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Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 3:09:02 AM   
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Friends, i have recently shared my Lifestyle D's reationship and it's ramifications with my family Doctor. My concens were about the effects of my enforced chastity on my sexual health. Am i the only one to do this? or is it common among most of you? Inquiring minds want to know. i thank you in advance for your responses to the question.
 
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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 3:32:50 AM   
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The doctor I used to have was aware. This had some serious side effects that I am hesitant to put at it's feet yet see no other rationale for it.

I am one of those people who can have UTI's and never know. There's relatively little pain. I am also one of those people who could say "UTI" and get one. I've always been this way throughout my entire life. Consequently, I am very very careful about what I do. There are symptoms that I recognize and when they show up, regardless of a lack of pain, head immediately to the doctor's office.

Last year, I spent a lot of time heading to the doctor's office. I'd tell them each and every single time "I have a UTI." They'd ask if there was pain. I'd say no but that it's definitely a UTI. The doctor, not once during all that time asked for a urine sample. Often I asked if I should provide them with one. Every time it was "no, we'll take care of it here." Then, the doctor would do one of his little look-see exams and provide me with a prescription for something to get the flora back in line. Any discussion I had with him about the UTI business was nicely explained away. But I'd try the medication he gave and many of the few symptoms I had would go away - for a time. They always came back though. So, I'd be trekking into the doctor's office  yet again.

Now what was strange about these visits - and I honestly didn't see them as strange at the time, was that each time, he asked "are you still with the same man? Still involved in all that.. other stuff?" And each time, I'd say yes.

At the end of August this year, I was sick - like 104 degree for days kind of sick. When I finally went in to the doctor's office, one of the other physicians in the office saw me. The very FIRST thing he did was to order a urinalysis. Within minutes, it came back as a severe UTI. In fact, he wanted to admit me to the hospital. Unfortunately, I had kids at home and no one available to watch them. He prescribed medication that this time were antibiotics. Even with those, it took me a week to bring my temperature down and two weeks to get back to normal. Evidently, according to this doctor, the UTI had travelled to my kidneys.

I had a lot of time to think during that time. And it occurred to me that the first doctor had always asked his questions as to who I was still seeing at the beginning of our visit. I've gotten the feeling that his level of care was based in large part, on his judgment of my activities. There's certainly no way to prove this, but in talking with a girlfriend of mine who used to have him as a doctor, I heard that she was always leery about him - that something just didn't sit right with her. And when pressed, she said she always felt that how thoroughly he cared for someone seemed to depend on what he thought of them.

Perhaps I should have been more aware. And that's really the point. I'll still tell the next doctor in my life but we're going to have a serious conversation about his abilities to put aside any personal feelings and beliefs in his care of me, and if that's a problem, I'll change physicians immediately. I'll also be demanding a whole lot more than I did with my original doctor. I just never thought I'd have to. Prior to me "coming out" to him about my activities, the level of care I'd received was always top-notch, so I just never conceived of the idea that I'd have to be that way with him or better yet, simply choose another physician.

So... by all means, tell your physician. But keep a close eye after that on how well he seems to be treating you and whatever is going on in your life.

juliet

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 3:40:29 AM   
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I'll be honest, here. I think it's a good idea. I think it's an excellent idea. I haven't been able to bring myself to do it. I'm extremely shy when it comes to discussing certain things with certain people, and I just can't make myself talk to my doctor about my... activities.

I have all the sound logic, but my emotions are rebelling. Bothersome things, eh?

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 3:56:56 AM   
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My Dr is awesome, like her instructions when getting a pap smear are " get on the table and spread 'em" . I feel completely comfortable telling her anything and everything. When I told her I had finally left my ex and got me a new man she actually got up and hugged me.  So while I havent mentioned anything as yet simply because I havent needed to, when I do need to it wont be an issue, of that I am pretty certain

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 4:08:41 AM   
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Juliet, while it is entirely possible that the doctor treated you differently because of your activities, it is also possible that he gave you the same level of care as he would anyone else.  I am surprised that he did not have you pee... seems like EVERY time I go to the doctor for anything that could be remotely related to the female system they have me pee in a cup to check for UTI, pregnancy etc.  There was a time where I was on b/c and NOT sleeping with anyone and they still ran a prego test.  That annoyed me because they did not tell me first and I saw it on my bill.  I think that certain medications recommend (my doctor might say require) those tests before starting.

