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canupleaseme -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/17/2007 4:17:32 AM)

God thats such a rude message to recieve.  Just take pleasure in the knowledge that she is just one bored lonely messed up domme who obviously cant find what she is looking for and is spreading her joy.  If its any consolation I got a mail this morning saying 'hey fattie why dont you give me your number so you can suck my submissive cock you prostitue' !!!! Of cousre because he asked so nicely I gave it him lol only joking I just hit delete.  There are soome really nice people on here and some right wankers male and female.  My vanilla friend is 40 and still hasnt found her one yet and I dont see her as a loser of not worth anybodies time, she just hasnt found the right person yet.  Personally I would rather spend 20 years alone finding the perfect person that keep getting it wrong.



LadyLynx -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/17/2007 7:44:26 AM)

I think she is just feeling inadiquit, (I know it's spelled wrong, but I don't remember how to spell it. lol so shoot me.) thinks your the perfect sub for her, but maybe feels your out of her reach, and so is lashing out.  Mmmmmm my my! you got a serious case of cute!



thetammyjo -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/17/2007 9:17:12 AM)

For some reason there are people out there with such ego issues themselves that they hunt for strangers to make negative comments about.

That recently happened to me. I announced in my journal here that I had a great doctor's appointment post my defense and then someone wrote me out of the blue to basically call me fat.

*shrug*

I figure that person has serious body issues that they try to not deal with by attacking others.

Someone who contacted you, Saint, and needed to call you a "loser" probably feels like a loser herself. Like any bully or self-righteous a-hole these people feel the need to attack others or to control others because unless they do they might be forced to deal with themselves.

Yeah, it can hurt when you receive a message like this from any stranger but you'll learn to either ignore them or point out their weird need to attack strangers.

As for being 30 and without a Ds or SM partner yet... a lot of folks still don't even discover their interests in kink until they are in their 40s so obviously you are ahead of the average person in some ways by simply knowing what you want now.



eevin -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/17/2007 10:23:26 AM)

Being a male, and 28, i felt like a failure because i had been unable to find someOne for the last 10 years of my life.  But i understand how that there's a lot of maturity to factor into the equation.  And i've been told, by friends, that i am not a failure.  It simply wasn't my time yet.



TexasMaam -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/17/2007 10:35:51 AM)

This thread brings to mind the habit of referring to any man over 29 years of age who has never been married as 'a menace to society'.

As in,
"Sue, that's Bob Smith over there at the counter, in the green shirt, (then whispers) 'he's menace to society!', giggle chortle laugh...."

Unfair but there it is.

Anyone who would pass such generalizations is either doing so in jest or, if in earnest, doesn't deserve a response anyway.

TM 



sexyred1 -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/17/2007 10:51:19 AM)

I agree with the others, there are so many spineless, insecure, wimps of both genders lurking online and their only pleasure in life is to send out nasty unsolicited emails to people.

Just feel sorry for them OP. As for your age, 30 is too old? For what?? 30 is the new 20. I believe I am like fine wine, the more I age, the better I taste.

And I am certainly no loser; when asked why I am single, I always reply, I am only single at the MOMENT and I reserve the right to be as selective as I damn please![;)]



LadyHugs -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/17/2007 1:54:14 PM)

Dear Saint, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I much rather have the peanut gallery think I am a looser than to be pressed into a relationship that is going to fail.
 
I rather take my time and find the right person for me--not for anybody else.  It takes time to find something special and 'one-of-a-kind.'  I rather be lonely and miserable--alone, rather than be saddled with someone who compounds my misery and loneliness.
 
Perhaps this 'Mistress' sees in you what she sees in herself--and has to tear everybody down as to have some sense of being better than the rest.
 
For me, I've been in very long and successful relationships before.  I'm in no hurry--what I seek is not very usual so, I hold no false hopes in finding what I seek but--I am happy to be myself and free, helping others along the way until I am not free any longer.
 
Just some thoughts,
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



MisPandora -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/17/2007 11:50:17 PM)

Sadly, the person who sent you that is likely mentally unstable, emotionally unbalanced and socially retarded.  It's not the greatest thing to have loose, running amok on a personals site but there you go.  Take it with a grain of salt, judiciously apply the delete key, and move on.



cbtok -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/18/2007 7:36:22 AM)

While reading this I had a thought…

Has your account here on CM been compromised? Could someone else have logged in and used your profile to send "Ms Nasty" a nastygram in your name?

Maybe it's time to change your password?

Of course nobody's nasty over the Internet. Ever. Right?



DesFIP -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/18/2007 7:46:02 AM)

Some very angry people out there. Besides this person may not even be female or dominant. Could be that he's afraid you're closer in compatibility to a femdomme in your area who he is pursuing so he's trying to head you off at the pass.



pixelslave -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/18/2007 3:27:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Saint
But now my questions are these: Do women regard a man my age (30) who hasn't found a successful mate/partner yet losers? Are we perceived as being unsuccessful and because of this associated with being losers in the game of life?


If what she wrote is true, I'm in big trouble compared to you bud! I just turned 50 today!!!  Honestly, IMO, you haven't lost until you've quite trying to play the game of life, love & relationships.  As for me, I'm still hangin' in there and hopefully have have plenty to look forward to.  I strongly suspect you do too. [;)]
 
 - pixel
 
   Collared to Majik



Vendaval -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/18/2007 7:10:36 PM)

Saint,
 
I am sorry that some random bitch decided to take out her nastiness on you. We all get hate mail from time to time.  Do not pay any attention to it. You did the right thing by blocking that person and moving on to better conversations with better company.
 
Are men who are still single at age 30 losers? No. Your profile states that you are finishing your education and going to begin your career.  That shows motivation, determination and future success.  Good luck in all your endeavors. [:)]
 
Be well,
 
Vendaval







LadyChef -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/18/2007 7:52:38 PM)

you ARE NOT A LOSER!!!!
 
NOW DUST YOURSELF OFF, LEARN TO DELETE THOSE E-MAILS FROM MENTALLY DISTURBED "PEOPLE" AND KEEP HOPE ALIVE!!
 
Great profile, by the way.I appreciate a "submissive" man who uses proper grammar and punctuation.[;)]



SlaveBlutarsky -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/18/2007 9:16:14 PM)

Sorry to hear that  this happened to the OP, but I wouldn't lose any sleep over  I'm 33 and couldn't care less about not having been married or whatever, especially knowing how many of my friends are miserable in their relationships or who have been divorced already,  I'm way ahead of the game at this point.

It is an interesting phenomenon though, I've been on dates and have had women straight out ask me why I've never been married, like I was on the witness stand.

One of my coworkers told me one time that a couple of women were in the Ladies Room and one said 'SlaveBlutarsky is sexy and single, I wonder what's wrong with him?' I found it funny that being single was a social deficiency, if only they knew that I'm waiting for the perfect Domme to come along and own my heart, mind, body and soul.  [;)]



PanthersMom -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/18/2007 10:08:15 PM)

sounds like someone was out to make someone feel worse about themselves than that person felt about herself.  gotta tear someone else down in order to make herself feel better.  ignore was the right nove.

PM



Saint -> RE: Seeking Insight (12/19/2007 3:47:06 AM)

Thank you LadyLynx, LadyChef, Vendaval, Pixelslave, LadyHugs and all others who responded. I certainly didn't lose any sleep over it but it was disconcerting to receive something like this. Thankfully though I feel that it is a relatively rare occurance. It does sometimes make me stop and ponder though the immaturity of people who have nothing more to do with their time than to randomly insult strangers. You would think their time would be better spent in more constructive pursuits.



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