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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/21/2007 9:08:29 PM   
LadyLupineNYC


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From: NYC
Status: offline 		I love this topic!  Short version:

So, early July 2006 I was emailed by a sub stationed in Iraq on my ‘Mistress’ myspace page (being just about the only way someone in Iraq could view anything remotely kinky due to content blockers the military uses ).  Few emails later, and several long im convos, I was calling him ‘slave pouge’ (this is insulting to a solider, especially one in a combat unit).  Very shortly afterwards we started talking on the phone- I can still hear his nervous Midwestern accent on my voice mail that 1st missed call, precious!.  By the end of the 1st month, he had found out my favorite flower (sterling roses) and sent me this massive 2 doz arrangement, with gourmet chocolate…alas, as well as things were going, by early September, he back away, severely. From his POV, we would never be able to meet, the difficulties talking were just too great (time zone issues, stress from being stationed in the Sunni Triangle & losing guys every few day, the 2 miles he would walk just to call me on a super crappy payphone that often hung up on him after les than 30 seconds over and over and over, etc).  As he put it, at the end of the day, he was still in the same damn porta potties jacking off…it was just too much…I offered to be there whenever he needed me, I fretted over his safely, and, by January, figured I would never hear from him again.  I won’t lie, it broke my heart…

Fast forward, June 2007, sign on to CM and my eye glances down the list of ppl just signed on and I see ‘sfdrew’.  My heart stopped.  I clicked the profile.  It was him. He had signed up two days before and his photo had JUST been approved.  He was now back home (in Kansas) and reading his original profile text, I was struck by how some of the qualities he listed as what he was looking for sounded an awful lot like me (a fact he later confirmed).  I figured, well…might as well and wrote simply ‘Hello’.  I noted that he had read it and for 10 mins, no response and I had come to the conclusion that he really didn’t want to talk to me again.  I was wrong; he was even more shocked than I and was just sitting there staring at the screen.  In three weeks, he was in NYC for a whirlwind weekend and we have been nonstop since. Now my sweet little ‘slave takara’, he is planning on moving to NYC this spring (as mentioned in the ‘ask a slave’ forum under ‘Willing to relocate’)…
So, there you myspace and CM CAN work!

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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/21/2007 10:06:42 PM   
Vendaval


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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 7:17:35 AM   
beeble


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MsCfromMelbourne wrote: I suspect men actually think they can go on the internet and effortlessly have the Mistress of their dreams quickly and quietly delivered to the door like a pizza.

``Hello, is that Domme-ino's?  I'd like a six-foot extra-hot Mistress, please.  Hold the anchovies.''

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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 7:54:29 AM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		HA!  Jen, I remember doing that joke.  I had totally forgotten it until you brought it up here.  First time I ever did stand up in someone's living room.

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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 9:12:21 AM   
LotusSong


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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 10:47:52 AM   
unforegvn


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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 11:57:24 AM   
pixelslave


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Status: offline 		Majik and I met here on CM.  She contacted me on the other side following something I'd written on the boards.  We corresponded on CM for a while eventually moving things to IM and telephone, then finally met for the 1st time about 2-1/2 months later.  Now if we could just see each other more frequently than the distance and other commitments we both have currently seem to allow, things could really be great!
 
 - pixel
 
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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 12:18:04 PM   
KindLadyGrey


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quote:

ORIGINAL: beeble

quote:

MsCfromMelbourne wrote: I suspect men actually think they can go on the internet and effortlessly have the Mistress of their dreams quickly and quietly delivered to the door like a pizza.

``Hello, is that Domme-ino's? I'd like a six-foot extra-hot Mistress, please. Hold the anchovies.''




I just go to the local deli and order a 12" sub.

