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Argentopal -> RE: Joining In (12/13/2007 12:10:27 PM)
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Even if he really thinks that he can do what he is saying and nothing will happen, it will. I have watched it happen. Something seems to short circuit and all of a sudden he will be grinning and saying something like "well, it seemed appropriate at the time". It is a bell that cannot be unrung, as they say. It is a hurt and serious harm to you and your friend both; that is unless and until you ALL 3 agree to the possibility and probability that you ALL want this type of relationship. Your profile says your BF is also your Dom and y'all are new. So please read all these replies carefully. Change the previous statements to read ALL 4 of you, because you will be dishonoring your committment to your BF/Dom as well. He has told you to post about this, so you have told him - a good thing - and he is unsure what to do, because he is new. He did at least know to seek advice - another good thing. Can your friend pick you up and drop you off in safe public place nearby, if you cannot get a different ride? Can your Master tell her Master you are not available to be shared? Either you and your BF/Dom are OK with a poly-3 or 4 some arrangement or the other guy needs to just back off. Even things that seem to be said in jest can sometimes evolve into seriousness without you realizing it and one day you think he is kidding around and you, totally in jest, grin and say "sure" in a teasing joking manner and all of a sudden you have "agreed". Tred very carefully here, for everyone's sake.
EDIT - LMAO I just read http://www.collarchat.com/m_528879/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#528879 the EXACT same situation written in May of '06???? Oh wait then it was your MOM picking you up. In a year and half it hasn't changed? You have held out! WOW what a strong person to resist him and he has still put up with you! How is your baby? Your other ex's? OK, you got us - twice! Now I have better things to tend to than to try to offer some real life hard learned advice for your entertainment.
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