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pixelslave -> RE: When your dom is disspapointed in you (male) (12/25/2007 7:31:46 PM)
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I think the answer to your question depends on why I've disappointed my Mistress as to how I'd feel. Was it because of a failure to communicate between us? Did I not understand her desires or did she not communicate them to me in a way that "I'd get it"? Regardles, I'd still be disappointed in myself that I'd not pleased her, but the degree would vary with the reason. Was I delayed by a traffic jam or an auto accident? Did something happen with my kids, whom she would know and understand must come first in an emergency, that prevented me from doing as she wished? The list of reasons for not pleasing her without being specific to a situation are endless. The bottom line is that I'm only human, as is she. As such, there may be reasons beyond my control for not pleasing her. [&:]
There often is much to learn when a disappointment happens by sitting down and discussing it, which I'd expect we would do. How could her disappointment have been prevented? How could she have better set me up for success to please her? How could her needs have been communicated to me differently? Is there a way I could have pleased her differently which would have have produced the same results for her? IOW, the two of us can sit down and think outside of the box and look at the situation along with all the possibilities for handling it differently in the future. We can choose to learn from the experience, thus improving our relationship in the process. It doesn't have to be a totally negative experience that some would turn it into. [:D]
- pixel
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