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dogboydoggie -> how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/16/2007 9:43:16 PM)

but  could  not . but would leave if you could



slaveboyforyou -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/16/2007 10:03:32 PM)

I seriously considered leaving after my last fiasco of a relationship.  I was extremely bitter and hurt.  So I just said; the hell with all of this, I am only going to date "nice" girls from now on *LOL*.  Like I said, I was pretty pissed off at my ex.  But I knew I was only fooling myself. 

I do still date vanilla gals on occasion.  I like women, and I like having company when I go out.  I can't exactly go up and ask someone if they are kinky when I ask them out on a date.  Dommes are few and far between; especially in my neck of the woods.  But I have these desires, and they are not going away.  I don't see any reason why they should.  My sexual and relationship tastes are not evil, they are just different. 



MasterFireMaam -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 12:43:22 AM)

I wouldn't. This is who I am. This is my spirituality. This is how I help people. I love myself...and I wouldn't trade my life for the world.

Master Fire



petpete -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 1:05:37 AM)

i agree with you slaveboy... i feel the same way.. i was in vanilla relationships and never found what i get from the BDSM relationship despite not having lived in yet. Its such a turn on to be in this lifestyle even if W/we don't get sexually released and catered for like in vanilla. i do with my side love Women and love to date even if they are not Dommes.. Life is more then just BDSM and i think a person has to enjoy all that life has to offer. But i would remain single if i wont find a BDSM partner..



HeavansKeeper -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 1:51:31 AM)

I see two reasons to get into power exchange.

1) It's who you are.
2) It's kinky.

I don't really care why people get into it, or if they do, but Party 1 can't really turn it off.  It's like turning off being gay or tall.

Maybe I'm wrong, but I was thinking about what I'd do if things didn't work out with My Pet... I just couldn't see myself being complete in a vanilla relationship.



MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 2:20:30 AM)

After 5 years of crazy painful relationships with kinky men (who wouldn't marry me, dammit!), I threw in the towel and dated a handsome, successful vanilla doctor with a big house who wanted to get married and have kids

I knew within weeks that something was badly wrong.  He was nice....and shallow and boring.  But silly me figured I was just craving the excitment of BDSM and BDSM was bad for me, so I stuck it out.  A year later, I left (ran, not walked!) him for a cross-dressing masochistic slave.  Thank goodness.  Never again.

Now I choose experienced subs with a track record of stabilty and mental health.  It wasn't BDSM that was my problem, it was my need to "save" every cute stray dog that landed on my door step.



iwearpanties -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 3:15:46 AM)

i will have too agree  with most i think once its in you ,you come too want more and more but when its gone it might be a pice missing form you and in time you start too crave it and seeka return   i guess like an addiction ?????



LadyKarin -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 4:06:16 AM)

No chance for anybody to escape this lifestyle.

You can cover it, you can conceil it, but one day or the next - this lifestyle is lifelong.

The slave can run away from the one Mistress/Master - but he/she can not escape. He/she can just run to the next Top's feet.

Lady Karin



rubberpet -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 6:41:36 AM)

After I broke up with my first owner, I started dating another girl because she said she had a dominant personality.  It was fine at first, but there was something lacking.  I fell in love with her because she was really sweet and we got along very well on the vanilla side of things, but she was about as dominant as a box full of declawed kittens.  She was kinky on the rarest of occasions and I was starving for more of an encompassing lifestyle.  Well, she eventually broke up with me (because I didn't want kids) and while it hurt like a mutha, it was the best thing that ever happened.  I just got right back on the horse and started looking for the perfect domme for me.  Fast forward a little and I'm the property of the most loving, caring, demented, and creative domme I could ever have hoped to find.  She fits me perfectly and I could not be happier.  I think to myself every single day that I don't know what I did to deserve such a wonderful girl, but I'm sure in the hell glad I did it! [:D]

I've never wanted to leave the lifestyle because it just isn't a lifestyle, it's my life.  It's who I am and it's who I'll always be.  I'm a very submissive, rubber-loving guy who is complete when he is at the mercy of his dominant, rubber-obsessed, gothic, vampire goddess.  *sigh*  What more could a subby hope for???



thetammyjo -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 7:14:59 AM)

See, I don't consider D/s or M/s to be a lifestyle;it's just how I love someone and how things run most smoothly in my house.

