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MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: updated my profile..... (12/24/2007 5:46:38 AM)
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ORIGINAL: beeble
- Your journal entries for 12/22, 6/15, 5/20, 5/6, 4/29, 4/28, 4/20 and 4/1/2007 each say ``I am an asshat.'' Sorry, but ranting against fakes and describing the whole site as ``pathetic'', ``the most bull on the planet'' and ``an insult to real people'' is just an insult to your reader. I'm so sorry the Domme you approached recently was sarcastic to you but perhaps this indicates that the message you sent her wasn't quite as nice as you thought it was? Earlier on, perhaps it wasn't such a good idea to send a two-line message to a Domme and try to follow up later with a longer one? Dommes get inundated by short messages and often block their senders.
I'll answer this one since it was in fact my email to this individual that he posted to his profile and calls "imature" (which incidentally is against CM's TOS as well as exhibiting a level of "immaturity" far beyond what he thinks he's illustrating).
I honestly can't tell you how many emails I get from men who seem to expect that I'm not only willing to drop everything and play with complete strangers who contact me online, but that I should somehow buy into their "it's all about YOU" patter when they ask me. My response that he posted on his journal was in reply to his random unsolicited "let's meet and play" email.
1. If someone I don't know suddenly expresses that he wants to "serve" me, but doesn't know me and declares his desire to "serve" me before he even attempts to get to know me - I know that means he doesn't give a damn about who he plays with, but rather about his own needs, no matter how he words it.
2. I place far too much value on my own personal safety to be meeting people online to play after exchanging one email (or even half a dozen for that matter). Someone who expects me to do so clearly has no regard for my personal safety, nor their own, and throws up an immediate red flag - it's a faux pas from which there is no possible recovery. If being concerned for my own personal safety on a level that is reasonable makes me a "weirdo" - so be it.
3. I am NOT honored by somone who makes first contact with me, then implies it's an incovenience for him to drive to me, but will if I'll play with him. First of all, there are guys around the world who offer the exact same thing - literally a dozen a week, if not more. Secondly, don't contact someone who isn't local to you then behave like it's inconvenient because they're not local to you.....but you'll suck it up and deal if they'll drop everything to play with you. It's not a compliment by any means.
I do indeed engage in BDSM real time, have been for years, but that doesn't mean I'm willing to engage in it with "just anyone". I've gone to my fair share of munches, conventions, parties, clubs, etc. If a sub wants to meet someone who is "serious and real", then understand that meeting someone of that caliber is going to take more effort than a "hey baby let's hook up" email that's badly misspelled.
Not surprisingly, many dommes do not appreciate being treated as if we're just here to service the horny masses on their demands - no matter how they cloak such requests.
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I'll stand by my statement that if an individual has no interest in doing anything but pestering women to "hook up" - then he should pony up and see a prodomme.
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You can fix your profile as much as you want, but I think the response you've been getting - and ranting about - has far more to do with your apparent attitude towards Dommes than anything else. All the spellchecks and better pictures and such aren't going to help with that.
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