I have not shared my bdsm activities with my doctor... it has not come up.  I do switch on occasion (I know, not on the profile because it isn't what I'm looking for right now lol) so if I ever had marks I would look them in the eye and tell them.

My bf has an amazing doctor that he loves down near Baltimore.  He met the guy at a bdsm function where he was giving a lecture on safety in playing with something or another.  He told me once but I've since forgotten.  Not having to keep things a secret makes it easier to seek treatment when needed and fully disclose things.

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 4:33:26 AM   
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I haven't discussed anything with my doctor.  I'm not into chastity because I've heard from multiple sources that frequent ejaculation is good for prostate health.  On top of that, Mistress wants me to have a healthy prostate, so She already told me that She is gonna get the juices flowing on a very regular occasion...LOL

On a serious note, while playing sports, I've seperated both shoulders on multiple occasions, rotator cuff problems and damaged cartilage in those shoulders, slightly torn knee ligaments, and tendonitis in my knees and hands.  Based on my problems, I know my limits and am very cautious in things that could do great bodily harm like improper suspension bondage.  At the same time, I know what my body can handle and take.  There are some things I'm willing to push or expend limits on, there are others that I just physically cannot.

If you feel you need expert medical advice before embarking on a strenuous play session or commitment, then I applaud you for taking that level of precaution.  Besides, your dominant can't play with a toy if it's broken! 

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 4:34:17 AM   
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I don't often see my doctor (once in the past year), but I see the nurse about once a month. I had to come clean to her recently due to some fantastic bruising. She took it well, asked some questions, then moved on. I've seen her since and it's like I never told her.

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 5:15:47 AM   
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my Psychiatrist is definitely in the know about my kink side ...He is, btw, my Daddy and He doesn't treat me like His daughter during our counseling sessions.  

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 5:17:54 AM   
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Play for us is bondage and mild, so no reason to talk to the doctor. If I had a rope bruise when I went to see him I would mention it but since I bruise easily anyway he never asks about odd marks.

The person I did first come out to was my therapist. She needs to know. She thinks this is an excellent way for me to handle stress, and she thinks I'm doing great with him.

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 5:55:17 AM   
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I have one family member aware of what we do, and I intend to tell my gyno next visit.

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 6:24:21 AM   
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since i got back into my kink i came clean immediatly with all of my physicians. one of them made a comment that as long as the bruising wasnt severe....lol.....i had to correct her on that notion with a quickness:) they all seem to take it in stride and i still recieve the same excellent care that i did before i told them

forgive me if i am missing something here. enforced chasity.....is still being chaste right? if it is well i have gone almost two years without anything sexual. didnt seem to screw anything up on me.

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 6:37:30 AM   
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the only thing drs are aware of when it come to what my Lord,Mistress and i do together is if it is something that triggers my seizures.other than that,none of us see any reason to keep any drs infomred of anything of what our relations are.



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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 6:40:26 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: alittlebent

Friends, i have recently shared my Lifestyle D's reationship and it's ramifications with my family Doctor. My concens were about the effects of my enforced chastity on my sexual health. Am i the only one to do this? or is it common among most of you? Inquiring minds want to know. i thank you in advance for your responses to the question.
 
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My doctors were aware the very first time I ended up in the hospital.  They actually took it very well .

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 8:04:48 AM   
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the only reason this slave endures doctor visits is because that is the only way to complete the presciption process for necessary medications, routine physicals, in the case of emergencies or to set up a surgical procedure.  none of those things have anything to do with this slave's relationship with Master.
 
this slave does not seek out a medical doctor's or therapists advice or expertise regarding intimate relationships she is a part of.

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 9:42:13 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

my Psychiatrist is definitely in the know about my kink side ...He is, btw, my Daddy and He doesn't treat me like His daughter during our counseling sessions.  


Wow.  How to say this without sounding snarky... I hope you are worth the risk of losing his license.  If the licensing board found out, he would be looking at putting his license into probation, which would mean likely suspension from all the major insurance panels he is on, which would affect all of his other patients.  His practice would be overseen by another Pyschiatrist to make sure he does not continue these unethical practices.  If he did not shape up immediately he would probably lose his license completely and be looking at changing professions. 

Seriously.  Just.  Freaking.  WOW.

