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DMFParadox -> RE: Outed in reverse, and demo doms taking advantage... (12/21/2007 7:15:42 AM)
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quote: TopCat
Dear T.-
Well, I do see a sorta common thread between the two- the people you are letting in.
Second issue first; I wouldn't make an issue in the moment- freezing up actually works for you there. You should, however, make the issue clear- more than clear- to the Top(s)-In-Question that the little no-big-deal playful behavoior (which I suspect is how they will portray it) is a big deal, and is not playful, as soon as the demo is over, make sure that there is a 3rd party witness to your statement, and next time it happens, (again, after the demo, show must go on and all that) inform the management that you will not work with him again.
On the first issue, well, maybe it's an NYC sorta thing, but my friends and I seem to close-mouthed about such things, and I really can't imagine a friend of mine blurting out sensitive personal information in a public place like that. In fact, we have a set of hand signals meaning 'I am OK, but stay clear' ,'come over so I can introduce you' 'and 'come over and be my significant other/ rescue me' (it's touching the ear for stay over there, touching the cheek for come on over, and touching the nose for 'save me').
Certainly, in a scene enviroment, mudane info spilling is considered very poor form. I'd sugest whacking 'em in the chops next time they do it.
Stay warm,
Lawrence
So what happens if your nose itches but you like your company and don't want an interrupt? Do you rub it with the back of your hand, or against a wall or something? j/k
Regarding the OP, rants 1, 2, and 2 1/2: Now, this whole issue is a fvcking hairball. Because a large part of sexuality for a lot of people is to have their boundaries pushed without permission. It annoys, insults, excites, and arouses. As does having boundaries that are fuzzily labeled as 'no' pushed... sometimes it's that act of saying no--and meaning it fully--yet having your desires overruled that is the most exciting. Bloody nuisance, that, and I sometimes wish people didn't work that illogically, but they do.
On the other hand, allowing this over-the-line behavior at all--not setting clear boundaries at all times and enforcing them--allows dangerous behavior to creep in. Public humiliation and firing at work, because your Master or munch mates let it slip to the wrong person? Getting raped by lack of resistance? These are real possibilities. So what's a submissive to do? What is right?
Sad to say, I don't have an answer, really. It's different for everyone. But don't hold grudges. Because nobody else really has an answer either; they just have to do what's best for them.
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