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Body Language - 8/17/2005 7:30:11 AM

RiotGirl

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Body language, personally, is something i think is more valuable then when a person opens there mouth. 8 times out of 10 it is more honest. Anyone ever sit in a group of ppl and just watch them, hearing what they say with out listening to their words? i tend to notice it all the time. i can notice when the man my mother is speaking to, his wife is getting jealous. Not by outward signs, but just by watching her. The way she moves, her eyes where do they go, does she ignore it completely, does she involve herself in the conversation? Does she look agitated? People have tons of little signs. i read ppl continueously. With Master, i read him constantly as well. Just by watching my mother walk, i can tell if she's pissed off. i hate to be egotistical, but i read very well, to where i can know things, i prolly shouldnt know.

the smile on my friends face while she was bickering with a guy i was dating. No matter how many times she tried to tell she DID NOT like the guy, i knew. i knew what would happen. Learning him, i knew what would happen. She would sleep with him, and he would use her. Wala, in 4 months time it happened.

with in 5 secs of walking into a room, i knew a girl had a crush on Master. Just by the greeting, watching her further i knew everything. Her body language gave her way. Tuning into one of her conversations, i knew who it was about and what the topic was. All i heard was "getting rid of one of her problems" but i saw the look at me and i knew. Took me a month or so to bust it out in the open. She sank herself really. With her attitude towards me, thinking she was hot stuff and it would work in her favor.

Point being, i read ppl so constantly that its second nature now. i rarely here what they say, and if i hear it, i dont listen, i look at it. i look for the meaning behind it.

Which is all great and stuff, but i read myself too. Gives me a complex. Especially around Master. i am used to hiding body language, tightening up if need by, controlling myself, but i am open around Master so i see it come out.

Here's the complex. When i SEE what my body language is saying. It all of a sudden becomes wierd. If i just let it "flow" i feel like i am looking for attention. Saying something with out saying it. If i tighten up, i feel like i am being dishonest. Very rarely do i know what to do.

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RE: Body Language - 8/17/2005 7:59:55 AM

Quivver

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Riot, I agree. Body language doesnt lie for the most part.
Thing is I have always assumed we all had this ability, or at least were tuned in the same way.
Maybe it's something in Sub's, dunno.................
As for my own body language, yea i've seen it give me away, i've tried to cover it and felt like
it was a lie even when it became obvious that i was the only one that noticed it. Seems it's like
having a direct line of repremand built in.
I'm not going anywhere with this other then to say, Yup me too...............

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RE: Body Language - 8/17/2005 8:11:51 AM

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i'm sure everyone has the ability.. just not every one tunes in. Which is why it gives everyone away. i just dont know what to do about it with Master. i get at odds with myself.

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RE: Body Language - 8/17/2005 8:34:50 AM

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Here's the complex. When i SEE what my body language is saying. It all of a sudden becomes wierd. If i just let it "flow" i feel like i am looking for attention. Saying something with out saying it. If i tighten up, i feel like i am being dishonest. Very rarely do i know what to do.

Interesting perspective.

Personally since I KNOW the power of body language, I use it. The same way I use the power of my words. When working with someone to build up their self esteem one of the first thigns I focus on with them is their awareness of their body language and posture.

By learning and using those "tricks of the trade" it can be an excellent way to get to know people and secure yourself. Take advantage of it like you should any skill.

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RE: Body Language - 8/17/2005 10:28:05 AM

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Interesting topic, as I just had it proven to me that I had read someone perfectly, no matter how he tried to deny it. I flat out told him he wasn't being honest with me, he tried to deny it and play it off ... then last night, he told me I was dead on target, he just hadn't wanted to admit it to me.

I have been trained to watch body language multiple times for multiple reasons ... at this point, I use it mostly to determine suicide risk while doing intakes for the jail. I have always been aware of it, and thankfully have learned to control a lot of my body language - especially working with the prisoners.

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