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 9:50:47 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

my Psychiatrist is definitely in the know about my kink side ...He is, btw, my Daddy and He doesn't treat me like His daughter during our counseling sessions.  


Wow.  How to say this without sounding snarky... I hope you are worth the risk of losing his license.  If the licensing board found out, he would be looking at putting his license into probation, which would mean likely suspension from all the major insurance panels he is on, which would affect all of his other patients.  His practice would be overseen by another Pyschiatrist to make sure he does not continue these unethical practices.  If he did not shape up immediately he would probably lose his license completely and be looking at changing professions. 

Seriously.  Just.  Freaking.  WOW.

Cali



wow is right. I am fairly shocked by that. I never knew he was your shrink professionally. talk about conflict of interests.

to answer the OP: I have had some fairly judgemental therapists in my time who said I should NOT be INTO BDSM, so they were dropped instantly.

as for medical professionals, I mentioned it at times when asked about bruises and once when I had a rotator cuff problem the orthopedist kept saying, you are not pitching for the Yankees, are you? and I said, no, my arms were tied behind my back for too long. He turned bright red.

another time I was in the hospital for an emergency relating to play and never admitted what is was from. did not want to deal with judgements.

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 9:53:42 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

the only reason this slave endures doctor visits is because that is the only way to complete the presciption process for necessary medications, routine physicals, in the case of emergencies or to set up a surgical procedure.  none of those things have anything to do with this slave's relationship with Master.
 
this slave does not seek out a medical doctor's or therapists advice or expertise regarding intimate relationships she is a part of.


That may work well for you, and I am sure it would work well for many, but some of us do things that are more edgy than others of us.... things that could be detected when we go in for a physical... like bruises all over our backside, bruises on our thighs, bruises on our arms... and these bruises could be misconstrued as proof of domestic violence. As a family member of mine found out, all it takes is one doctor to make a report of that and your mate is sitting in the pokey (depending on state law, which in Calfornia they do not need the "victim's" testimony to press these charges... they did not need hers, and her husband spent 6 months in jail. Yes he was guilt of choking her until she passed out, but the point is that they did not need her testimony to arrest him and prosecute him).

I think it is rather wise to go on the record if one is a masochist that likes to get marked up, like I do... not necessary most likely, but it is rather a good idea that the medical professionals be aware of one's kink before jumping to the wrong conclusion and making a terrible mistake. I also do not care what my doctors think about my sex life, I hire them to treat me, but I do not want them making false accusations either...

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 9:55:36 AM   
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Daddy is a professional when we have counseling sessions together to help me overcome my feelings about my oldest's train accident.

i don't understand why He would be under supervision and/or lose His license ...then again, you don't understand nor comprehend the nature of our Daddydaughter relationship which is totally separate from Doctor-patient relationship.

if you're thinking He's spanking me while in sessions, then you need to get your head out the gutter, dearie.

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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 9:58:21 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

Daddy is a professional when we have counseling sessions together to help me overcome my feelings about my oldest's train accident.

i don't understand why He would be under supervision and/or lose His license ...then again, you don't understand nor comprehend the nature of our Daddydaughter relationship which is totally separate from Doctor-patient relationship.

if you're thinking He's spanking me while in sessions, then you need to get your head out the gutter, dearie.


My head is not in the gutter DEARIE.  You do not counsel someone that you have ANY other intimate, emotional or family relationship with.  If he is your DADDY in any sense of the word, there is an emotional relationship.  It is unethical.  I don't have to understand the EXACT nature of your relationship.  The fact that you have one outside of counseling is enough.

And frankly, he KNOWS this.  He is required to know this. 

Cali


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RE: Are your Doctors in the Know? - 12/21/2007 10:01:54 AM   
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Well he obviously must have absolute trust in her to open himself up to a relationship with her.  How do we know whether they met first and because he is a psychiatrist they then decided she could benefit from some counseling and begane that relationship second.  Personally i don't think for me a counseling relationship would work if i were in anyway involved with the person, but heck if my dom were a chiropractor i would damn well allow him to manipulate my spine lol, or a dentist work on my teeth, etc. 

[edited to add]  i go to a kink friendly therapist as i want to be able to talk about anything i want and not feel like i will be judged or "treated" for my "sickness". As for my family doctor - no he doesn't know  - there is no reason.  If i am going for a check up or procedure i simply won't allow myself to get all bruised up for that time frame.

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