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adoracat -> RE: Who do you think is more likely to share... (12/16/2007 2:40:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

OK. I will rephrase the question.
 
I am talking about sharing sexually. More specifically, if your pet/sub/slave, etc. was bisexual, would you share him or her with a Dominant to fulfill that need, if that is what he or she desired?
 
jen


this is sort of a slippery-ended question for me to answer.  Daddy knows i'm bisexual.  he knows that i have a woman who would give her eyeteeth to be with me (she's in england, we arent).

he also has let me have trysts with other men who arent dominant...because he knows i have needs and he isnt able to see me as often as he'd like.  that has been an understanding from the begining, that i was allowed as long as he's aware and there are other rules that i must follow, and he has the right to ask for information on anything that has gone on during my time with someone else....other than my husband.  Daddy still has the right to ask, but i'm allowed to not tell if i dont wish to.

Daddy orders that i not engage in BDSM behavior with anyone but him, and i submit to that, gladly.  its part of our agreement.

kitten



Decimus -> RE: Who do you think is more likely to share... (12/16/2007 3:51:56 PM)

Aerith has told me she would never share me she is much to possessive and I am quite happy with that!



forg0ttenclone -> RE: Who do you think is more likely to share... (12/16/2007 4:07:26 PM)

I tend to find sharing an individual thing.  I have absolutely no desire to be shared or to play with any other Dominants other than Goddess.  It is something She and I have spoken about in general conversation with no real specifics.  But She also knows my loyalty and devotion falls completely in Her.



CalifChick -> RE: Who do you think is more likely to share... (12/16/2007 4:18:18 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

I am talking about sharing sexually. More specifically, if your pet/sub/slave, etc. was bisexual, would you share him or her with a Dominant to fulfill that need, if that is what he or she desired?



I was just having this same conversation with someone today.  What works for me is, if I cannot give you something that you need/want/desire, then I would like for you to get it elsewhere.  Likewise, if there is something that you cannot give me, then I want to be able to get it elsewhere. 

I long ago gave up the idea that I had to be everything to the person I love.  I would like to, sure, but if the person I love needs something that I cannot give, then my heart and my soul and my brain are "open" enough (for lack of a better term - it's not a slam to people who don't think that way) to WANT them to seek that fulfillment.  As long as they come back to me. [;)]

Cali



SirJohnMandevill -> RE: Who do you think is more likely to share... (12/16/2007 5:07:55 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

OK. I will rephrase the question.
 
I am talking about sharing sexually. More specifically, if your pet/sub/slave, etc. was bisexual, would you share him or her with a Dominant to fulfill that need, if that is what he or she desired?
 
jen


I have to agree with those who say it's an individual trait. In the situation you've described, I would never share my female sub with a male Dom in any way whatsoever. If she wished to be with a female Dominant sexually, I would likely permit that. It would depend on the person involved.

Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)



agoodgirl4Daddy -> RE: Who do you think is more likely to share... (12/16/2007 6:05:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: chellekitty

...bisexual doesn't automatically mean that they want to have a poly or open relationship   



Thank you!  i have been wanting to post something similar to this piece of chellekitty's post.  i believe that many have the erroneous idea that if someone (male or female) is "BISEXUAL", it means they will not be satisfied being with one person in a relationship, and that they will need to be with others of the opposite sex of their current partner.  NOT the case for many many people who identify as Bisexual.

Yet, for some people, they will not only want to be sexual with those of the opposite gender of their current partner..but also with those of the same sex of their partner, too..(aka, a polyamorous or non-monogamous relationship). 

I chose to identify as Bisexual on this site, though that doesn't actually cover it.  I'm a Queer Femme, and my preferences for partners is Bio Men who are evolved (eg, know that b/c i'm not STRAIGHT...doesn't mean i want to fulfill their fantasy of seeing 2 feminine women have sex), Butch Women who identify as male, and Female-to-Male TransGuys.

This has been a pet peeve of mine for a while now.  Thanks for giving me the opportunity to express it!

As far as sharing goes...though i am not in a relationship now, i do not wish to be shared sexually, and i would not be with someone who would want that.  

~end of rant~    [:D] 



LadyHugs -> RE: Who do you think is more likely to share... (12/16/2007 10:04:35 PM)

Dear sammiebabygirl, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I find male Dominants are more 'free' about sharing.  However, most of the female Dominants are more restricted about 'sharing' with another Dominant.
 
Then there is the question of what kinds of 'sharing' do you mean?  Sexually, serving dinner, tea, etc. or help with domestic tasks, etc.
 
I find that the male Dominants I know, with female submissives share more freely but, sexually--some are not into casually lending a slave for sexual play.  More times then most--it is external service, such as dungeon scenes, help with formal functions where more hands to help pull it off the better.  I find the same with the majority of female Dominants--sexually, they are rather exclusive, as most women I know who are Dominant have male slaves.  Unless they have men who are beyond curious with their Bisexuality--and are comfortable, its a 'maybe' they will share but--I've rarely seen this happen in the last 14 years.  I do believe the hyper-sensitivities about STDs and AIDS have reeled multiple sex scenes in to known circles and relationships.
 
For my self-- I would only  share a slave or more if it is external service, e.g. hands to help pulling off a formal dinner, party and helping a Dominant/Master without a slave of their own and dungeon scenes.  However, I would have to trust the Dominant/Master fully before I loan and or share a slave.  In addition, my slaves can stop immediately and call me and I'll fetch them if they feel the least bit worried about restrictions being over stepped and or any misunderstanding.
 
Just some thoughts.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



ItalianSMistress -> RE: Who do you think is more likely to share... (12/17/2007 8:59:09 AM)

I have loaned a few of My slaves out for various things over the years.  Sexual favors, cleaning services, even one to make a video. On the other hand, I have also borrowed slaves for things when Mine were not able to get done what I wanted.  The bottom line is, its My call if I trust the person or not, and if I feel they are responsible enough and respect Me and My wishes.



PlayfulGoddess -> RE: Who do you think is more likely to share... (12/18/2007 6:33:08 AM)

As I am greedy, and generally play SEXUALLY with my playmates, as a rule I do NOT share... I would only "share" them for pampering services/cleaning, etc. but NOT for sex; nor for 'sessions'.



TMaster2 -> RE: Who do you think is more likely to share... (12/18/2007 7:21:59 AM)

I agree with the individual thing, although I don't guess I really know that many people who own someone or are otherwise in a position to share.  I know I don't share -- I am very possessive and what/who's Mine is Mine!  *EG*

I will let others watch, maybe even touch, but not use.



mhawk -> RE: Who do you think is more likely to share... (12/18/2007 7:22:18 AM)





well not much really to say on this other than,any sharing that goes on sexually in our home is between my Lord,my Mistress and myself.we do not share ourselves sexually with anyone outside of our household.

we joke about it, but that's as far as it gets because i know for myself at least that i could not share myself sexually with anyone other than my Lord and my Mistress and that they feel the same way





Dnomyar -> RE: Who do you think is more likely to share... (12/18/2007 8:03:19 AM)

My mentor shared with me. I have shared and have no problem with it. I have a Domme friend who shares with me. I havent figured out what she gets out of it. I think it is more of an individual thing. If a person has a hard time finding a sub they will not even think of shareing the one they finaly get.



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