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KindLadyGrey -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/17/2007 11:07:46 PM)

It seems to me that folks with high IQs have a tendency to be more outside the box generally speaking, which may explain why it seems like so many really intelligent people end up in BDSM lifestyles. I once a read a research study that concluded that the higher a level of a woman's education, the more likely she was to be kinky and sexually adventurous. Boys take note: go after the PhDs!

That said, you only need to browse through the profiles here on CM to realize there are plenty of illiterate idiots in the lifestyle too!

Last but not least, I have to know. . .Ryugen, do you have six fingers?




CuriousLord -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 12:55:52 AM)

The average individual here is not very intelligent, contrary to what seems to be the impression of some.  This sort of topic is among the more commonly posted threads on CM.

This is the net.  It's a forum.  Yeah, people who are here likely have a few more brain cells to rub together than those who can't operate computers, are too ADD to find interest in a message board, or are otherwise disinclined to use a discussion board in favor of less stimulating activities (such as getting drunk at bars instead).

There's the common argument that BDSM is more complex than vanilla, so this would correlate to more intelligent practitioners.  Meh.  It's really not that hard.. just a couple ropes or so.  Personally, one of my reasons for preferring M/s to vanilla is simply because it's so easy and haste free!  No arguments or long compromises, figuring out what to do or having to come to agreements.. it's "Do this" and "Yes, Master"; provided my decisions are suitable, what could be easier?

But it should be pointed out that many of those who are so interested in BDSM as to post here have it as a main point in their life.  Even if more intelligent people are more prone to this lifestyle, they're not here; they're doing more intelligent things, such as, well, you know.. science, largely?

Still, many here have a basic grasp of lenguistics and some can actively contribute some intellectual end, so it's not all bad.  Just not to be overestimated.




MissMagnolia -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 12:59:50 AM)

wot du uoyu meen, ellitorate?




CuriousLord -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 1:03:38 AM)

I'm pleasantly surprised.. most people don't seem to get my "typo" puns.  ;)




MissMagnolia -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 1:07:35 AM)

wot tyfphose?[&:]




VermilionJet -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 1:34:36 AM)

It's tragically ironic that I actually had to state my preference towards the more intellectual individual due to the fact that I have almost gone blind trying to cipher and decode some of the e-mails that I have received here.  It takes every facet of the human spectrum to design any type of faith, credo, race, sentiment or lifestyle, and BDSM has just as many successes as failures, winners as defeated, intellectuals as idiots. 




wisteriaV -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 3:31:01 AM)

Remember that many people Leo da Vinci, Mozart, Beethoven and many street people were/are  extremely intellegent folks that some thought insane or illogical back in their time. You can have a genius IQ, but without using it, it has no value as its just a number. Intelligence is important to me but it is the application of said gift that gets my attention.




spanklette -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 3:38:09 AM)

I think it's a mistake to assume that there is one thing that underlies the preference for kink and BDSM. We're no better or worse than anyone else and I don't believe that there is one particular psychological or physiological thing that we all have in common. For every person there is a unique perspective on why and how they enjoy the lifestyle.




Decimus -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 3:40:18 AM)

Thank you for that advice Lady Grey. I do go after intelligent women as they are the only ones that interest me. I'm lucky though of course, after Aerith captured me I found out she was a genius! Guess that explains why it seemed effortless on her part!

Edited because my engish ain't wat it ust a b.




hardbodysub -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 7:54:58 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Ryugen

So, I've been thinking. While browsing the many posts on this forum it seems that everyone here is pretty smart and pretty on the ball ...



Wow, you and I must have been browsing different posts.

In regard to the question posed by the OP, it's just the nature vs. nurture question again. I don't think that our preferences for D/s roles are hard-coded into our DNA. There might be something there, but I suspect that life experiences have a lot more to do with it. Could DNA be responsible for someone being very dominant and aggressive in most aspects of life, but submissive in a BDSM relationship? Maybe, but I don't think it's likely.

I think genes might affect the probabilities of a person's roles, but environment and life experiences play at least as strong a part in determining the outcome.




SailingBum -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 8:19:52 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rover

I don't believe that lifestylers are any more, or less, intelligent than society as a whole.
 

 
John


Spend enough time here....and may begin to believe the opposite

Jeff


LOL my thoughts exactly




adoracat -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 9:29:02 AM)

personally, i'd only consider someone intelligent as a partner in any part of my life.  i dont care if the sex is STELLAR, eventually you have to talk to the person, and if they cant hold up their end of the conversation at hand?  sorry, it aint happening.

my mind needs to be stimulated as well as my body.

kitten




amayos -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 10:38:32 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Ryugen

I'm curious, does anyone think that to have a preference towards BDSM (any of its aspects, as a lifestyle, entertainment, or playground) first requires someone to have (perhaps) an IQ higher than a certain level (I realise that IQ isn't the be-all-and-end-all of a persons intelligence)?


Einstein once said imagination is more important than knowledge, and I tend to agree. Intelligence (as we traditionally measure it) needn't be unusually high or exceptional where this subject is concerned, although I do tend to hold the dominant party to a much higher standard in general. Fulfilling the spirit of Master or servant is what is key. For me, the more important qualities to this end have always been a keen imagination, open mindedness, self actualization, and personal accountability. Though these things usually come with "intelligence," its presence alone is not a reliable indicator of these qualities in another.




Aileen1968 -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 11:30:23 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Ryugen

I'm curious, does anyone think that to have a preference towards BDSM (any of its aspects, as a lifestyle, entertainment, or playground) first requires someone to have (perhaps) an IQ higher than a certain level (I realise that IQ isn't the be-all-and-end-all of a persons intelligence)? Or maybe it's just the knowledge of how to use an internet forum that enables people to claim they're into the lifestyle and post so on these specific forums [8D]


If you read 85% of the mail I get you'd know that the bold statement is not true.




KatyLied -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 11:32:16 AM)

I peerved Aileen's pictures and became smarter.  I'm almost mensa now...

[:D]




Aileen1968 -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 11:40:35 AM)

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I peerved Aileen's pictures and became smarter.  I'm almost mensa now...

[:D]



What's a peerve?




lauren0221 -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 11:42:57 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I peerved Aileen's pictures and became smarter.  I'm almost mensa now...

[:D]



What's a peerve?


It's metaperving!




KatyLied -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 11:45:39 AM)

Meta is the new more spiritual!




Prinsexx -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 11:48:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Ryugen


I'm curious, does anyone think that to have a preference towards BDSM (any of its aspects, as a lifestyle, entertainment, or playground) first requires someone to have (perhaps) an IQ higher than a certain level



In my darkest moments I sometimes wish it did, as I wouldn't have to suffer so many idiots...but then perhaps it's because I like to suffer that I meet so many [:D]
PS I seriously don't want to exclude...so yes all idiots are also welcome.....




justheather -> RE: Prerequisite Intelligence (12/18/2007 11:53:44 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I'm almost mensa now...

[:D]



Yeah well you know what they say about "almost".
Talk to me when you've got the card all laminated up and ready for use.





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