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Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 4:31:08 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		This question is basically for subs, mostly for subs who serve their Master/Daddy/Dom sexually.  This is in a collared relationship  or an uncollared LTR.

If your Master said to you one day we are not going to do sexual play any more (no canings whippings intercourse BJ's  ect...) I just want you to be a service submissive.  Would you stay or ask for release?

Matt's littleone
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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 4:35:55 PM   
lockmeupplease


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Status: offline 		First of all, I hope that you asked why he wanted to change the nature of the relationship.

Though I am often content to just perform non-sexual services for a Mistress,  I am far too sexual a person to give it up and would probably move on.

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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 4:41:30 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I should be more clear.  This is not about me  i KNOW my Master would never say that.  i just thought it was an interesting question.

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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 4:56:08 PM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		If there were deep abiding love involved, I would certainly stay. Sex is fun, but it's more like gravy (to me) than potatoes.

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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 5:00:03 PM   
sexyred1


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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 5:13:35 PM   
l1z


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Status: offline 		i'd be extremely confused. my husband is a veritable nympho...if he up and said "no more" i'd be concerned with his mental and physical health and the state of our relationship. i'd probably stick around however...we've been through relatively long dry spells before and survived.

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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 6:06:23 PM   
wisteriaV


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Status: offline 		I'd make sure Master was taken to a doctor and then a shrink. Him not wanting sex or play is the most abnormal thing Master could do. However if it came right down to it, I'd stay because I love the man and what his heart says to mine..soooo wicked and good!

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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 6:06:52 PM   
takenbyjohnr07


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Status: offline 		If my Owner became diabled or sich=k tot he point where he could not do these things of course i would stay, because i love him either way, but if he stopped everything that would signal to me either there was something very wrong or he was no longer interested in me sexually anymore. Either way we would have lot's of talks before that would ever happen.

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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 6:11:43 PM   
girlygurl


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Status: offline 		It would never happen with my Sir and I. He loves sexual play far too much. 

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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 6:15:43 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't ask, I'd grant my self my own release. Our relationship is based on having everything in it, love, sex, ect ect.

edited to add that that's what I'd do if for no reason he decided no more play no more sex no more spankings, if there was a serious reason more than just cause like illness I'd prolly try to stick it out, see if it could work.


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ORIGINAL: littleone35

This question is basically for subs, mostly for subs who serve their Master/Daddy/Dom sexually.  This is in a collared relationship  or an uncollared LTR.

If your Master said to you one day we are not going to do sexual play any more (no canings whippings intercourse BJ's  ect...) I just want you to be a service submissive.  Would you stay or ask for release?

Matt's littleone


< Message edited by YourhandMyAss -- 12/17/2007 6:17:09 PM >

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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 6:16:26 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

This question is basically for subs, mostly for subs who serve their Master/Daddy/Dom sexually.  This is in a collared relationship  or an uncollared LTR.

If your Master said to you one day we are not going to do sexual play any more (no canings whippings intercourse BJ's  ect...) I just want you to be a service submissive.  Would you stay or ask for release?

Matt's littleone


Just to clarify what you are asking here.. are you saying to, basically, be an unpaid maid (laundry, cooking, cleaning) with an authority dynamic? If not, then I'm not sure what you are asking but in any event, how he chooses to use me is up to him. If he chooses to give up the authority, that's different, then all bets are off and there's nothing I can do about it.

Celeste



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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 7:02:52 PM   
desertdancer


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Status: offline 		Oh my that's a hard one isn't it?   I'm in a deeply loving relationship.  For me the love comes first beyond all things.  If  Master could not have sex anymore or just no longer held the desire I would be truely sad but I would stay, because I love him.  We have a different reltaionship BDSM wise where I am a pet, so doing the normal service things isn't really in our dynamic.  If he wanted that to change it would, but there may be some pouting involved until I was used to being a pampered pet no longer.

Now all that was said with the "IF" involved, the IF being that he no longer could have a sexual relationship with me.  However, if he could have sex and just didn't want it from me anymore, and wanted it elsewhere we would be having huge issues.  I am so deeply in love I would probably stay for a while and try to work it out.

