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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 2:05:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		why?  because i can.  because i like it.  because i love seeing his red backside and watching his reactions.  because he needs me.  because of that little smile as he's drifting off, replaying things in his mind, whispering "mmmmmmmm what you do to me!"  me?  enjoy a power trip?  heavens no! 

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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 2:18:58 PM   
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So a post like yours - intial posting where no one 'knows' you or has grown to know your perceptions and ethics - it can come across in two different ways.  One is slightly smug - look what I can do and how it makes me feel kind of smug.  Another way is it comes across as quite frankly - wank fodder. 

 
Hiyas and stuff dark,
I saw his post in a 3rd way. I saw it as a guy who was moved enough by an experience that he was motivated to write about it and share it with "the world". I don't know, maybe I'm feeling kind of sappy but I thought it was sweet. I was thinking that I'd be tickled if a partner of mine wrote of me that way. And I swear, I have not even touched the Egg Nog yet.



Heck I seen  and took it the same way as Erin,  this summer I was at a public venue and their was a couple scene,  emotions between the 2 was absolutely  fanastic to watch and very, very  intense, heck just watching them had me twisted up and  had me dreaming if was me and my former dom up there scening  and I have never done public sceneing  but I really got caught up in just watching the emotions of both of them.   


And I  cannot even understand why you attack him like you did 
Sexyred   just reading  my first thoughts was that you were having a mega PMS day, IMO  was totally uncalled for


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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 2:31:58 PM   
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Well maybe I'm just weird or something but if I am with a partner that I am committed to I could find that kind of connection in the middle of Times Square at 5 minutes to 12 on New Year's Eve. When the connection gets made there are only 2 people on the whole planet to me, everyone else ceases to exist.


Ditto that, Erin, I agree.  I think it's awesome when people have great connections like that.

To answer the OP's "Why do you?" question - because the way I'm living now is what I had been craving for most of my life, and the fulfillment I have found in being able to love and express myself the way I finally can is unlike anything I've experienced before. 


My sentiments as well.  I have posted things that may be considered mushy or sappy or whatever, but they are my feelings, and the opinions of others don't really faze me.  I found his post to be endearing and sweet and I could relate from the sub's position.  I liked reading how a person sees it from the Top because I haven't felt that and can only rely on these kinds of descriptions.  So, thank you for sharing that as I enjoyed that perspective.

I have had public scenes that took me to the edge of myself, one of the deepest subspace moments in my life.  I think the fact that is public only heightens it for me because I like that sort of thing.  Private play has never gotten me to that same level.  I can tune out much in a crazy, noisy setting, and the thought that someone else might be watching Daddy and I scene makes things that much more incredible.

As to the why...  well, I love the way this relationship has been unlike any other I've had and the fact that Daddy can take me to places physically that I didn't know existed before him, well, that's just the icing on top. 

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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 2:37:33 PM   
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So a post like yours - intial posting where no one 'knows' you or has grown to know your perceptions and ethics - it can come across in two different ways.  One is slightly smug - look what I can do and how it makes me feel kind of smug.  Another way is it comes across as quite frankly - wank fodder. 

 
Hiyas and stuff dark,
I saw his post in a 3rd way. I saw it as a guy who was moved enough by an experience that he was motivated to write about it and share it with "the world". I don't know, maybe I'm feeling kind of sappy but I thought it was sweet. I was thinking that I'd be tickled if a partner of mine wrote of me that way. And I swear, I have not even touched the Egg Nog yet.



Heck I seen  and took it the same way as Erin,  this summer I was at a public venue and their was a couple scene,  emotions between the 2 was absolutely  fanastic to watch and very, very  intense, heck just watching them had me twisted up and  had me dreaming if was me and my former dom up there scening  and I have never done public sceneing  but I really got caught up in just watching the emotions of both of them.   


And I  cannot even understand why you attack him like you did 
Sexyred   just reading  my first thoughts was that you were having a mega PMS day, IMO  was totally uncalled for



A. I did not attack him. If you saw my right to express my opinion as an attack, that is your concern, not mine. Try reading all the posts before you give your opinion. Show me one word where I attacked the OP.

