LadyHugs
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Dear mons, Ladies and Gentlemen;
I would first establish responsibilities and expectations. Here is an exerpt from my "The Manual - How you give service; copyrighted in 1997-
Responsibilities of the Master, Mistress and Slaves Masters and Mistresses
For maintaining and protecting the trust that you have bestowed upon me with your submission and holding that trust as the sacred foundation of our relationship
For your protection of the physical and emotional safety. Be assured that I will not deliberately cause you permanent and/or irreversible damage.
For your guidance and direction.
For establishing and maintaining the lines of communication necessary to insure your growth and the growth of this relationship.
For providing for your needs and caring for you within the context of our Master- slave and/or Mistress-slave relationship.
For training you as my property, so that you might achieve your true potential as my slave.
For demonstrating as much creativity in approaching the task of meeting your ever changing needs as I shall require that you demonstrate in meeting mine.
For insuring that you are always treated in a manner that is consistent with your role as my valued property and valued human.
To hold slave harmless of criminal/civil allegations/charges/investigations as long as it is within the limits and actions of the relationship. However, if the acts go beyond the consented contract the slave understands the Master's/Mistress's rights to pursue judicial relief.
Slave's Responsibilities
You must understand clearly the terms and conditions of your submission.
You must be certain of what is expected of you and what limitations are placed upon you. It is impossible for you to submit successfully, if you fail to understand the terms and conditions of submission.
Armed with free choice, you surrender your freedom willingly to me your Master and/or Mistress.
You have willingly agreed to my control and domination. As long as you have to remain in this relationship, you are expected to honor and obey me.
As slave you are obligated to and responsible for insuring that you do nothing to endanger and/or threaten your health and well being, and/or that of your Master/Mistress and/or the Master's/Mistress's household.
You are obligated to protecting and preserving my property and yourself from risk of harm to include from me, should I be behaving in a manner you believe is unsafe.
For communicating your needs to me clearly and unequivocally.
Notifying me of any changes in your physical/emotional/mental well being.
Maintaining your weight and physical fitness in accordance with good health and my wishes.
Knowing that you may talk with me about anything at any time. But in this, you are expected to exercise good judgment and self control by planning to bring new issues forward at times that are considerate of the Master's/Mistress's needs.
Exercising care and sound judgment in all things, remembering that in all things your conduct reflects upon me.
A slave's primary function is to serve and please the Master/Mistress with the following of the secondary function of being desirable and pleasing as you serve your Master and/or Mistress.
Slave has sworn to fulfill my desires. Being a generous Master/Mistress, to be such to his/her slave, the Master/Mistress requires that his/her slave give their all, without expecting anything beyond the pleasures of serving him/her in return.
To hold a Master/Mistress harmless of any criminal/civil allegations/ investigations and charges, as long as it is within the limits and actions of the relationship. However, if such acts go beyond the consented contract, Master/Mistress understands the slave's right to pursue judicial relief.
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Contract of Indenture
Let it be known on this the: ___________day of____________19___, that: _______________________________does of his/her free will, and without outside influence or pressure, offers himself/herself in the position of slave to: _____________
___________________, and will thus become his/her property as to use and to do with as he/she will.
Indenture by its definition is a slave holding, work agreement and contract.
Slavery by it's definition, servitude and constraint. From this day forward and until such time as the Owner may amend, rewrite and/or cancel this contract, ________________
__________________ is the exclusive property of:____________________________.
It is understood he/she will be subjected to the commands and demands of his/her owner, will serve with a willing attitude, without complaint, and expects to be constrained both physically and mentally, at what ever level of intensity and/or severity of his/her Owner, if the Owner so chooses.
Ownership is defined as having title to or having claim upon. Owner hereby receives title to: ___________________________________________________as his/her exclusive property.
Owner accepts and acknowledges the responsibility for care, training and education and protection of the slave.
