feature me as the sole male in a world full of Swedish bikini contestants). 
 
John




WickedPrince -> RE: BDSM, a step backwards? (12/14/2007 4:14:41 PM)

Well I think it makes a good deal of sense to say that you need a fair amount of leisure time to dream up kinky erotic fantasies and actually PERFORM them instead of settling for "normal" sex. I doubt our early post-industrial ancestors who worked 16+ hour days had the time or inclination to craft the hardware and find the time to make use of it that we now invest, yes? Not to mention the additional time and effort it takes to find potential partners. 




WickedPrince -> RE: BDSM, a step backwards? (12/14/2007 4:35:56 PM)

Hrm, the problem with the communist ideal is that it takes all reason for a human to WANT to excel out of the equation. It removes every reason for one to want to struggle to better oneself. Why put in any extra effort if it's meaningless and will be unrewarded? Humans thrive on competition; it's a necessary part of our psyche. Even the most naturally submissive person on the planet will strive to become the best submissive they can be, or their life looses all meaning.

I have a personal theory; that our need to prove ourselves "better" begins (or at least goes into major overdrive) around puberty when we are realizing that we are becoming adults and soon it will be time for us to "leave the nest." We develop a NEED to believe we are at least as good - if not superior to - our parents in order to convince ourselves we CAN and NEED to go out into the world on our own. That drive to prove we can survive is what keeps us trying to prove our individual superiority for the rest of our lives.

Me = Armchair Philosopher. :)




Noah -> RE: BDSM, a step backwards? (12/14/2007 9:17:49 PM)


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ORIGINAL: OrrisKitten

Sorry if it came out unclear... I was just writing from my memory and my memory is not always the greatest. Here is the quote I used from the article that explains it slightly better than I can. I just want to say that although they use S/M as their reference point, in defining it, it was closer to BDSM in general than just S/M relationships. In academia, it seems in general, there is very little distinction between BDSM, Sadomasochism and the other little intircices that anyone who practices would be able to talk to you about. I have a huge gripe with this, although I appreciate the effort of some people to do research, I just find a lot of it is inadequate and too limited in many ways. The umbrella terms that they use seem to also inclue fetish (or don't make a difference between BDSM and a fetish and I've had the experience of them be identified as the same things) But anyway, the quote is from an article called "Sadomasochism in the United States: A Review of Recent Sociological Literature" that was published in the Journal of Sex Research in 1987 by Thomas S. Weinburg:

"It might be hypothesized, then... that individual sadomasochistic interests become institutionalized into an S&M subculture in societies that fill the following criteria: (a) dominance-submission relationships are embedded in the culture, and aggression is socially valued...; (b) there is a well developed and unequal distribution of power between social categories (e.g., the sexes, social classes, etc.), which may make the temporary illusion of its reversal erotically stimulating...; (c) there is sufficient affluence enjoyed by at least some segments of the population to enable them to experience leisure-time activities...; (d) imagination and creativity are encouraged and valued assets"



I bunched parts a and b as one since they seem to speak to the same issue, and c and d as one because they also refer to the same kind of idea, although I guess that is just a point of view I take and my own interpretation.



Thanks for sharing that snippet.

This 'possible hypothesis' seems as though it might usefully apply to BDSM engaged in as, well, little more than recreation. By definition recreation requires leisure time so the hypothesis flirts with being something like tautological in this regard.

BDSM can be a great deal more than recreation, and its "thrill" (arising from contravention of social norms, per the theory) can be much deeper. I would suggest that the word thrill runs out of gas at certain levels and I'd be tempted to say something like "deep resonance" instead.

Elsewhere, this author may display understanding of BDSM at levels deeper than play or sexual frisson. This snippet, to me, though, looks as though it were written by someone with a pretty shallow understanding of BDSM.

If the author's understanding came primarily from reviewing the extant sociological literature on the subject, rather than engaging in it himself, we can reasonably account for that lack of depth.

(If my speaking of depth strikes you as elitist or something, you can substitute the idea of scope for that of depth. The point I'm trying to make will be just as well served.)

Thanks again for sharing these ideas and your reflections on them.




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