Since I doubt I can run from that the idea never arises.

Would it be "easier" to be vanilla? Probably not because that would feel like role-playing all the time; very tiring.



sheep -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 6:34:12 PM)

 I've often thought that if I could leave the lifestyle I would. I've tried. I can't. Things would be simpler if I was vanilla, if vanilla could give me that ecstacy and joy that BDSM and femdom do, but it just doesn't. It's who I am and I think I'm too old to change now. And don't even want to anymore. I also realize that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence but it just seems if you look at how hard it can be to meet somebody to spend your life with in the 'normal' world, then add in the issues that BDSM brings to the table, vanilla life seems a lot simpler.



unforegvn -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 6:41:22 PM)

I have never considered changing who I am.  Vanilla relationships are brutal.



sleuthingsub -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 8:30:10 PM)

I used to think that there was something wrong with me, and wish that my desires would go away.  Finding online communities of like minded folk allowed me to come to the realization that it's really no big deal; just part of who I am.

I stopped trying to fight it, and started looking for someone that not only shared my vanilla interests, but had an equally kinky side too.  It's just like normal dating, but with additional personal and physical qualities that must be present for a real connection to be established. 

I've been lucky enough to discover that my current gf is not only a perfect vanilla match for me, but a surprisingly dominant little minx as well.  We both agree that bdsm and PE bring us closer together by developing a strong bond of trust...and make otherwise dull activities exciting.



Saint -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 8:57:48 PM)

I have tried to leave it and walk away from it all but as LadyKarin pointed out, you just cannot do so. In the past I have cursed myself for being who I am and for what I enjoy but leaving does not change who you are. This lifestyle seems to breed a dearth of heartache and disappointment but I have to keep the hope that the rewards will be worth that and never stop looking for my Alpha Queen. I view the knowledge and experience that I have with this lifestyle as I would Pandoras box: Once released you cannot just so easily put the knowledge away again or ignore it.



dogboydoggie -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 9:06:03 PM)

it   is  never  to late to leave . there is hope and you can find  a way out . no matter how old you are . you can find real love that can heal your heart



dogboydoggie -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 9:13:45 PM)

   many  will  leave  bdsm . and  can   be  free   from   it forever . there is a way out were you will never go back



EvilGenie -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 9:22:30 PM)

I don't do BDSM but I do live D/s. A Dominant woman is who I am and that will never change. My relationships and now my marriage have simply always taken their course to be D/s. Perhaps I have just been lucky enough to have had a man find me to spend my/his life with who is naturally submissive without needing to label either one of us or our relationship. We simply love each other soul deep, I happen to be in charge and he just happens to move very quickly when I call him.

So, the short answer would be no, never.



EvilGenie -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/17/2007 9:25:34 PM)

dogboydoggie, what are you doing here at CM anyway? You are coming close to the line of the fundamentalists who claim to be able to save and change gay men and lesbian women. Just so you know, if you came here to preach, it is a very unwise idea. Do you troll the alternative lifestyle sites to ''save'' us?



petpete -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/18/2007 12:45:03 AM)

dogboy, W/we are all doomed and possessed by the evil spirit and the curse of the devils advocate..... Fear for the worse is to come..... There is no salvation to all of U/us.... W/we are doomed and destined to the gates of Hell....................... MAMAAAA!!!!!!! i am scared!!!!!!Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!![sm=hair.gif]



thetammyjo -> RE: how many mistress or slaves wanted to leave the lifestyl (12/18/2007 5:22:45 AM)


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ORIGINAL: dogboydoggie

it is never to late to leave . there is hope and you can find a way out . no matter how old you are . you can find real love that can heal your heart


and then later...

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many will leave bdsm . and can be free from it forever . there is a way out were you will never go back


First, look at your own eye before you go looking into others -- if you're a Christian you'll get my reference to things that Jesus himself is quoted as saying.

Second, there are people out there who claim to be kinky who frankly aren't so their leaving honestly isn't a good test.

Third, perhaps you should be more concerned about your own soul before you attempt to help others who have not asked it. Again reference the New Testament to see just how long an apostle is supposed to attempt to reach out. Shake the dust from your sandals and move on to the next town, my brother.



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