AveAboy
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SOme responses and thoughts on BDSM and dating:
In response to Camille
oh, In my real day to day life, i tend to be rather Alpha...
so, quite honestly,
I know ALOT of people from all differnt areas of my life, and although by NO means famous, or anything special, I do have a high profile at times, so
I would be embarrassed if someone I knew from my day-to-day life saw me here on collar me as a sub
(occasionally I put my pic up, but just for brief periods of time after i sent some emails out)
but in general.... I just send a pic or two when I write someone.
As for Bossy Shoe Bitch
sure, I will agree with you "that you are not too hard on the eyes"
and i am glad to see that there are some people who do meet on collar me (I assume you met here, not in the real world?)
either way, congrats
Of course, its not AS hard for a Dom to meet women on here.
its still almost impossible for MOST sub guys,
in either case, glad to see an exception to the rule.
Also, I have looked at my Domme female friends computers, the ones that have profiles on here,
and if they are even mildly cute, they get up to hundreds of emails a week,
from really good looking, successful guys,
many offering them money, presents, vacation,s whatever they want really.
They dont even have time to read them all,
plus such an abundance of men causes them to feel that the attention of men is so common that it loses alot of its value.
As for SimpeeMichael's comments
I never complain about a woman I am dating...
If i am dating her, I like her.
I will meet anyone I think that has the possibility of being cool, fun or interesting
or i will meet someone I like as a friend, just to hang out.
I dont constantly start and end relationships.
I do like to flirt, and being social, meeting women in social settings is fun for me.
And after reading "The Game" i studied the pick up arts, for fun
although once i realized I could pick up 9s and 10s all night long (and by pick-up, I dont mean i slept with them all, i tend to be rather selctive, as far as personality, and how I feel about someone before I have sex with them), I lost interst, and just went back to finding someone I could really connect with.... besides, I like the power dynamic, and most really stunning women (i.e. 9's and 10's) tend to be submissive, and submissive women are not my thing,
Domme women, in general dont generally appear above an 8, with most true dommes being in the 4-7 range...as far as looks go (which has nothing to do with anything, just an observation). Looks arent the most important to me, personality is.
One other side note, any women who is a 3 or below in the looks departmetn and claims to be Domme, I am very sceptical of, as there is a phenomenom in the BDSM community where (very often, but not always), less attractive women will take on the mantle of being domme as it is a VERY easy way to meet lots of men, which is especialy appealing to women who cant meet men otherwise. Once again, slightly off subject, but we have all seen it, you know its true.
but back to what YOU were saying....
glad I could make you look good,
I kinda had the feeling that saying what almost everyone on here knows would get me some critique, but every once in a while i feel a dose of truth is OK
i mean for everyone to sit here and be like, sure,
you can find true love, or get married to a wonderful D or S person here on collar me, it totally and patently false.
It is not happening, except in the rarest of occasions,
But that wasnt really what my post was about, was just saying
(especially to any guys out there)
if you want to meet a cool woman, a quality woman, who is also into BDSM,
by all means try here
but its a very long shot
and the real world s a better place to meet someone.
(A guy can also go to a pro-domme, but anyone who pays for sex -and yes that includes having a woman dominate you-, i consider a total loser, and I dont even know what to say to you). If you are a female pro-domme, that doesnt bother me as much, (although you know i wont be paying you!) In general its ok with me, if you do a little pro work (as long as its not that gross stuff, and you know what i mean), but if you are a pro, i do think less of you than if you had a real job.
Although, I still say, online or in real life, the ratio of really hot (not counting the ho's) women to men, in the BDSM community, is pretty much to the extreme advantage of the women.
Its even worse online, but even in BDSM events/clubs its not too good.
Does that mean you cant meet a girl?
no.
its just that even if you have great social skills, are good looking and have status (yes even a sub can have status), you will have to work twice as hard, for half the results (in general)
If I didnt have good social, women-meeting (and just good people in-general meeting) skills from the vanilla world, I dont think I would ever meet anyone.
As for online, I was on another website (just a regular meet vanilla people, free dating site) called "plenty of fish" (I am not promoting it, just using it as an example)
In the month that I have been on there I have 140 or so emails from women, I get several new emails a day, i can pick and choose, and even without writing anyone I get 3-4 emails a day,
On collar me, in about a year, (even when I had my pic up) I get about maybe 1 email a month, if I am lucky.
From the replies I have gotten you would think i was the only guy who gets poor results on here,
although I know that is not the case.
I know its good to "look at the bright side"
put a positive spin on things
but its also good to accurately evaluate the situation first.
ANyway , just wanted to share MY experiences here, and in general, meeting women in the BDS< world, withthe hope that it cold be helpful,
maybe help someone struggling realize taht they are not the only one.
cheers
< Message edited by AveAboy -- 5/3/2008 7:56:46 PM >
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