Sadly though I couldn't see it working out for long.  I would be angry,  hurt and confused.   It would end badly and then I would be left to wonder how such a sweet love could go so wrong.   And then I am sure I would have day dreams of chopping of his willie and feeding it to him.

I wonder if this Man is testing his Submissive? Maybe playing some kinda mind game to see how she would react? Either way it seems cruel.


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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 7:26:45 PM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		The first thing would be to get him to a doctor. If everything checked out in that department then we would have some serious issues to discuss. I would not be willing to give up intimacy without a very good reason. I love my Sir more than I can possibly express, and I would give up all forms of play and sex and lovingly care for him in anyway he requires me to. However, there had better be a very good reason for it and it better make sense to me.

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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 8:21:04 PM   
daddyncherry


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Status: offline 		Hmmm this would be a toughy.....if there was still the authority and the snuggles then i would try to stick it out and try to find out what was going on that there was no sex or play.....

If it was just the way it was going to be i'd try to get the nerve to ask to get my sexual needs met elsewhere while continuing to serve him... i love him with all of me and i enjoy the authority, snuggles and service aspects a whole lot and that would be hard to give up for a sexual reason. 

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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 8:25:15 PM   
Wildfleurs


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

This question is basically for subs, mostly for subs who serve their Master/Daddy/Dom sexually.  This is in a collared relationship  or an uncollared LTR.

If your Master said to you one day we are not going to do sexual play any more (no canings whippings intercourse BJ's  ect...) I just want you to be a service submissive.  Would you stay or ask for release?

Matt's littleone


I'd stay (assuming the only thing that changed was lack of sex and BDSM).  And I'd ask for permission to get my sexual and BDSM needs met elsewhere, provided it didn't interfere with my relationship with him.

C~


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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 9:03:31 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		Well I would attempt to talk about it first, but as I have no desire to be with more than one person, I would probably walk away, as when I'm a sub "release" really isn't an issue in my relationships. I don't seek to be a maid, I seek to have a relationship.

< Message edited by laurell3 -- 12/17/2007 9:04:34 PM >

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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 9:34:50 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

This question is basically for subs, mostly for subs who serve their Master/Daddy/Dom sexually.  This is in a collared relationship  or an uncollared LTR.

If your Master said to you one day we are not going to do sexual play any more (no canings whippings intercourse BJ's  ect...) I just want you to be a service submissive.  Would you stay or ask for release?

Matt's littleone


You ask about our collared status like it means something... I do not think that service is synomous with submission first of all, although being obedient is..

It would depend on the motivations in having no sexual play as to if I would accept that sort of relationship. If it is because they are no longer attracted to me, I want out. If it is because of other things, we can discuss it and I would continue to be submissive.


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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 10:00:31 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		If you have good sex, it's only 10% of the relationship. If you aren't, then it's 90%. Sex is the glue that helps hold a relationship together.

If he said I was to be celibate for no good reason except that he didn't want me to be happy, of course I'd walk. As would he if I suddenly announced sex was a hard limit.

Now if he was ill and found no pleasure in it, that's different. But I would still hope that he felt up to pleasuring me occasionally when he felt well enough.

I was in a celibate marriage as was he, both of us are aware of how much that contributed to the ending of the marriage. As we don't want this relationship to end, we wouldn't deliberately make it shaky for no reason.

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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/17/2007 10:07:44 PM   
sammiebabygirl


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Status: offline 		I am not in a relationship, but it is definitely something that has made me think. I need to put the possibility of this into the negotiations. I would want an alternative in place should something like this arise. I am very service oriented and love to serve, but I am also very sexual and lack of it would be a deal breaker.
 
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RE: Sexual service Vs Service - 12/18/2007 12:11:44 AM   
littlebitxxx


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Status: offline 		Because our dynamic is slightly different, the removal of bdsm or sexual play wouldn't be a relationship breaker.  However, I would be definitely looking outside for my fix.

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