B. I am not having a bad day, PMS or otherwise, and how creative of you to even suggest that might be the reason for me being able to express my own opinion. In fact I am in quite a good mood and looking forward to having my own, private scene tonight.

But again, I guess I must be quite as highly evolved as you other subs, ya know, cause I don't share my deep connection with my partner in front of others. 


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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 3:02:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		I liked what you wrote, Beuford.  We all have differing opinions.  I only speak for myself...   

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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 3:08:43 PM   
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I liked what you wrote, Beuford.  We all have differing opinions.  I only speak for myself...   

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Thank you Daddysredhead, It's sad that some can't see a Dom thats honored by his Submissive enough to write about it. I do feel bad for her.

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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 3:25:25 PM   
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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 3:33:38 PM   
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Ok folks, enough.

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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 3:53:52 PM   
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Thank you Daddysredhead, It's sad that some can't see a Dom thats honored by his Submissive enough to write about it. I do feel bad for her.


I just felt compelled hey to write something here.
The 'her' you are refering to has been incredibly supportive of the relationship between Darcy and I and has been very receptive to my Masters loving posts on our relationship that he has written and shared and I know he, as well as I appriciate her forthright approach.  So you make a suggestion that isn't entirely true.
Each relationship is unique and I just wanted to post how another couples perception can be totally different.
 
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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 3:57:57 PM   
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Thank you Daddysredhead, It's sad that some can't see a Dom thats honored by his Submissive enough to write about it. I do feel bad for her.


I just felt compelled hey to write something here.
The 'her' you are refering to has been incredibly supportive of the relationship between Darcy and I and has been very receptive to my Masters loving posts on our relationship that he has written and shared and I know he, as well as I appriciate her forthright approach.  So you make a suggestion that isn't entirely true.
Each relationship is unique and I just wanted to post how another couples perception can be totally different.
 
the.dark.



Yes your right supporting a friend. We all have the right to our own opions. I can only judge by what I see, including the things which were said here today.

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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 4:10:21 PM   
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Yes your right supporting a friend. We all have the right to our own opions. I can only judge by what I see, including the things which were said here today.



I do appriciate you can only take things on face value as they occur.  However -  I will also add - so can I.  And everyone else.
And some, are indeed, more vocal than others.  And I, with Darcys' full support, tend to be one of them.
It isn't as simple as 'supporting a friend'.  I will offer alternatives on any situation and can see very clearly how you have tried to manipulate my words and posting by suggesting red is my friend.  Now - and I am sure Red will not mind me when I say this - I don't really know her.  I have never met her.  I have never even exchanged one simple email with her here - not as I have with other posters here.  So yes - I find her a perceptive and lovely person.  But would appriciate it if you did not try and manipulate my words by suggesting there is more of a friendship between us than there actually is - even if that is what you perceived by the few words you found here.
 
My words are always honest.  And always unbiased(savewhentheyareofDarcyandmyself).  Friend or not.
 
And THAT is 'why I do'.  Because being oneself is freeing - and refreshing.  Whether you agree with someone or not.
 
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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 4:16:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have never questioned your honesty Dark. And your words about her support to you were yours, not mine. Your posts have been clear and though we may not agree, I repect you and listen to all you say. And I thank you now as I did before for your comments and thoughts. 

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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 4:21:56 PM   
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Yes your right supporting a friend. We all have the right to our own opions. I can only judge by what I see, including the things which were said here today.



I do appriciate you can only take things on face value as they occur.  However -  I will also add - so can I.  And everyone else.
And some, are indeed, more vocal than others.  And I, with Darcys' full support, tend to be one of them.
It isn't as simple as 'supporting a friend'.  I will offer alternatives on any situation and can see very clearly how you have tried to manipulate my words and posting by suggesting red is my friend.  Now - and I am sure Red will not mind me when I say this - I don't really know her.  I have never met her.  I have never even exchanged one simple email with her here - not as I have with other posters here.  So yes - I find her a perceptive and lovely person.  But would appriciate it if you did not try and manipulate my words by suggesting there is more of a friendship between us than there actually is - even if that is what you perceived by the few words you found here.
 
