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Mercnbeth -> RE: Etiquette Question - How long to wait? (8/19/2005 10:59:12 AM)
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Why wait at all?
This is a website where with very little effort anyone can put up a profile. You're working on a false assumption, that is every profile is representing the truth. The truth is, many are fakes and frauds. Some are posers, some are on-line wankers, some are here to take advantage of the lonely, and some are even dangerous.
Cast a wide net. Don't have a canned response or send a form letter to every profile you see, but address a short and somewhat personalized note to everyone that appears to be someone you would like to meet. Don't wait for a reply from one before sending another. Begin a dialog, but assuming your goal is a real time meeting, until you have accomplished that, have as many dialogs as possible.
Try and focus on your goal - meeting. Don't waste time with those seeking on-line training or sessioning. Use on-line to get to know each other. The easiest way to get involved with a poser or fraud is to placate them by playing on-line games with them. Get out and meet. Make them feel as comfortable as possible. Disclose as much as you can about yourself to establish a level of trust.
Even with all that, some people still turn out to be frauds in person, but at least you've reached the stage where you can make that determination and write them off. It's nothing to be upset about, it's actually an accomplishment. You stopped wasting your time with a fraud. Until you find your "Bliss" keep the search broad. Sitting by the computer pining for a response is not productive, as a potential dom or a potential sub.
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