RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s

RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master

Message

Lureaetagg -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/16/2007 11:29:31 AM)
And for the record how many dom/mes do you see doing the Y/you bs? Honestly? Come on... It doesn't mean anything.

CalifChick -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/16/2007 6:11:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lureaetagg You should be looking for other teenagers and they won't be treating you rudely because of your age. They'll be treating you rudely becasue your an idiot. And your slave, if she actually exist and isn't just your left hand should be just as embrassed for you as I am. Bravo, Lureae, bravo. Cali

Lureaetagg -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/16/2007 6:58:48 PM)
Thank you Thank you Flames will be used to make me smores Compliments serve to make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside [:D]

kennyautopsy -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/17/2007 7:30:27 AM)
We've known eachother for 3 years in real life,we're engaged, and she moved.And I moved.We weren't always this far apart, but circumstances changed. quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick You're 18 and you have an 18 yr old slave that is oh... about 2500 miles away from you, and you and she are both looking for someone to train her... So when did you fly out there and meet her in real life? How often do you go see her? How long did you know her before she became your slave? Cali Enquiring minds want to know.

kennyautopsy -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/17/2007 7:35:44 AM)
My interest in the lifestyle has nothing to do with a void that I need to fill. I found this a few months ago with a local, and as I've read,researched and been involved in a BDSM relationship, it's something that I enjoy very much. And no it's not just having someone at my beck and whim, but to be responsible to and for someone else is an amazing feeling. Since we started our D/s relationship, it has made our bond exponentially stronger and probably has made our relationship unforeseeably better. quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 quote: ORIGINAL: kennyautopsy You make a fairly valid point through most of you response, but you don't know me or anything about me. This is just the point I'm making. People (in or out of BDSM) make assumptions based on superficial ideals. you haven't taken the time to interact with me on any significant level to determine my level of maturity, or if I'm one of these teenagers who believes they're "da man".All I'm saying is, isn't it possible that we can learn from eachother rather than it being a one way street? *You're quite correct, of course I don't know you* personally but you're also wrong - I know something relevant about you; you're a teenager (assuming your profile is correct).** But consider that I wouldn't enlighten a tot about the right way to use matches just because he/she asked, either! I would if I considered them mature and responsible enough to appreciate the dangers, but still NEVER at that young age! And that would go for any tot, including the ones I don't know personally! So my questions to your 18yo self still remain valid - and unanswered.... Why are you even in the lifestyle? What need or void does a D/s relationship fulfill for you that your doubtless numerous previous egalitarian relationships did not? 'Cause right now I'm sitting here thinking it's something really teen-lame like how it's cool to be different to your peers.... Or perhaps you've heard that your slave doesn't get to reject you in the way those pesky sexual equals are inclined to tease you with....? And what of these subs who don't take you seriously because of your age.... They might be thinking (more age prejudice coming) that you still live at home with the oldies. You have your life together and happening? You know, at least your own place and independent financial means etc? Those two would sure go along way to convincing a sceptical sub that "control" is not just a buzz word you've picked up while reading more about BDSM than some 53yo like me ever read.... As for your question, I'm at a loss as to what I'd wanna learn from an 18yo dom, to be frank. Aside, that is, from the unanswered questions I've posed you.... Focus.

kennyautopsy -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/17/2007 7:41:12 AM)
Thank you. Your words are very helpful, and I'll certainly look into many of those things. I want constructive criticisim and that's what I'm looking for, but it's kind of hard to find that amidst all of the "shut up and sit down kid". Thanks again, Kenny quote: ORIGINAL: xPlayfulxCouplex Been interested and slowly exploring BDSM since I was 19 or so kenny and while sometimes age was a limiting factor more often than not the only limiting factor I saw was how honest I was with everyone I dealt with (from teacher to pet), how willing I was to be forthcoming with what I knew (and more importantly what I don't know), and my ability to accept criticism as a constructive way to improve myself so that I can better improve whoever I might find who deems ME worthy enough to submit to. Yes, not being able to find someone to "own" can be frustrating but you should also look at it from the other side of the coin. Your experience is not all encompassing and your age is just an easy way for others to quickly try and guage just what your "experiences" might be and not just from a BDSM standpoint. Instead of getting frustrated, horny, and down here are a few things that have worked for me in the past. First, use the time you have (since you don't "own" anyone yet) to better put your life in order so that when someone special does appear as mana from the heavens you can quickly help her step into your (hopefully) stable life. Second, use this down time you have without someone special to go out and learn everything you can about the aspects of BDSM you are interested in. I don't just mean reading about it online, watching BDSM porno flicks, and reading BDSM fiction novellas. Go out and find some of these older people who DO have more experience then you and get in touch with them. Be personable and eager to learn, ask them questions about their techniques, dangers, safety protocols, how things make them feel, how they react to different situations. Then take the next step and setup a time to go hang out with them, kind of like job shadowing, go walk through a day in their lives (normal everyday interaction) and soak it all up like a sponge. Keep building your contacts and circle of friends so that when your friends see a girl who is someone you might be interested in they can vouch for you and for your experience. Get out and go to the different parties, conventions, and classes that are offered within reasonable distance from where you live. It is all helpful in the long run and will enable you to expand your net so to speak. Lastly, when you get really down because you are alone or you feel like what you are seeking isn't out there, go check out some of the inspirational stories you see of people who have found what they were looking for. It isn't all fairy tale endings and ginger bread cookies but there are enough real people connecting that it will help you refocus yourself and get back into the game enough to keep searchin Age can play a factor but it all comes down to the person and what they are willing to do to accomplish their goals. Best of luck in your search. Levi.

