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RE: Getting what you give - 12/18/2007 1:23:45 PM

LordVelvet

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I am a Switch. When I take a submissive role it isn't to figure out how to be a better Dom or anything, for Me it is a desire that needs to be filled. It doesn't happen to often as I need the right person. It happened on Halloween and before that 6 years ago. I am very picky who I submit too. If it works for you do it and if not then don't. My advice would be to trust the person and feel comfortable. Just My thoughts.
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RE: Getting what you give - 12/18/2007 5:38:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: mistermaster111

I've been dominant since very early in my life, and playing the submissive role has never appealed to me in that deep, personal way that I feel when I taking on my natural aspect. However, I've been thinking lately that it would give me a sense of perspective to enter into slavery/submission in order to help me better understand the needs of my own submissives. In fact, the more I think of it, the greater a sense of responsibility I feel to do what I demand of others.

Do any of you understand what I mean, and do you have any advice to offer on gaining this perspective?

Sounds all very enlightened and politically correct etc - but it's a crock, IMO!

This isn't about you allegedly understanding what a submissive might think/feel/appreciate etc, it's about you NOT understanding the persona currently greeting you in the mirror.

It's a whole new millenium - you wanna switch, then go for it.

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RE: Getting what you give - 12/18/2007 6:01:30 PM

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If you don't enter into it with a high fluting, arrogant, know-it-all, close minded, "I'm too dominant to ever submit or do anything not limited by my narrow minded sterotype of True Dom behavior" attitude, the experience will most likely be beneficial to you in some way.

Of course, if you allow yourself to buy into the even more narrow minded and sillier thought that any non sterotypical Dominant behavior means your not a real true Dominant, you could leave with a whole lot of insecurity.

However, while I do think there is benefit in the experiences (I found some in the few I have had), I won't expect a whole lot of ground breaking deep seated insights into the submissive mentality.

Unfortanely, it's not much different then having homosexual experiences as heterosexual to learn about homosexuals. While you might find some shallow appreciation for the other side and a degree of understanding for what the other side might possible experience or endure...at the end of the day, if sucking cock just doesn't do it for you, then sucking cock just doesn't do it for you.

If that's the case, then sucking cock is just sucking a cock and not a gratifying mind blowing sexual experience like a homosexual might experience. In much the same way, submitting will just be...submitting and not a mind blowing spiritually fulfilling life altering experience that brings about a new existenstial perspective.

Still...there will most likely be some value in it that will influence and help you some way and most certainly doesnt fall into the "crock".

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RE: Getting what you give - 12/18/2007 6:21:56 PM

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It all depends on the situation. Once you learn to be submissive, it's easier to know when someone submitting to you is sincere. Since I'm a lifestyle Dominant Woman, it's very easy to know when someone's submissiveness is real or a front. In other areas of My life, I have been submissive (never in relationships- it doesn't work- especially when someone pulls the "I'm the man, submit to me" card), and knowing how to submit to others (authority figures, My UM (whom I've nicknamed BigDaddy, because I know he's a future Dom just by the way he is the ringleader of the other UMs,his controlling manner, and how he tries to order Me around [hogs the remote, demands a lot, commands everything]).....I digress.
Whatever works for you!

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