Care and training is defined by Owner as control, domination and discipline in what ever way Owner deems necessary.
Owner: ________________________________________________________________
Indentured Slave: ________________________________________________________________
Witness: ________________________________________________________________
Witness: ________________________________________________________________
[Note: You can draw up your contract as you both see fit. And, I would first put a three month limit on the relationship in the beginning and subjected to renegotiations. You might want to put escape clauses in, example breaking trust about hard limits, abuse (but detail when it is consensual and when it goes over the line clearly-want an outsider to see there is a line drawn and understood.) Furthermore, I would treat anything with a contract as a business. Even though it is personal--it is YOUR business. In addition, you want to make sure the contract fits you and your needs as well as the person you are negotiating with.]
CONTRACT OF SUBMISSION
Let it be known that on: ____________________day of_____________19___, that ________________ does of his/her free will and with out outside influence or pressure, offers himself/herself in the position of submissive to: ____________________ and will thus become his/her subject of domination to do with as he/she wills.
Submission by definition is obedience, surrender, to obey. From this day forward and when such time the Dominant may amend, rewrite and/or cancel this covenant,
________________________________________________ is the exclusive submissive of:__________________________________________________________________.
It is understood that he/she will be subjected to the commands and the demands of his/her Dominant, and will serve in the submissive role his/her with a willing attitude, without complaint and expects to be constrained both physically and mentally, at what ever level of intensity and/or severity of the negotiated limits.
Dominant is defined as Master, controlling, first and governing. Dominant hereby receives title to: _________________________________________as his/her exclusive submissive.
Dominant accepts and acknowledges the responsibilities for the care, training, education and protection of the submissive.
Care and training is defined by Dominant as, control, domination and discipline in whatever way a Dominant deems necessary, within the pre-negotiated limits and within the defined role of the Dominant and submissive.
As a submissive, he/she understands to strive diligently, to remold my habits, to learn respect for authority and to keep a submissive, pleasing attitude in accordance to the limits negotiated, in accordance with my Dominant's desires, in order to achieve pleasure for my Dominant. I will seek to learn how to please my Dominant, and to better and gracefully accept criticism.
I promise to answer truthfully and completely and to the best of my knowledge and answer all the questions that the Dominant asks of me, within the role of Dominant and submissive.
I agree to the system of verbal "safe words" and "non-verbal" signals we have discussed in person to maintain personal safety.
My Dominant agrees to make allowance for my need to function within society and to earn a living.
I understand any failure by either Dominant or submissive to maintain the actions within the agreed role-play or realm of adult interactions, is a cause for termination of this special relationship.
I will also agree to hold the Dominant: _________________________________ harmless, from any civil and/or criminal liability which may injure me as a consequence of the actions agreed upon and agreed to in this contract, with the proviso, that any action outside the "scene" and "out of role," that both Dominant and/or submissive do not relinquish any legal rights for any deliberate criminal and/or civil acts committed on or against either Dominant or submissive and their own property or another's property.
Dominant: ____________________________________________________________
Submissive: ___________________________________________________________
Witness: ______________________________________________________________
Witness: _____________________________________________________________ Questionnaire For potential Slave and/or Submissive
Please answer each question honestly and with a yes or no answer and fill in blanks when required.
1. Do you smoke? ___________________________________________________
2. Do you drink alcoholic beverages? _____________________________________
3. When you do drink alcoholic beverages, is it social? _______________________
4. Do you take any illegal drugs? ________________________________________
5. Have you ever been arrested? ________________________________________
6. If you have been arrested, what was the charge(s)? _________________________
_______________________________________________________________
7. What was the disposition? ___________________________________________
8. Have you ever been convicted of a civil and/or criminal offense? _____________
9. What was the outcome of the conviction? _______________________________
_______________________________________________________________
10. Are you willing to move to where the Owner lives? ________________________
11. Are you willing to keep and maintain a residence for the Owner Master or Mistress? ________________________________________________________