kennyautopsy -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/17/2007 7:56:37 AM)
And I'm going to see her in january.then we're going back home in march. quote: ORIGINAL: kennyautopsy We've known eachother for 3 years in real life,we're engaged, and she moved.And I moved.We weren't always this far apart, but circumstances changed. quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick You're 18 and you have an 18 yr old slave that is oh... about 2500 miles away from you, and you and she are both looking for someone to train her... So when did you fly out there and meet her in real life? How often do you go see her? How long did you know her before she became your slave? Cali Enquiring minds want to know.

Lureaetagg -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/17/2007 4:03:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kennyautopsy Thank you. Your words are very helpful, and I'll certainly look into many of those things. I want constructive criticisim and that's what I'm looking for, but it's kind of hard to find that amidst all of the "shut up and sit down kid". Thanks again, Kenny Really? Could have fooled me...

OldBastardly1 -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/17/2007 4:40:11 PM)
kenny, Are your parents planning to let her live in the basement with you? Are they going to give you alone time so you can issue commands to her or will the whining bother them?

yugla -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/17/2007 9:18:19 PM)
Ahh youth is a wondrous thing. T’is a shame to waste it on the young. RD Ignore the crap you get on line. The web is jungle of BS that takes a really good search engine to filter through. As for your questions - No age, (but alas I am older in years but will never grow up) was not a factor for me. Not being in tune with myself and the grid was a factor. As for your second question, well I guess us olde Doms will just sit on our porch and shake our fists and shout “ Ehhh dem der dam kids, git off my lawn” Enjoy your life, spread happiness and it will come back to you. Words I know you have heard but when you believe them you will be in alignment. Be Well Sir Guy

HisRayne -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/17/2007 11:09:44 PM)
I have never been met with any type of stigmata regarding my age.Niether has my Master.My Master is 25 and has never had any issues with people telling him to "sit down and shut up kid" .I havent either on this (my sub profile) or on my Domme profile(I am a switch if that confused you kenny) . So Personally rather then reading your post...I will go talk to my kids and listen to them whine instead..at least then I get hugs when they are done. rayne

LittleWench -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/17/2007 11:59:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lureaetagg And why the hell are you thinking about older subs? What the fuck dude that's just wrong okay. My Owner is 25, and 12 years younger than I am. Whilst many older men quote their maturity as a virtue, and many women seek that, I love the qualities that men aged 21-25 possess, and also the things that they don't yet possess, things aside from maturity that come with getting older. Men this age are fascinating, exhilarating, they are so open to life and its potential. It does take a lot of patience though. In discussions with my Owner about why he has always been attracted to older women, he says they possess qualities that women his age or younger just don't have, qualities that he finds desireable. There is nothing wrong with subs being older than their Dom. The only issue I see here is that the OP is a teenager still. The teenage brain is a work in progress, it is still forming, still figuring out how to work properly, the connections are still falling into place. There is new research that suggests teens process emotional information differently than adults, and even use different parts of their brains to do so. This is as relevant for you as it is the OP. Perhaps when your brain has finished forming, you will see the age difference between consenting adults differently?

TotalState -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/18/2007 2:15:11 AM)
This again? Is whining really such a good way to show maturity that it deserves a new post in this forum about it? Look, if your problem is that you are young, at least it's a problem that goes away 100% of the time. Frankly, I find threads like "People don't respect X" turn out really to be "people don't respect ME". And if that's so, there may be specific reasons for that. Not to mention that you are never going to be respected by every random stranger in an internet forum - but that's something you get to learn with experience.

