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OldBastardly1 -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 10:49:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rawkmehard and although it may be frowned upon for an inexperienced Dom to ask for help on the forums, i have to say that i wish my exDom had asked for help at any time over the last year, before he and i broke up. it could have helped the relationship, and looking back, i would have loved input from other experienced Doms. I readily welcome inexperienced Doms to ask questions and ask for opinions/help. It is when they won't listen to the advice given that pisses me off.

rizzle -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 11:21:40 AM)
old bastard you make me laugh - your advice was built around assumptions and you began the discourse by being offensive. forgive me if i stopped listening to you at that point

CalifChick -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 11:30:38 AM)
Perhaps if you listened to OB, and learn to read between the (cranky) lines, you would find a lot of wisdom from someone who has been around a while. I gotta tell you though, by the title alone, I thought it was a thinly disguised brag thread (look at me, I got a nympho sub!) Cali

rawkmehard -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 11:33:30 AM)
OB, i'm not saying this guy is listening to you or really listening to much at all. and i think you have excellent points for those who are willing to listen. i was more wistfully speaking from my own experiences, no offense to you intended.

grlneedstolearn -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 11:41:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave Well, if this is just a part-time M/s relationship. Meaning that it's not an exclusive relationship, you should only enforce the D/s dynamics when you are spending agreed upon time together. Outside of that she may be somebody else's. i agree with the part time relationship, because that is what i am in now. And even though i am only with my Dom twice a week, if that, he still makes sure i don't get into any trouble when he is not with me. Though mostly it is my decision of what i do on my time

OldBastardly1 -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 11:42:28 AM)
rawkmehard, I understood and took no offense at all. :) rizzle, sometimes if something is said in such a way that causes people to notice, perhaps think a little, it will be an aid in them finding the answer that is best for them. My advice was based on what you had said and I added in a bit of extremism to help you see more clearly from another perspective. Pardon me if my attempts to help were beyond your level of comprehension. I hope you find this helpful. [sm=banghead.gif]

girlygurl -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 11:45:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rizzle just looking for some ideas on how to control a sub who for the most part is obediant and well behaved, as long as she is spanked regularly - however, occasionally she infers or implies that she may be going elsewhere for discipline and sex - in all honesty I dont want to stop her having her fun and enjoying experiences but I also dont want the delicate balance of Master/sub to be upset. Should I as Master ignore her transgressions and just punish them when I see her, or should I actively involve myself and control what she must do and not do with these other people - and still punish her when i see her of course! rizzle ~ there was a time that i was allowed to play with others... was i / am i a nympho??? naw just like to play is all. My Sir doesn't allow me to play with others now, and I'm ok with that. My question to you is...... are you and your sub playing enough? maybe she is needing more from you and not expressing it. just a thought rizzle. [:D] good luck girly

hisannabelle -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 11:46:31 AM)
greetings rizzle, He actively encourages me to have sex with others (it's required of me), and play punishes me for it often. that works well for us. we discuss rules and boundaries in terms of what i can and cannot do with others, but for the most part i can do just about anything. for us, "transgressing" is when i'm NOT sleeping with other partners, hehehe...but then again, it's as much a desire for Him as it is for me, if not more, and it seems like this may be more a case of topping from the bottom in your situation (which would be unacceptable for me to do). but i thought since we're in something of a similar situation, i'd mention it. if you ever want to talk about it on the other side, feel free to message me. respectfully, annabelle.

girlygurl -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 11:52:38 AM)
ummmm how come the OP's profile "can't be found"

domahpet -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 1:45:45 PM)
HEY! this guy has no profile either!

rizzle -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 3:57:00 PM)
profile should be there now... no pic as of yet but gimme a chance lol if anyone wants to tell me how to be a Dom online tell me [Mod Note: email address removed]

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 9:25:26 PM)
My raw feelings on this is that we've got a young girl who wants to just go have fun and explore and isn't secure or experienced enough to know how to express and work within that dynamic positively and productively and so instead goes through the bad routes to try and get what she wants and at the same time we've got a guy who is more solid in what he wants, but is still allowing ego to get in the way of healthy dynamics.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 10:20:03 PM)
Nevermind Master Fire

laurell3 -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 11:06:18 PM)
This thread is confusing, but I think you're both being manipulative. You're not any less a Dom because you post on a board or have had relationship/trust issues. It's ridiculous to say Doms can't post to ask questions here. They can and they do. Whether you both want to play with others or not is something you each need to individually figure out and then sit down and share those expectations honestly. Stop playing I do this to get that game and actually TALK like human beings do in a nonrole type of open conversation. In my opinion, you cannot dictate her limits/relationship goals and hope to maintain a healthy relationship, neither can she yours. Then determine a) if you trust her, if you do let the past go b) if her expectations are the same as yours, if they aren't you can't change that by playing games. I have a high sex drive and libido, I also love chocolate chip cookies. I don't expect that I can eat chocolate chip cookies all day every day and have a healthy life. If the only reason she has interest in or you support others is because of her sex drive, you both need to grow up. If she really seeks an open relationship and/or poly that's a totally different thing. Finally, if she is a submissive, Lead so she can follow.

MissMagnolia -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/14/2007 11:07:38 PM)
Bravo Laurell. Well put.[:)]

domahpet -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/15/2007 8:08:22 PM)
nice profile, and thanks so much for all the info you included

exquisitefeline1 -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/16/2007 4:35:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rover Count me as an echo to Old Bastard and Ron. If she were to threaten me to go elsewhere unless I did as she wanted, I'd help her pack her belongings and drive her directly to her intended destination (or at least call the cab and provide fare.... I'm just that kind of thoughtful guy). Then I'd have myself a good laugh, knowing what's in store for the next guy. Demanding spankings? That would just make me a life support system for a spanking machine... an inanimate object of no more value than the vibrator in her dresser drawer. John Lucky most of the time we can keep our thoughts to ourself. *Now, if only we could switch Doms on and off like that! I would get a variable one, with a control dial so i could speed him up and slow him down... then i would test out all the different batteries. I would use the energizers for sex, and the cheap crappy ones for the lectures, then i could laugh as his talking got slo-w-er a-n-d d-e-e-p, and he ran out of juice before the discipline was over... a Dom with a remote control wow now there is a thought, fast forward, reverse, Daddy Dom button, sadist button, old guard button, tie me up button, spank me button, spank me button, spank me button, harder button, harder, harder... Stop button, cuddle me button, spank me button, pause.....fuck me button* "No Sir, i was not thinking anything. i do not think, if only gets me into trouble." sits up straighter, with hands on knees, and smiles sweetly.

CalifChick -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/16/2007 5:28:14 PM)
I see a kitty with a severe spanking in her future. Cali

exquisitefeline1 -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/16/2007 6:21:10 PM)
Pulls the remote control in well under my paws, then licks one paw, preens, stops for a moment to adjust the volume and contrast, and continues preening.

ligar59 -> RE: controlling a nympho sub! (12/25/2007 2:35:55 PM)
You have a couple options. You can go out and spend 4-500 on a good chasity belt and perform nightly body checks to see if her body has been used. and act accoringly Or you can simply allow her her freedom to have her fun and not worry about it as long it dosen't interfer with the time she spends with you. While I can understand the desire to have sex with others, I would be concerned why she feels she needs discipline from others

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