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RE: Whats the best way to respond to a subs message, pa... - 8/19/2005 8:54:52 PM

Aileen68

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ahhh...I knew someone would beat me up over this...I am lousy at expressing myself. That's why I don't post often in the forums...I just like to know who it is I am talking to. If I am talking to another sub it is a different matter. I have talked to many subs...male and female and at that instance it was not a deciding factor because they were not hitting on me. But when a dom emails me and propositions me it does become a factor whether or not I choose to answer. the circumstances are completely different because they are trying to get something more than conversation from me. Once again...I have probably not come close to saying what I really mean but hopefully you get the drift.

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ORIGINAL: thelight

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Unfortunately, this is just like real life in that I respond to people I am initially attracted to...so...no Picture from you and right off the bat you'll get no response from me. I have to know what the person I'm about to talk to looks like (I know that sounds shallow). If I am not attracted to you physically then I'm not likely to respond no matter what you say to me.

I would understand this if you were looking for a partner, but in your profile, you state that you are unavailable. if you're only looking for conversation, i would think that what someone had to say would be of the utmost importance, and that what they looked like would be of little or no consequence.

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RE: Whats the best way to respond to a subs message, pa... - 8/19/2005 9:32:30 PM

kajirina

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Tell her to get on her knees and start sucking, of course!

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RE: Whats the best way to respond to a subs message, pa... - 8/21/2005 7:38:21 AM

NakedOnMyChain

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Even is your mail is perfect, a lot of people still won't respond. They might be getting too much mail, they might not have time to reply, they might not be interested. In a perfect world they would write you back with an answer, but the sad reality of this site is that we are, indeed, flawed humans. So you write whatever you're comfortable with, someone will eventually get back to you. Don't get discouraged.

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RE: Whats the best way to respond to a subs message, pa... - 8/21/2005 10:10:34 AM

Fawne

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They might be getting too much mail, they might not have time to reply, they might not be interested. In a perfect world they would write you back with an answer, but the sad reality of this site is that we are, indeed, flawed humans. comfortable with, someone will Don't get discouraged.

First, let me say: thanks for asking! Smart man to ask and I hope you find useful advice.

I'm another submissive woman here to answer and hopefully help, just please no offense meant in any critism.
I am taken now (why profile is hidden) but I too went through what other submissive women are expressing. We get bombarded. (I am not complaining!)

ITA approach them as a person first. Find common interests, tell a joke, be human.. treat her like a human. You can do it ;)

Yes, a pic really helps.

Good things: you do sound "real" and that is all important! (LOL) You can write and express yourself well. You don't take the lazy route (surely you will score points when she sees you went to the trouble to post here)

Plus, you are honest in saying you too are exploring and..who knows where it will go. I liked that, open and cool and not all knowing.

Bad: Some submissives find it distasteful to be called "sub". I know it's just an abbreviation, but there is controversy there.

Age range. It would sound a lot better to just say you prefer someone younger than yourself.

Don't be discouraged and good luck to you!! :)

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