12. Would you be willing to be a slave with another slave of the same sex? ________
13. Would you be willing to be roommates with another slave of the same sex? _____
14. Would you be willing to be a slave with another slave of the opposite sex? _____
15. Would you be willing to be roommates with another slave of the opposite sex?
______________________________________________________________
16. Do you suffer from any injuries, physical ailments that may hamper your performance as slave and/or the physical strength it takes to be one? ___________
17. If you do suffer from physical ailments and/or injuries what are they? _________
_____________________________________________________________
18. Who should be notified in case of a crisis and/or Emergency? ______________
______________________________________________________________
19. Have you suffered any emotional problems that create a need for counseling and/
or mental health care and/or medications? ______________________________
20. If you have suffered any mental disabilities what are they? __________________
_____________________________________________________________
21. Do you have any prior experience as a live in slave? ______________________
22. If you have had experience as a live in slave, how long was the relationship?
______________________________________________________________
23. If you are no longer in a live in relationship as a slave, what was the cause of separation? _____________________________________________________
24. What bad incidences took place that may give you hesitation about becoming a slave again? ____________________________________________________
25. What good incidences have taken place that may give you reasons to continue the desire of the live in slave role? ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
26. What do you want from the position as a live in slave? _____________________
_______________________________________________________________
27. Is there a need to keep this relationship and status of slave a discrete issue for business purposes? ________________________________________________
28. Have you answered all the above questions honestly and without a attempt to mask the truth? ___________________________________________________
29. Would you be willing to give your true name, social security number and birth date, as to have a criminal record's check done? __________________________
Name: _________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: ____________________________________________________
