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untrainedKajira -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/18/2007 12:42:39 AM)
if My Master told me no more sexual contact, i would be asking why and if he didnt give me a reason i would definately be asking to be released

salilus -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/18/2007 6:36:44 AM)
This may sound harsh, but: I would wish to still serve him as I love him dearly, but I would probably ask to be allowed to be sexually with someone else... a woman, if he could not handle me being with another man. I need sex in my life, with someone I love or care for deeply, in order to be happy. If I'm not allowed to have sex, I get extremely depressed. It may not always be this way, but it is this way now. It may not be everything, but it is a very important part of my relationship.

chellekitty -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/18/2007 7:20:04 AM)
i don't think it sounds harsh at all....i am the same way...i am a sexual person....if you aren't going to give me sex (and that includes bdsm play for me) then i have to find it somewhere else....this is a hard thing in long distance relationships, because that is my policy for them too....i won't have my basic needs not met because you're insecure and far away....but i am a rare female - i guess...sex is not attached to emotions with me...with one night stands and fuck buddies i am more often the one putting my clothes on and walking out the door as they are saying "hey...don't you want to cuddle...or something?" and i'm going "no...i got stuff to do...thanks"

toservez -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/18/2007 9:21:28 AM)
I had this in my former relationship. It was not spoken but just happen. I stayed/struggled for two years until I left. Sex is a drive in the human being that is at least an extremely strong desire to bordering on a need. I very much learned this the hard way. For some who are asexual or have very low sex drives I could see there might be a decision but not for me. Now if my Master told me no more sex I would immediately pack my bags and leave. I would consider it a total act of betrayal because those are the feelings I dealt with when it did happen to me.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/18/2007 10:20:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 If your Master said to you one day we are not going to do sexual play any more (no canings whippings intercourse BJ's ect...) I just want you to be a service submissive. Would you stay or ask for release? There are a lot of "what ifs" in this question. I don't see it as a black & white question. This may actually occur some day, given the state of his health as he ages. However, since he realizes I am a very sexual being (as is he), he would see to it that many of those needs would be met elsewhere. He knows how being in a celebate marriage was damaging to me, and has no intention to see me damaged again. No, I would not leave. I would trust that he would work things out. I am extremely doubtful I would leave if he chose to deny me sex altogether, too. My devotion to him is to make him happy and to serve him as he wishes to be served, and to live as he wishes me to live. I have long ago made the decision to accept whatever that means, and I do.

WillowRain -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/18/2007 10:41:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 This question is basically for subs, mostly for subs who serve their Master/Daddy/Dom sexually. This is in a collared relationship or an uncollared LTR. If your Master said to you one day we are not going to do sexual play any more (no canings whippings intercourse BJ's ect...) I just want you to be a service submissive. Would you stay or ask for release? Matt's littleone I don't think that can be answered in a generic way.

beltainefaerie -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/18/2007 1:06:08 PM)
I would be sad, but I would try. You seem to have mixed sexual and non-sexual scene play in your description though. I am not sure I could handle it if there was no pain or sexual service, but as I said, I would try. Still, Master is such a sadist and adores sex, I find it hard to fathom, even hypothetically.

Spickalot -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/18/2007 4:39:27 PM)
From the way that it sounds everyone seems to forget something. If you are owned then you should have a contract, and if you are worried that much about it have it as a contract breaker. If you arent owned then you can leave at any time you wish. At least that is how I see it.

BruisedHick -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/18/2007 4:49:24 PM)
Sex is like air: It doesn't matter until you don't get enough. Being single, I am constantly talking to Ladies who seem to think that I would go for a "No sex, ever" owner. I also talk to a few who seem to think that I would go for a "no sex at first" owner. I also talk to a few who seem to think it's all about sex. For me, the middle one is the right one. No sex at first, grow into it, and then never look back. Maybe 20 years later I would consider celibacy, but I don't believe in forever, so there goes that. Yours, benji

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/18/2007 11:25:46 PM)
Not every one believes in or uses contracts. quote: ORIGINAL: Spickalot From the way that it sounds everyone seems to forget something. If you are owned then you should have a contract,

Gardenista -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/19/2007 6:46:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 This question is basically for subs, mostly for subs who serve their Master/Daddy/Dom sexually. This is in a collared relationship or an uncollared LTR. If your Master said to you one day we are not going to do sexual play any more (no canings whippings intercourse BJ's ect...) I just want you to be a service submissive. Would you stay or ask for release? Matt's littleone Barring any kind of medical reason, I would insist that he and I seek marital counseling. I'm taking the scenario verbatim.. if my husband just flat-out announced out of the blue: "No more sex, or anything sexual!", that would indicate something very, very wrong, so off to therapy we'd go.