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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 12:18:12 PM   
Nikolette


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Status: offline 		Collar me has been successful for me.... I met both of my current slaves here. One I messaged because he was a musician and I am always on the hunt for talented intelligent friends. We clicked rather quickly though ... I thought he was sweet and attractive. So we met in a couple months when his semester in college ended. He stayed with me- even extended his vacation a bit. I stayed with him for a bit and then we decided I would stay with him for a bit on a trial basis.... It worked out well so we've been together ever since.

I've actually known the slave I collared more recently (last year) longer than the one I mentioned above. He and I had been friends online for a couple years. Purely platonic. He messaged me because .... he thought my eyes were intense and I sounded interesting on my profile. We knew from the begining (or so we thought) that we weren't compatible. But we made great friends. Over time he developed a crush on me.... and over even more time I developed it back. Until one day he was mentioning to me he was going to try out being an "online slave" which I thought was silly but wished him the best of luck. However the green eyed monster caught me and I then became aware I had actual feelings for him. SO I told him as soon as possible... not wishing to stir up any sort of drama or anything, but just saying "Hey, I know we've always been friends but when you got collared it brought up a lot of unexpected reactions and I just wanted to talk to you about them." but he was super thrilled because he felt the same way but never thought we'd really work out. So he politely broke off his online thing and we met later that week and he stayed with me for a few days. Then I stayed with him for a week a few weeks later... and then we made it official.... and he commuted to me every other week until eventually we decided to live together when my lease was up. And we've been together since then quite happily.

I've always been open to meeting people online (obviously if I'm here, right) but I've had dicey luck. I'm so thrilled to  have met so many nice people on collar me... I have made more friends than romantic partners here and its been splendid. I've suggested it to several people I knew were curious/already interested in BDSM and such. The only thing I've seen work over the long term ("work" as in a healthy and functioning relationship IMHO) is when people are honest with themselves as well as others and are genuinely willing and able to meet and share themselves with another person. But that is the same as meeting someone anywhere, I'd suppose. In the past I've also had a decent amount of luck when meeting someone in the lifestyle through a mutual friend. But I'm lucky enough to have a best friend since middle school who is also interested in BDSM.




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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 1:46:19 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		I'm one of those who just got lucky.  I didn't want to collar anyone, I just wanted to learn about the life first hand.  Every sad-sack sub who had been at the club for years (and I mean YEARS) would want to play.  So I cut my teeth on those per say.  They were a weird group and I was there but not OF them.

I made friends with a few of the dommes there and we tandem-dommed a few times.

One night, at the club, this one domme buddy was sessioning this guy who looked  so serious I wondered if he was even having a good time.  I was just a sitting and watching that night.   The domme had a chair a ways off and evidently told this guy to sit on the floor and wait for her as she went off to do something.. 

I was just looking around the dungeon as people got up to go to the break room for a snack. I noticed that the slave was still sitting, alone by the chair and when I looked at him he looked at me at the same time, shrugged and smiled.  I gave him a sympathetic smile back.  Little did I know he was just staring at my boobs!

A month later, there was an auction to raise funds for the group that I participated in.  He bid on me for the evening and was the high bidder and won.

I checked with the domme that played with him that first night to let her know what was going on and she said..no problem.  He was married and she, being single, didn’t want him anyhow.

Well, I am married also.  I figured another married in the same situation would not pose a threat to the marriage. Neither one of us was looking for another mate, just a play partner.  I included my husband in the negotiations for play and let him express the groundwork that was comfortable for him.

One night while playing with him, he mumbled something.  “What?” I asked as he ususally was pretty stoic during a session. “He repeated..”I want to be yours”.
 
I basically collared him to keep the other subs off my back.  What I didn’t know was that I had a diamond the rough.  
 
We’ve grown old together.  Our play changed with the times to where he is more my valet..but also one of my best friends.

It's now 11 years on going. He is my first and only collar.