Social Security Number: ____________________________________________
Slave's / Submissive's Signature: _______________________________
NEGOTIATIONS FOR SLAVE, SUBMISSIVE AND SCENES
Part One: General Information
1. SM Experience: a) Novice ____ b) Experienced ______
2. Sexual Orientation:
a) Heterosexual ____ b) Bi Sexual ____ c) Bi Curious ____ d) Gay ____
3. Gender Orientation:
a) Male ____ b) Female ____ c) Cross Dresser _____ d) Transsexual ____
4. Dominant:
a) Always ____ b) Often ____ c) Rarely ____ d) Never ____
5. Submissive:
a) Always ____ b) Often ____ c) Rarely ____ d) Never ____
6. Masochistic:
a) Very ____ b) Somewhat ____ c) Hardly ____ d) No ____
7. Sadist:
a) Very ____ b) Somewhat ____ c) Hardly ____ d) No ____
8. Main Interests:
a) Sexual - Physical (bottom or top) ______
b) Psychosexual - Mental (D/s role-play) ______
c) Both are equally important ______
9. Will play at:
a) Anywhere ______
b) My House or Apartment ______
c) Outdoors ______
d) Parties ______
e) At SM Clubs ______
f) Public - near my home ______
g) Public - away from home ______
h) Other Places ________________________ ______
10. Who can know of your activities?
a) Nobody ______
b) Private play only partner ______
c) A few trusted friends ______
d) Other scene people can know ______
11. How do you feel about other people in your scene?
a) I only want to play with myself ______
b) Just me and my partner ______
c) Threesome ______
d) Small Groups ______
e) The more the happier I'll be ______
f) Pre-approved people only ______
12. How do you feel about service? (Cleaning, errands, etc.)
a) I live to serve ______
b) Helping my Dominant in little ways makes me feel good ______
c) It is part of the fantasy, but do not overdue it ______
d) Expletive nonsense, I will do what is fun ______
13. How do you feel about punishment?
a) It is part of the training and the right of the Dominant. ______
b) Penalties for "disobedience" enhances the fantasy ______
c) It can be OK as an excuse for having fun ______
d) Pointless, mutual pleasure needs no justification ______
14. What bruises or body marks are acceptable?
a) Leave my body as is - No marks ______
b) Temporary redness - gone in a few hours ______
c) Occasional accidental bruises are OK ______
d) Its OK to mark and carry bruises one week ______
e) Heavy bruises and welts are wanted ______
f) Permanent marks are OK ______
15. Roles of the Dominant: _____________________________________________
16. Roles of the Submissive: ____________________________________________
17. Fetishes: ________________________________________________________
18. Wants and Perceived Needs: _________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________
19. Medical, Physical or Emotional concerns: _______________________________
_______________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________
20. Limits: __________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________
21. Safe Words: _____________________________________________________Additional Comments
Part Two - Preferred Activities
Check which applies and then use the lined space for additional comments.CORPORAL
1. Spanking by hand____________________________________________
2. Leather Paddles _____________________________________________
3. Wooden Paddles ____________________________________________
4. Belts or Straps ______________________________________________
5. Switch ____________________________________________________
6. Deer Skin Floggers - cats ______________________________________
7. Leather Floggers - cats ________________________________________
8. Braided Floggers - cats ________________________________________
9. Rubber Floggers - cats ________________________________________
10. Knotted whips ______________________________________________
11. Single lash (Dressage, whips, etc) ________________________________
12. Quirts _____________________________________________________
13. Cane - Rattan _______________________________________________
14. Fiberglass or plastic rods _______________________________________
15. Riding Crops _______________________________________________
16. Taws ______________________________________________________BONDAGE
17. Mental Bondage _____________________________________________
18. Nylon Rope ________________________________________________
19. Cotton Rope _______________________________________________
20. Chains ____________________________________________________
21. Leather Bonds ______________________________________________
22. Spandex Bonds _____________________________________________
23. Plastic Wrap _______________________________________________
24. Body Bags _________________________________________________
25. Gags ______________________________________________________
26. Leather Cuffs _______________________________________________
27. Steel Shackles - Handcuffs _____________________________________
28. Arm Sleeves ________________________________________________
29. Straight Jacket ______________________________________________
30. Breast Bondage _____________________________________________
31. Genital Bondage (CBT, etc.) ____________________________________
32. Spreader Bar _______________________________________________
33. Cages _____________________________________________________
34. Slings and swings _____________________________________________
35. Stocks or Pillory _____________________________________________
36. Crosses (St. Andrew Cross) ____________________________________
37. Suspension on the toes ________________________________________
38. Suspension _________________________________________________
39. Outdoor settings _____________________________________________
40. Indoor settings _______________________________________________
41. Public settings _______________________________________________
42. Semi Private settings __________________________________________
43. Private settings ______________________________________________
44. 1-3 Hour duration ____________________________________________
45. 4-8 Hour duration ____________________________________________
46. Over night duration ___________________________________________
47. Lifestyle - Outside of Home ____________________________________
48. Lifestyle ____________________________________________________ TORTURE AND SENSORY DEPRIVATION
49. Blindfolds __________________________________________________
50. Modified Blindfolds (goggles) ___________________________________
51. Hoods ____________________________________________________
52. Head phones or ear plugs ______________________________________
53. Tickling ____________________________________________________
54. Feathers ___________________________________________________
55. Furs ______________________________________________________