Sabella -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/19/2007 7:07:28 AM)
But if it wasn't anything physically, mentally, or falling out of lust - what if it was just a mindfuck? How is the denial of sex any different from no masturbation for periods of time? Maybe he just had your name tatooed on his cock/her muff and wants time to heal before you see it. I think it would be hot and I'd roll with it, then it would be a game. Who can hold out the longest G while the other is doing the tempting. I am basing this of course on my own relationship. If we ever reached the point where he said "no more" and really ment it then we'd have been having problems LONG before this, and at that point sex or no sex would be the least of my concerns.

littleone35 -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/19/2007 12:25:37 PM)
Thank you all for you responses. I found them interesting. As others said i would not have this problem in my relationship Master and i always "take care" of each other sexually. Matt's littleone

petpete -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/19/2007 1:25:42 PM)
Lets face the truth G/guys!! Up to some extent it is possible for the relationship to last.. Because W/we all have some limits.... But then i think W/we would start looking elsewhere for it.. i think it is possible but it will wear out the relationship eventualy...

alivingdoll -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/20/2007 8:48:52 AM)
If the sexual aspect's weren't introduced in the beginning service /domestic arrangement with some sensation play but no sex(I've done that) it's not a component to enforce the connection, but now that i've seen the light (know the difference ) there's no way I could go back now . How I explain it is before I had this puzzle and I could put together only half of it until now all the pieces create the entire picture .From my experience only I can say holding my body and part's of myself away ,was a very limited dipping my feet into the lifestyle without knowing it I was attempting to guard my heart and doing that I was robbing myself of such a deep and rooted connection . don't mind me all this sex and play and this beautiful collar is going to my head lol ~~~~~~Doll

SlaveTiffany -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/20/2007 8:59:46 AM)
I would have to say that I'd stay, reguardless of the reasons for the simple fact that my Master is also my husband. (although if he said we were stopping sex all together I'd be worried.)

trueshadow -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/20/2007 3:06:18 PM)
Good question. I've been a slave who has been allowed to service my Superior, and I've been in service as a slave only. Obviously, I enjoyed the former more than the latter. However, if a relationship evolved to a non-sexual one, I might persist if I loved being her slave.

SlavesSoul -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/21/2007 4:23:25 AM)
It really depends on the relationship and the reasons behind the change. I agree with everyone else, I would want to know the why of it. That would make all the difference. Having said that, it also depends on how you are wired and how well he manages his comitment to you. I am very service oriented, it's a point of pride for me. It is my primary kink, I guess it would be easier for me to go without "beatings", than to be unable to have the opportunity to serve. And trust me, that is a huge statement, because I am a pretty heavy maso. But for me, the play and sex is the extra stuff. If he is doing his job well, and for medical reasons, or something along those lines, loses ability or desire then I would hope he would allow an outlet. He could maybe even make it a part of our dynamic, having me write erotic stories about the events to entertain him. He could take on a boy that I would enjoy, since I am a switch in play, who knows. But in his care of me and my needs, I would expect him to know that I still need occasional sexual release, and allow for that. k

meticulousgirl -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/21/2007 7:50:15 AM)
i would stay as i am now. it's been almost 11 months with nothing but, the form of vanilla service that i do for Him on a daily basis. i'm loosing my mind in reality but, trying to remain humble when i'm with Him. it's not easy, i want to beg but, i know that will just frustrate Him so i stay silent and hope that it comes soon. it's not in me to ask for the release but, then again that's just me. ~metiuclous~

JknKd -> RE: Sexual service Vs Service (12/21/2007 9:11:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 This question is basically for subs, mostly for subs who serve their Master/Daddy/Dom sexually. This is in a collared relationship or an uncollared LTR. If your Master said to you one day we are not going to do sexual play any more (no canings whippings intercourse BJ's ect...) I just want you to be a service submissive. Would you stay or ask for release? Matt's littleone I would stay. I do not serve Master so that he can serve me with what it is that I want; I serve him so that he is happy. If no more caninigs, or sex occured, and that made him happy; then I am still doing what I am here for.

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