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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 4:44:15 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		I like playing with my pet at the dungeon in NYC, mostly as a prelude to some heavier play at home.  There are some things we do that are just for us, and others we don't mind sharing with people publicly.  
As a side note, I don't get to the city more than once a month and I'm not always going to the dungeon at that point.

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 4:44:32 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Since the local munch/dungeon is 120 or 200 miles away, (depending on which state we are in at the time) attending a munch or going to a dungeon is a wonderful treat that we relish.  It's great to get together with friends we see only once or twice a year.  We also try to plan our traveling to include attending munches on the way. 

However, we also enjoy the coziness and companionship of one on one time in our motorhome. 

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 4:58:45 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		No need for public play; private is all I need. I have been to public events in my past (not with anyone I was seriously involved with though) and felt it to be like theater, interesting to watch, but I did feel compelled to get up on stage.

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 5:03:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		not into munches/play parties or public dungeons ...i prefer privacy and quality time at home

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 5:17:52 PM   
MidMichCowboy


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Status: offline 		In my younger days, I did the public and group scenes. Now, I would just like to find my lady and stay home.
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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 5:51:21 PM   
wisteriaV


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Status: offline 		We live out in bfe NY. Six miles from the closest town and about 2 hours south of Ottawa Canada or three and a half hours north of Syracuse..so we dont go to play parties. munches etc. We actually like living out in bfe Ny and living how we see fit.

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 6:04:45 PM   
SingleRarity


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Status: offline 		Both.  At home, I tend to be more focused, and am able to accept pain for a longer amount of time...maybe it's the quiet.  I also love going to our dungeon. All of our friends in the scene are attractive, amazing people, and we truly enjoy watching one another play and connect.  

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 6:24:14 PM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: IrishMist
I find that the 'cliques' and 'one-upness' is just too much and tries my patience endlessly.

This is exactly why I've never felt any desire to go in the first place.  I kind of have the feeling this goes on alot and Master's experience has been that it does and He loathes it.  We just stay at home and have a great time all by ourselves.......................luci

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 6:46:22 PM   
TMaster2


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Status: offline 		We don't go to any to speak of.  We also live out in the country, so not really anywhere to go to.  When I do go to Dallas or somewhere, it is for some other reason, and I never know where any clubs or gatherings might be.  We did go to Bottoms Up one weekend, though.  Had a great time there, watched and got in some good spanking play.  And I would like to go to the Sanctuary sometime or other, but again, it takes advanced planning, hotel reservations, someone coming over to watch the animals... good thing we have so much fun at home!  lol

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 6:56:40 PM   
KnightofMists


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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

going to Munches, Dungeons and play parties with your partner? Or do you like being alone with each other at home?


I enjoy both.... but at different times I will prefer one over the other.

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 6:58:26 PM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		Don't like crowds...Prefer to play and visit at home, or small parties with friends I know and trust.

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 7:30:30 PM   
SilentTigresss


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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

going to Munches, Dungeons and play parties with your partner? Or do you like being alone with each other at home?


If not alone i enjoy going to gatherings and events. i have also done by myself but do prefer company.
As for play parties, i have had some incredible public scenes, but i always had someone with me,whether it be a Domme', Master, or another submissive.
And, now as to being home. Heck yes, i enjoy that too.

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/17/2007 9:12:29 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		We do both, but preferences towards alone time.

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/18/2007 12:03:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

going to Munches, Dungeons and play parties with your partner? Or do you like being alone with each other at home?


Yes. 


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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/18/2007 1:14:47 AM   
MistressStiletto


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Status: offline 		I started out near Atlanta, and they had several public dungeons at the time. There is a definite rush to playing somewhere like that, and an added bonus if it's with someone special.  Now I find myself in Pat Robertson's hometown, so there are no dungeons, and we are lucky we are allowed our sex shops.
As far as the OP, I have enjoyed munch groups, as it's nice to connect with people who are similarly engaged, whether in a restaurant or at a private play party. However, recently the group I was involved with has shown itself to be more interested than swinging than anything else. Collared slaves are not respected, in fact they are preyed upon.
Since this is the case, we have been spending much more time privately, although we still enjoy going out for a nice dinner/movie outing.