< Message edited by LotusSong -- 12/22/2007 1:50:04 PM >

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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 2:10:31 PM   
vampchick88


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Status: offline 		  On 7-7-07 the "luckiest day" of the year I was fortunate enough to get an email from my now cherished slave. Collarme has made me a much happier, more complete Domme than I could have ever imagined. After recieving so many emails and a lot of spammers his username caught my eye. Even after I was a bit distant (not answering his daily emails until every two days or so) but he kept emailing me asking if everything was alright. One day I decided to call him and its a moment I'll always cherish for the rest of my life.

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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 2:38:53 PM   
NovelApproach


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Status: offline 		I met my boy at the University we both attend.  We took a class together and he caught my eye from day one, when he introduced himself and told the class that his hobbies were reading HP Lovecraft, playing RPG's, and cooking.  His favorite dish?  Soylent Green.  I'll never forget the look on his face when the teacher, somewhat confused, asked the class what "soylent green" was and I responded, "Soylent Green is people!"  It wasn't love at first sight, but we did recognize each other as kindred spirits. 

We became pretty good friends that semester, then lost touch for a while.  About a year later, we started catching up again and forged an even stronger connection than before.  Recognizing a powerful sexual attraction in addition to everything else, we arranged what we thought would be a one-time thing.  It wasn't long before we couldn't wait to be alone together, and eventually one of us brought up the subject of BDSM.  I had a strong interest and a little experience, and he'd been curious about what it would be like to be tied up.  That was almost a year ago, and Kitty has been my pet ever since.


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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 3:22:52 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		Holly and I met when we were in high school.  We found rob at a munch shortly before we left the group because of some stupid shit going on.  We've tried with multiple guys here on CM and a few other sites - but none have worked out in the long run so far.

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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 7:38:33 PM   
BoiJen


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Status: offline 		Lol! SlaveKal I remembered and it was a GREAT night! Not to mention a great joke that I nearly ruined. Loved the short description of how you and Ms.M met. Sometimes these wonderful little stories are just great to see.

And for everybody reading SlaveKal is a great stand-up comedian...speaking of...I need to hear something funny.

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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/22/2007 9:20:07 PM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the kind words, but I consider my comedy mediocre at best.  I really hate seeing myself on video.

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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/23/2007 7:41:51 AM   
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< Message edited by MsKittyBlack -- 12/23/2007 7:47:25 AM >

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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/23/2007 7:47:52 AM   
BoiJen


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Status: offline 		Awww Kal! You're great...that was the best birthday party ever! AND you and Ms.M are such wonderful company! Not to mention you gave gifts as well as providing entertainment....who can beat that? (now that's a bad joke!)

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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/23/2007 8:04:39 AM   
pixelslave


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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

Majik and I met here on CM.  She contacted me on the other side following something I'd written on the boards.  We corresponded on CM for a while eventually moving things to IM and telephone, then finally met for the 1st time about 2-1/2 months later.  Now if we could just see each other more frequently than the distance and other commitments we both have currently seem to allow, things could really be great!
 
 - pixel
 
   Collared to Majik



I posted the above with a great deal of trepidation as things have been on rather rocky ground for Majik and I for several months.  It's also why I didn't immediately add to this this thread.  As of last night, we're no longer Mistress and sub.  Out of respect for Majik and being the gentleman I try my best to be, I'll say no more.
 
 - pixel


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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/23/2007 4:12:29 PM   
MistressTaboo


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Status: offline 		I met Dratt at work...he was my boss...We worked in a male dominated industry so be taken seriously as an employee I had to be a bit of a ball buster. He had a lot of reading experience no RL experience...I had some RL experience but not so much as a Domme...more of a switch.

He asked me out and we figured out that we had a lot in common...and never looked back...
Going on 7+ yrs now...married 5 on V-day...


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RE: How did you meet your partner? - 12/23/2007 6:58:31 PM   
undinerising


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Status: offline 		Bit of an odd thing. I met my partner at Goth-Coffee, a weekly event where I used to live. We weren't even into kink then, though. That didn't come up until we started dating my ex, a wonderful woman who's rather submissive and masochistic (a happy arrangement for all concerned, at the time). We met her at a live-action RPG.

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