My words are always honest.  And always unbiased(savewhentheyareofDarcyandmyself).  Friend or not.
 
And THAT is 'why I do'.  Because being oneself is freeing - and refreshing.  Whether you agree with someone or not.
 
the.dark. 

 
No I do not mind dark. I appreciate you taking the time out for this post, it means a great deal to me.

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RE: Why do you? - 12/21/2007 8:17:55 PM   
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RE: Why do you? - 12/22/2007 4:47:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		I did not find this to be fantasy at all, for it sounds like what happens when my Daddy and I play.... thanks for sharing that Beuford

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RE: Why do you? - 12/22/2007 5:09:08 PM   
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I will still disagree that what you found was perfection. Perfection by definition is flawless. Completeness.


By this definition, half way through my life, I have begun to see it as flawless and complete. I may not feel that way every moment of every day, there maybe things I could, would and will change, but I feel my life, my relationships, and myself stand alone... complete and perfect, even when I have thought it was not.

I remember the first day I met Sinergy and we were in his car riding along, and we were holding hands, and the sun was shining just right.... and I said "This feels like almost the perfect date"... and he said "It is a perfect date, a perfect day, everything is perfect just the way it is"... it took me a long time to understand that he was really right about that...

On Halloween we played for hours, and I was so deeply in subspace, and I kept mumbling about how perfect it was and how I never wanted it to end... I wanted to freeze that perfect moment... the perfect moments are all that we have... and I treasure each of them right as  they happen...

I am so loving life!


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RE: Why do you? - 12/22/2007 6:00:24 PM   
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I will still disagree that what you found was perfection. Perfection by definition is flawless. Completeness.


By this definition, half way through my life, I have begun to see it as flawless and complete. I may not feel that way every moment of every day, there maybe things I could, would and will change, but I feel my life, my relationships, and myself stand alone... complete and perfect, even when I have thought it was not.

I remember the first day I met Sinergy and we were in his car riding along, and we were holding hands, and the sun was shining just right.... and I said "This feels like almost the perfect date"... and he said "It is a perfect date, a perfect day, everything is perfect just the way it is"... it took me a long time to understand that he was really right about that...

On Halloween we played for hours, and I was so deeply in subspace, and I kept mumbling about how perfect it was and how I never wanted it to end... I wanted to freeze that perfect moment... the perfect moments are all that we have... and I treasure each of them right as  they happen...

I am so loving life!




Thanks for the kind words Juliaceania. Sometimes I think it's so much easy to share bad experiences then good ones. It's nice to know some people are happy :)

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RE: Why do you? - 12/22/2007 6:11:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		OP I found your posting interesting and am glad to see you are happy.

Why do I personally participate in BDSM?  As a switch from the submissive side it may seem dismissive but I can't think of any clear reason other than it is part of who I am.  From the D side, it is incredibly mentally stimulating to me to control another and be able to gauge and even change their reactions.

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RE: Why do you? - 12/22/2007 6:15:25 PM   
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Right, I am SO hot for him. I want to experience twue intimacy in a public setting and I want to learn that there is more to BDSM than just sex...please teach me not to be shallow anymore!!!




and here i had hopes sexyred would jump fence for me....

kitten, sadly sighing

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RE: Why do you? - 12/22/2007 6:17:11 PM   
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OP I found your posting interesting and am glad to see you are happy.

Why do I personally participate in BDSM?  As a switch from the submissive side it may seem dismissive but I can't think of any clear reason other than it is part of who I am.  From the D side, it is incredibly mentally stimulating to me to control another and be able to gauge and even change their reactions.


Yes the controll is great to experience! Useing a varity of stimulie to alter the reactions and steering the scene to it's conclusion is very empowering.

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