ItalianSMistress -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/18/2007 5:54:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LittleWench My Owner is 25, and 12 years younger than I am. I read this really fast the first time, and thought that it said "I am 25 and My Owner is 12 years younger than I am" I just about pissed My pants. [sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif]

sirguym -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/18/2007 11:20:44 AM)
Amen to most of those posting. Of course you can be an eighteen year old Dominant - I was, I managed, even then, to get real-life playmates, do scenes, get taken seriously by subs my age and a decade or so older So go get some real life experience, in the scene and out of it, get out and get a life, stop whinging about how unfair life is - that only proves your immaturity. It strikes me that it's not your age, but your attitude that is your particular problem. Yes, of course you'll get potential playmates telling you you're too young, just as I get them telling me I'm too old. You have to accept that they have the right to make that choice, which may well be based on extensive experience and self-knowledge. Bitching about anything never helps; just analyse the problemns you face and devise your own solutions. You are the only one who can solve your problems!

Focus50 -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/18/2007 11:34:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kennyautopsy My interest in the lifestyle has nothing to do with a void that I need to fill. I found this a few months ago with a local, and as I've read,researched and been involved in a BDSM relationship, it's something that I enjoy very much. And no it's not just having someone at my beck and whim, but to be responsible to and for someone else is an amazing feeling. Since we started our D/s relationship, it has made our bond exponentially stronger and probably has made our relationship unforeseeably better. Then what was even the point of your original post? If you've got a functional, working D/s relationship that fulfills you, what tha hell do you care if others think you're too young? How does it even become an issue (age, respect) unless you're still putting yourself out in the singles market despite the "amazing feeling" already owning someone allegedly gives you? Everything you do is a reflection of who you really are. As many have noted, your profile is a contradiction of your complaints and status as a dom. That tells me you're either immature or full of shit. At 18, I tend to follow my prejudices and think it's the former; your age. You personify that ole bumper sticker - "Hire a teenager now, while they still know everything". *So look at the positives. You come across as a normal teenager* and that age and immaturity tend to fix themselves with time. But being full of it does NOT - think about that.... Focus.**

ksub4u -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/18/2007 12:13:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirguym Yes, of course you'll get potential playmates telling you you're too young, just as I get them telling me I'm too old. You have to accept that they have the right to make that choice, which may well be based on extensive experience and self-knowledge. I wanted to point this out - I have received emails from older Doms and I've had to respond that I was not interested in a certain age range. I always do it respectfully and thank them for their interest. Most have responded with a 'thank you and good luck to you' attitude. One got pissy and he's the one who rankled me...just because you stomp your feet doesn't mean I'm going to give you further attention or effort - it means I'm going to block you! Perhaps it's the OP's tone that comes across as immature and may invite skepticism versus the words he uses? My mom always said, "It's not what you say; it's how you say it."

vampchick88 -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/18/2007 2:03:16 PM)
I'm 22 and young in the scene. I have a few years of the lifestyle under my belt. I have only recieved one response in the past that I was too young and they did not think I was mature enough. Well her loss. I have since met the best subby anyone could have ever hoped for. He is 29 and was not looking for anyone under 30 for a time in his search. After thinking what the hell and revising his search primarily for his interest in rubber voila! here I am. He thinks I am mature to meet his needs, as well as have some experience with a whole lot of new things I want to try. He's open for being my guienea pig oink lol and has what it takes to keep up with me. Age is a number, experience can be found in young and old alike depending on their life circumstances. I've had to grow up very fast in my life due to things I could not control. Its helped to be who I am. I also have the energy most 22 year olds have and can keep up with the best of them. Don't let age get you down. You have a lifetime of experiences both past and present. The right person will come along who won't care your age. It shouldn't matter what people think about you, its what you know you possess and what you can bring to a D/s relationship.

Lureaetagg -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/18/2007 2:24:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LittleWench quote: ORIGINAL: Lureaetagg And why the hell are you thinking about older subs? What the fuck dude that's just wrong okay. My Owner is 25, and 12 years younger than I am. Whilst many older men quote their maturity as a virtue, and many women seek that, I love the qualities that men aged 21-25 possess, and also the things that they don't yet possess, things aside from maturity that come with getting older. Men this age are fascinating, exhilarating, they are so open to life and its potential. It does take a lot of patience though. In discussions with my Owner about why he has always been attracted to older women, he says they possess qualities that women his age or younger just don't have, qualities that he finds desireable. There is nothing wrong with subs being older than their Dom. The only issue I see here is that the OP is a teenager still. The teenage brain is a work in progress, it is still forming, still figuring out how to work properly, the connections are still falling into place. There is new research that suggests teens process emotional information differently than adults, and even use different parts of their brains to do so. This is as relevant for you as it is the OP. Perhaps when your brain has finished forming, you will see the age difference between consenting adults differently? I was pointing out the fact that we are still teenagers and shouldn't look for serious relationships righ now with too much older people. It just wouldn't work with us being where we are mentally. I agree completely with you on the point that some people do enjoy age differences.

Ryeguy91 -> RE: To My fellow young Dom(me)s (12/19/2007 1:03:36 PM)
I am a young Dom male and I have not met with any of the attitudes you describe. Perhaps it is something else?

Page: << < prev 1 2 [3] 4 5 next > >>

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.046875