56. Sexual teasing _______________________________________________
57. Sexual denial ________________________________________________
58. Chastity Belt _________________________________________________
59. Pinching ____________________________________________________
60. Hair pulling _________________________________________________
61. Nipple clamps - Nipple clips ____________________________________
62. Clothes Pins ________________________________________________
63. Genital torture _______________________________________________
64. Weights ____________________________________________________
65. Cock rings __________________________________________________
66. Ball Stretcher ________________________________________________
67. Water Torture _______________________________________________
68. Ice ________________________________________________________
69. Oils, lotions or spices __________________________________________
70. Fire and Ice _________________________________________________
71. Hot Wax ___________________________________________________
72. Needles ____________________________________________________
73. Cuttings ____________________________________________________
74. Abrasions __________________________________________________
75. Electric torture _______________________________________________
SEXUAL
76. Digital -finger sex ____________________________________________
77. Directed Masturbation ________________________________________
78. Vaginal Sex ________________________________________________
79. Oral Sex __________________________________________________
80. Anal Sex __________________________________________________
81. Vibrator - dildo ____________________________________________
82. Strap on dildo _____________________________________________
83. Anal Plug - butt plug _________________________________________
84. Multiple Penetration _________________________________________
85. Analingus _________________________________________________
86. Vaginal fisting _____________________________________________
87. Anal fisting _______________________________________________
88. Fantasy Rape ______________________________________________
89. Directed bi-sexuality _________________________________________
90. Threesome ________________________________________________
91. Group ____________________________________________________HUMILIATION AND EXHIBITION
92. Foot worship _______________________________________________
93. Kneeling __________________________________________________
94. Crawling __________________________________________________
95. Leading on a leash ___________________________________________
96. Dirty words ________________________________________________
97. Verbal Abuse _______________________________________________
98. Public Embarrassment ________________________________________
99. Face Slapping _______________________________________________
100. Cross Dressing ______________________________________________
101. Secret sex in public ___________________________________________
102. Public Display _______________________________________________
103. Public Sex __________________________________________________
104. Public Whipping _____________________________________________
105. Infantilism __________________________________________________
106. Golden Showers _____________________________________________
107. Enema ____________________________________________________DRESS AND ADORNMENT
108. Innocent ___________________________________________________
109. Slutty _____________________________________________________
110. Prim and Proper _____________________________________________
111. Ultra Feminine ______________________________________________
112. Official Domina - Goddess Uniform ______________________________
113. French Maid ________________________________________________
114. Child - baby ________________________________________________
115. Slave _____________________________________________________
116. Macho ____________________________________________________
117. Biker _____________________________________________________
118. Spandex ___________________________________________________
119. Rubber - latex _______________________________________________
120. Masks or Hoods _____________________________________________
121. Costumes __________________________________________________
122. Lingerie ___________________________________________________
123. Corsets - Bustier - Cinches _____________________________________
124. Boots _____________________________________________________
125. Garter and hose - stockings _____________________________________
126. High heels __________________________________________________
127. Tattooing ___________________________________________________
128. Body Piercing ________________________________________________
129. Branding ____________________________________________________COMMENTS AND ADDED ITEMS
Part Three -Checklists - What has been discussed
Limits and safe words
Relationships (Exclusive and depth of it)
Sex and birth control
Safer sex - Current Health
Dominant Signature _______________________________________
Submissive Signature ______________________________________
Date ___________________________________________________
Notice This is private information that will not go into a file other then associated with the contract of the slave or submissive, it is subject to review and re-negotiations as the relationship progresses, therefore it is most important to fill this questionnaire out in an honest manner to prevent any misunderstandings or injuries.
Punishment
Slave will be punished for disobedience. The slave will be punished fitting the form of the offense.
Poor performance. This will give the slave the "desire" to perform better. To improve.
Lying. This is cause for dismissal and/or taking back the collar.
Tardiness and/or being late. Depending on the task and if there is no valid excuses.
Failure to confess to Master/Mistress a slave's misconduct and/or misdeeds.
Punishment and its severity is determined by Master/Mistress as to be harsh enough as not to be ineffective.
End of exerpts from The Manual - How you give service - Author Lady Hugs
US Library of Congress Copyright 1997 Certification & Registration number:
TXu 828-635
This can be used for an example or template and again I stress, to create a contract, negotiation check sheet that reflects the two individuals negotiating as Master/Mistress/Dominant and slave/submissive/servant
I will also apologize for not getting what is in the Manual in perfect allignment here--my goodness it is a mess! (I am at times computer challenged) But, the ideas on how to create contracts still are valid.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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