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emotions, hormones - whatever? - 12/21/2007 8:13:00 AM

TeachMeToLive

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hello everyone

i feel weird. well thats not such an unsual thing but i definately feel a different type of weird today... hmmm this is more difficult than i thought. i'll start at the beginning.

two days ago i had a wonderfully intense sexual 'experience' with a Dom. i didn't come down from that high at all that day and the 'up' feeling carried on the next day. Suddenly i'm sitting here and i feel like i want to cry! i feel restless, slightly anxious, guilty even. He's constantly in my head (has been for a while) but i feel like i can't focus at all right now.

my question is this (yes there was actually a point to the rambling): Is this 'normal'? ugh what is 'normal' anyway? What i mean is - does this happen occassionally? inexperience showing here i know but i'd love some input.

thanx in advance :)

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RE: emotions, hormones - whatever? - 12/21/2007 8:20:41 AM

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It sounds like sub drop

you can access a bunch of threads from here

http://www.collarchat.com/searchpro.asp?phrase=sub+drop&author=&forumid=ALL&topicreply=both&message=body&timeframe=%3E&timefilter=0&language=single&top=300&criteria=AND&minRank=0&sortMethod=r&submitbutton=+OK+

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RE: emotions, hormones - whatever? - 12/21/2007 8:21:16 AM

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Well, it all depends. If you are involved with him in a relationship, it could just be sub drop or scene drop, a normal reaction from the adrenaline that is experienced during a particularly tasty experience. The good feelings are like an opiate and they can last for a few days; that happens to me as well and I am very experienced. :)

Or, if this is a new person in your life, you could be confused or concerned or thinking about them and wondering what is going to happen with them, etc. I don't have enough info from you to make an educated guess here, but as for what is "normal", there is no definition, only what is normal for YOU.

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RE: emotions, hormones - whatever? - 12/21/2007 8:27:19 AM

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TeachMe,

Yes, it is absolutely normal for me.

When I experience the kind of intense, positive emotion that often happen during, and after that kind of 'experience,' there is often an emotional 'backlash' of sadness and a sort of 'numbness'. The 'backlash' can be short, only a few hours or a bit longer, lasting a few days; depending on the intesity of emotions.

For me, it happens every time to varying degrees.

It's not uncommon, it's likely what many call 'sub drop' and if you search here you will find many many others expressing the same or similar feelings.

I don't know how LA does all the links in her posts, so all I can suggest is to use the search function on the site.

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RE: emotions, hormones - whatever? - 12/21/2007 8:33:28 AM

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You said it is only a day. Mmmm lots of inexperience showing. It should have lasted a week.

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RE: emotions, hormones - whatever? - 12/21/2007 9:45:43 AM

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This drop is not exclusive to BDSM, as I've seen a similar drop when non-kinky people experience something very intense and exciting, especially when it is sexually related, but given how intense BDSM can be, sub-drop is very common.

As for it not lasting for a week because of a lack of experience, I don't know about that... in my experience, sub-drop generally happens after a day or two.

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RE: emotions, hormones - whatever? - 12/21/2007 11:43:35 AM

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just to add what others have said...don't be discouraged by the drop, it can lessen as time goes on and you become more experienced.

it's worth the time to check out the link and do your own search. there's lots of good advice on how to prevent sub drop and help insure you are in a good physical state before scening.

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RE: emotions, hormones - whatever? - 12/21/2007 1:44:30 PM

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Welcome to the forums TMTL.

I am a fairly even keeled person (most of the time). I have my moods, but they are not what I would call extreme highs or lows for the every day. Almost inevitably when I do experience euphoria, there is a drop at some point afterwards. For every high there is a low, I figure it's natures way of balancing me out again. It will pass :)

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RE: emotions, hormones - whatever? - 12/21/2007 1:59:22 PM

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sub drop, the natural stresses of everyday life, especially near the holiday season, it all adds in to make things sometimes a little more intense than we expect. you'll pull out of it. discuss this with your Dom, he may need to adjust his after care a little to help you thru. you'll get more used to it as time goes by and you'll find your own ways to cope.

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RE: emotions, hormones - whatever? - 12/21/2007 2:30:26 PM

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greetings teachmetolive,

yes, this is normal. we all experience emotional ups, downs, and such, especially as "sub drop" and emotionally overwhelming experiences during/after intense play and things like that. it can also make us more vulnerable to emotional issues and stresses in everyday life. personally i try to take more time out for myself, take things slowly, make sure i'm eating and taking in enough water, and if i can, take some time to rest or do something relaxing. hope you are doing okay.

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RE: emotions, hormones - whatever? - 12/21/2007 2:53:52 PM

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The more intense the scene, the more you use up body and brain chemicals, the longer to get back to normal levels.

And the holidays aren't helping. At this time of year, we're overstressed, burning the candles at both ends, not eating properly, dehydrated etc.

Sub drop is a pain, nap, drink a lot of water, take naps, talk to the dom if possible. Some people find chocolate helps, others say going to the gym works best for them.

And in future, don't play if you haven't gotten a full night's sleep, eaten a healthy meal, drunk enough water. Simple things that have a huge effect.

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