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/18/2007 1:28:21 AM   
Rayne58


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveluci

quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist
I find that the 'cliques' and 'one-upness' is just too much and tries my patience endlessly.

This is exactly why I've never felt any desire to go in the first place.  I kind of have the feeling this goes on alot and Master's experience has been that it does and He loathes it.  We just stay at home and have a great time all by ourselves.......................luci


We have been to a couple of play parties but not for over two years.  It was nice to go and have the experience, but we much prefer to do our own thing at home.  We would be more open to a smaller, more intimate gathering (10-12 people max). 

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/18/2007 1:42:29 AM   
eyesopened


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveluci

quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist
I find that the 'cliques' and 'one-upness' is just too much and tries my patience endlessly.

This is exactly why I've never felt any desire to go in the first place.  I kind of have the feeling this goes on alot and Master's experience has been that it does and He loathes it.  We just stay at home and have a great time all by ourselves.......................luci


This has been my experience as well and according to my Master, He has no patience for 'cliques' and 'one-upness'. ( i understand that not ALL groups suffer from this problem.)  However, i have really enjoyed many of the fine demonstrations my regional groups have hosted.  Demonstrations have been a wonderful way to watch and learn and many have included "hands on" methods of gaining skills in a particular area of interest.

All this being said, Master prefers privacy and since we can't be together every day, every moment we spend together is just too precious to share.

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/18/2007 3:33:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		We've really become homebodies due to scheduling conflicts, but going out is a lot of fun. I know a lot of people mention "cliques" and such at munches, but much of the time it's just about knowing people. Many of the people at munches will warm up after a second visit...
 
In my experience, most of the "cliques" are just people who show up at every meeting. They know each other better and have a history. As you show up more often, you'll gain a history with these folks too. Getting out for the first time is hard enough without dreading the people...most of them are friendly and want to get to know more people.
 
When I originally got into the lifestyle, I was all about the public venues...specifically, play parties and festivals. I'm finding that as I have gotten more comfortable in my role that I enjoy these less. I get irritated with behavior more easily...maybe because I'm more aware of what is rude.
 
I always enjoy private play, but I find that my enjoyment of being out in public fluctuates.

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/18/2007 5:15:38 AM   
Jayxkes


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Status: offline 		We enjoy both.

quote:

ORIGINAL: spanklette

snip........ I know a lot of people mention "cliques" and such at munches, but much of the time it's just about knowing people. Many of the people at munches will warm up after a second visit...
 
In my experience, most of the "cliques" are just people who show up at every meeting. They know each other better and have a history. As you show up more often, you'll gain a history with these folks too. Getting out for the first time is hard enough without dreading the people...most of them are friendly and want to get to know more people.
 



Our main munch is a great place to socialise and we've met some very good friends there.  As spanklette says,  most cliques at the munches etc I've been to are simply groups who have got to know each other.  Most are happy to include others, especially new folk.

Cliques do exist, in the negative way,  but I find the best way to restrict their 'influence' is to go places and not be in a clique like that.

Many of the friends we've made,  we wouldn't have met any other way.

Our local fetish club is one of, if not the, best clubs in the UK.  The people who run it are very keen to help new people, (new to BDSM or new to clubs etc.), and the atmosphere is such that it is easy to get to know people there too.

We often socialise with friends from further afield there too.

Public play is different to what we do in private,  but every bit as enjoyable.  The extra space and dungeon furniture adds an extra dimension to our fun.

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RE: Do you enjoy - 12/18/2007 6:03:23 AM   
Gardenista


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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

going to Munches, Dungeons and play parties with your partner? Or do you like being alone with each other at home?


Oh, my husband and I haven't ventured into the scene yet. It's not that we're dead-set against it, it's just that we've had a lot on our plate lately....

We both enjoy staying at home a great deal, but it is starting to lose its appeal a bit. When the time is right, we'll go and check out a munch or two, then take it from there. Hubby really is a curmudgeonly type, so finding out he's at least open to the idea was a pleasant surprise, lol.

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